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writes:why does it hurt the first time you have sex?how do you know your ready?how do know when the right time is?how do you know he's ready, and not doing it to make you happy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danii-N-Dale  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Listen to livelife he has gave some really good advise
so i would advise you to take in what he said and it should help you alot
-Danielle xx
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reader, Livelife +, writes (13 May 2009):
Sex hurts the first time for many people because of the tearing of the hymen, however some girls have already torn theirs through intense sports, using tampons, and others are born without one. It also can hurt if the girl is not relaxed and aroused because then your body is not prepared in the way it's supposed to be for sex.You will know you are ready when you know you are. I know that seems stupid, but it's true. When you don't feel the need to question if you're making the right choice, you are more than likely ready. The right time is when you're with someone it will be meaningful with, you don't want to give that away to just anyone.Obviously I can't convince you to wait, it's your decision, but I strongly encourage you to wait if you are considering it right now because you seem to have a lot of doubts and uncertainty. To me, this means you're not quite ready yet.If you are with a man who will look out for your happiness and making sure that you're ready as well, that's a good thing. But make sure that you talk about it first, ask if he feels ready and feels it is the right choice. If you feel like he just wants to do it because it's only what he wants and not what you want, then don't do it. You should never be pressured into sex. Hopefully this is helpful, if you have more questions you can always message me or any of the other responders on here anytime. Good luck with everything, and be wise in your decisions.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (13 May 2009):
 hun you'll just know when you're ready.but don't rush these things take time to enjoy a relationship and get to know eachother better.boys are always ready!!doesn't always hurt it hurts for girls because we have a hymen which can be broke by horse riding other sports and activities so won't always hurt.first time will probably be uncomfortable because well lets face it your not used to have something like that within you.but don't rush things live your life and when you are ready which you will just know and know that the person you're with respects you enough to wait for you to be ready it'll be al the better.but definately use protection due to accidental pregnancies and also std's and all sorts, so it does come with a price but don't risk that definately use protection.Hope this helps.
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reader, stellar25 +, writes (13 May 2009):
Make sure that you dont rush into having sex. I was the last of my friends to have sex so I rushed into it to not be left out of the group. sex did hurt for the first time for me. Make sure that you are relaxed and that you go easy to avoid any pain. In a relationship you never really know the right time unless you talk about your thoughts about it and to have your partner on the same page as you. Just make sure not to rush, enjoy it, and a good relationship with your partner.
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reader, heinzbadz  +, writes (13 May 2009):
i gez Sex for the first time only hurts when done against the will of a woman or there was no feeling of wants yet. However, sex is very much exciting when both parties want it. A girl can hardly feel the hymen breaks (although in some case there is a bit of pain) - because of much fluid coming out from her -that i gez it lubricates the passage for the penis.
Being ready?- it depends on the situation and ur mind set. But in physical terms- ahh as long as u feel ur body wants it- then u are ready.
Right time? of course when both are ready to take the consequences and situations are both ok and stable.
Is he ready? Man is making these for both of you to be happy. of course, he wants to show to you in some way, that he is the only one who can make and give that kind of satisfaction to you.
Talk to yourself if u are really ready to show off urself to a man. Just be sure for u its not for a play. Man will take u in regards the way u take care of ursel.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Not always, but most of the time sex hurts the first time for a female cause that's when her hymen tears (the hymen kind of protects the vaginal hole). Sometimes there's bleeding and sometimes there's some discomfort but not for all females. If you've played a sport or done any other strenuous activity, it may not hurt.You're ready when you truly love the other person and you're ready to face the consequences that comes with sex. Sex is not just fun and games - it's a huge responsibility: pregnancy, STDs and other diseases, emotions, etc. Going by your age, trust me - you may have someone in mind as you posted this question, but you are definitely not ready for sex. Your body is still growing and maturing. That part also answers the question of when you know you're ready.You know he's ready when he loves you and wants to put your needs first ahead of his. These guys that go in, stick it in right away, then leave right away do not love the woman. A man who truly loves his girl will please her and put her needs ahead of his own wants and needs.Hope that answers your question, but like I said earlier, you're much too young to have sex.
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