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writes:we have a creepy new teacher cause the original lady left on pregnancy leave. ok. now ill admit i look a little mature for my age (long bleach blonde and black hair, make-up and a Monroe piercing) but in no way was i provoking this guy. he told me i looked like trouble, that i need to be a good girl, how he watches sex and the city and how every guy wants a girl like Miranda, how i could trust him cause hes a detective, he likes my piercing cause " Marilyn was a sex kitten who'd sleep with anybody", asking me if i had a "hot date" that night. he's like in his 30's and I'm only 13. What do i do next time i see him? Reply to this Question
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (22 April 2009):
Report it; IMMEDIATELY. Trust me i've been in a situation possibly not the same but similar - however i had feelings for the teacher in question and did nothing. It progressed and escallated. Often if they think they can get away with it, it carries on. If you prefer, next time he says something like that tell him you'd prefer he didnt say things like that because it makes you feel uncomfortable. If it continues then report it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): ok, now I'm a teen myself. And maybe us teens r "hormonal". Yet its also known that whatever underlying feeling you get from someone after a long time is usually your gut truth, no matter the age.
Yes, I've had an experience with a sub that was creepy. He would walk behind the girls and literally breath down your neck to check you out. Thankfully one of my friends reported this man so he can't go back to my old middle school.
What truly grown man in there right mind would tell a 13 year old girl that they should be a "Pin-Up" or even bring up any sex matter unless they teach a class on it??
Report this to your school and parents. It sounds the more time you stall, the more he harasses you. If you think about it, the more time we give any perpitrator, the more they do w/e because they feel the entitlment of control.
Voice your fears to your parents first though. They can set up a meeting with the school officals and this "unqiue" sub to dicuss the prob.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): if you are uncomfortable around you and he makes snide/"cute"/sexual comments then please report him. plse be careful he may be vindictive if he is reprimanded.only you know the real situation so please do not actively seek him out.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 I think that some teachers are unfairly accused, or slandered, and our society has gotten overly PC.
On the other hand, there are some creepy teachers out there (I'm NOT one of them).
I studied guitar but I was so wrapped up in it, that I wouldn't have noticed if someone HAD ogled me... if a pervert painted itself purple and danced naked on top of a piano singing, "perverts are here again," I would have been oblivious... that's how obsessed I am with the guitar lol.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Then tell the Principal at your school. You must not be all that creeped out if you let him get away saying stuff like that, eh?
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (15 April 2009):
 tell your guidance counsler or whoever you can talk to in the school. this guy sounds like trouble.
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reader, Candy_Cake_Mush +, writes (15 April 2009):
Candy_Cake_Mush is verified as being by the original poster of the questionah see, now 2 people implied that i am being hormonal, paranoid or what have you. and that's precisely the reason why i haven't said anything. but other students are noticing hm doing it to me too. one boy said "Hes trying to tame you. like a lion" and we had extra time in class so me and my friend were doing M.A.S.H and when it came to what job i wanted, the teacher found it appropriate to voice his opinion and say "Pin-Up girl".
Hes weird!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): On the other side of the coin, sometimes words and actions can be misconstrued, and I'm getting the feeling that there could be some exaggeration in your question. My granddaughter, aged 13 at the time, was having music lessons after school hours whilst learning to play the clarinet. She told her mother that she felt uneasy with this particular male teacher because of the way he was ogling her and looking her up and down, and my daughter asked if I would accompany her to one of these lessons. Yes, he was looking up and down alright, but he wasn't ogling her or checking out her developing chest or anything like that. It was immediately obvious to me that he was in fact looking to see where she put her fingers on the clarinet's holes and levers. A totally innocent man was thereby saved from having unjust allegations levelled against him.Just make sure you have a witness, preferably an adult one, to any inappropriate behaviour before making any accusations. There's many a teacher found himself suspended due to a hormonal teenager imagining things that aren't there.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2009):
I don't think you have a thing to worry about. IF (and that's a big IF) he did indeed say those things to you, he won't be teaching very long. No teacher who wants to stay gainfully employed says things like that to a 13 year old child. Why don't you hide a tape recorder in your book-bag and speed up the inevitable?
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reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 i dont think you should go and talk to him , i think you should totally talk to someone at the school and your parents , good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Yes agree with the others..tell your parents or a school counsellor because things could go further and its better to tell someone in the first place then hopefully he will leave you alone. Sounds like a real C***P!
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (15 April 2009):
By all means, DO tell your parents. They need to know this.
You can tell him that his comments make you uncomfortable. That's not being disrespectful to him, anyone would feel uncomfortable. Just don't spend time alone with him. I would be uncomfortable if I were his student.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (15 April 2009):
there are particular words of power in a situation like that. And they will be very effective because of your age. take teacher to one side and quietly say. Now dont do this with the rest of the clas in ear shot or even your friends do it on your own. say"I don't think what you were saying to me last lesson was appropriate. You made me feel uncomfortable and i felt vulnerable. Please do not do it again. I hope we understand each other."This sound very grown up and he will be so frightened that you went and told a adult that he will back off.
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reader, Livelife +, writes (15 April 2009):
I think you should talk to a school counselor about him, as well as your parents, so that they are aware that he's making comments that are inappropriate and make you uncomfortable. Do this as soon as you can so that if he does anything again other people will know it's not the first time and that you aren't making it up suddenly. Your parents would also know who to contact about this if you don't have a school counselor you can talk with. It is inappropriate for someone in authority over someone to make comments like that, especially considering your age. Until then, I suggest you avoid him when possible and try to make sure you are not in situations alone with him, keep a friend with you if possible.
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