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writes:I Have a small confession. I am only 13 and i was at my friend's party and they started watching adult porn and i really enjoyed it ..i don't know why. Does it mean I'm a lesbian because i like to watch girls have sex???
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reader, natalieejanex  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 "if you are aroused by women, it would mean you're at least bisexual." this statement is untrue. sex nor does porn determine someone's sexuality just because it turns you on. you are born a certain way, and porn doesn't change it! you will know if you are bi or a lesbian if you begin to have emotional feelings towards the same gender, if you cannot see yourself in a loving, sexual relationship with the same gender then you are straight. most people who are bi, no offence, are only in it for the sex. don't get your feelings all confused and mixed up. experiment and play around in the future, its the only way of clearly knowing. for now, get to know your own body and what gets you off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): While I wouldn't be sure about the wisdom of watching porn at 13, it's probably no harm if you enjoy it. As for your sexuality, that should become apparent to you soon enough - if you are aroused by women, it would mean you're at least bisexual. Note that the scientific study quoted by anonymous male poster isn't 100% accurate. I'm as gay as it gets, but me and my boyfriend love to watch guy-on-girl porn (though I'm frequently a tranny and that might have a lot to do with it!)
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reader, poppie-lovey  +, writes (12 June 2009):
It doesnt make you a lesbian and watching porn is absaloutley fine, am 16 and am a lesbian and watch porn i dont think theres anythin wrong with it xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): dont worry a lot of girls watch lesbien porn it doesnt mean anything x
and you only 13 you wont know if your a lesbien i mean i am 14 and i dot know weather i am by,streight or lesbien so dont worry ok and even if you were a lesbien is that really a bad thing? no its not dont worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I think heterosexual women are less homophobic than heterosexual men. That is why you are able to enjoy girl-on-girl porn. Only when you want to do something with a girl in real life, you are a lesbian.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I watched porn when i was 13 im fine. Note it is the WOMEN here saying crap like porn is bad for you at your age. Rubbish! Porn is a turn on! I mean surely you will all agree watching and fantisizing or masturbating is better than kids having sex itself.not that sex is bad either. .
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Not to scare you, but being exposed to porn at a young age is one of the things that can eventually lead to sexual addiction. Your mind is still at a very impressionable age and it will develop a desire to do some of the things you see in porn, this can lead you now a very dissapointing and heartbreaking path. Sex is not meant to be done in such a meaningless way, it would be a shame for you to learn this the hard way. Women in particular are hurt when used for sex. Please be careful with this toxic information you are ingesting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): from a guy...
You are fine.
A large research study was recently published about sexual propensities. The study group consisted of heterosexual and homosexual males and females. They were individually shown porn scenes of: men with men, women with women, men with women.
The results were:
Heterosexual males liked: men with women, women with women
Homosexual males liked: men with men
Heterosexual females liked: men with women, women with women
Homosexual females liked: women with women
This was not based on just surveys of the subjects. Electronic monitors were attached to their sexual parts to detect sexual arousal and prevent lying by subjects.
So there you go. Trust science before you trust another teen or even the all-knowing internet or some magazine. Whether society approves or not, those are the cold, hard, scientific facts.
But just like anything else, do not become addicted to anything including porn. You run your life, not some slutty losers on a copied DVD.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): The reason you enjoy watching porn is because you are human. We humans like to see other humans having sex. There are those that would arque with me when it comes to watching porn, but the truth is it turns most of us on. As for being a lesbian, that is doubtful. Most women are curious about the touch of another woman, also known as being BI-curious. But getting turned on watching girl/girl porn doesn't make you a lesbian. When you see a girl at the mall or on the street, do you find yourself sexually attracted to them ? Probably not. No doubt you would probably get excited watching a video about a couple having sex too.
You're fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I am 39 and have found out over so many years that watching(not in person) girls have oral sex with each other is a really big turn-on to me. I can almost have an orgasm instantly. I know I am not gay nor would I ever have enough desire to 'cross the line' to have sex with another woman. I sometimes even fantasize that another woman is having oral sex with me when my boyfriend is doing it to me but I will always leave it at that and be happy with it. I hate to see you getting those images in your mind this young but just don't 'cross the line'. I strongly believe being gay/bisexual is a choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): It is a bad habit, yes. You need to try and stop right now. Not only is it illegal, it's doing you damage that you can't really understand right now. I, too, was exposed to a lot of porn when I was younger and I regret it. Of course you are aroused when watching it, most people are when they watch porn, but it doesn't mean you should watch it. You sound like you know it's not healthy at your age so try and steer clear of these people...
As for the girl on girl porn, don't worry about it. Women get turned on by watching anything that is sexual, it doesn't have to be hetero. Just take care of yourself and be patient, you will have lots of time to explore as you get older...
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reader, Livelife +, writes (8 June 2009):
It doesn't mean that you're a lesbian. Personaly, I don't think watching porn has to be a big problem, just be very careful. You're still really young, and you don't want to get hooked on things like that, or get involved with things like that yet either. I hope things work out though, but I don't think you have to feel bad about enjoying watching it at the party. Other people will have good advice, if you have any other questions, just message anyone, we'll be glad to listen.
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