I like him, does he like me?
Q. There is a kid in school who I like. I told a classmate who talks to him that I like him. He went ahead and told the kid who I liked that I like him. From that day on he would tease and act mean to me. But than the kid who told his friend that I ...
A. 16 September 2007: At what point does this game stop do you think???? Why not invite him to have a coffee and a chat with you and see if you get on face to face. Take control and stop leaving someone else to cause chaos!!... (read in full...)
I like this guy, he says he likes me... But we have SO many problems revolving around our relationship...
Q. i am 15 and will be 16 in oct but he is 22 and will turn 23 in nov and i love him but we have many differences age differnce, religion differnce, country, lifestyle and time i cant hurt my parents but i cant hurt him either i am muslim and he is a ...
A. 16 September 2007: You must be feeling pretty desperate to risk the rest of your life on someone under these circumstances. people who meet on the Internet are missing one very important thing....Chemistry between them.
Anyone can say things and send photos etc and ... (read in full...)
I'm married to the man I wanted to make him jealous with, but I'm still in love with him, which my husband knows. Do I reestablish contact?
Q. While in school i met a guy and fancied him, he was shy and took him a year to kiss me. This was wrecking my head so i tried to make him jealous and be more manly so to speak. So this other guy fancied me and i went out with him, i got pregnant and ...
A. 12 September 2007: I understand where you are coming from, but it doesn't look hopeful does it, and what about the marriage vows you made to this man you married, and who is the father of your children. Does he deserve this? Do they deserve this? Romance is the... (read in full...)
Loving him, I got back to him he cheated, but I see a future with this other boy...
Q. I need your help because i really don't know what to do!! I was in a relesionship with a boy called luke for 2 years... nearly 2 years. We had plenty of rows, they were usually based on someone telling me something and him denying it. I loved him...
A. 12 September 2007: Why on EARTH would you want to endanger your new relationship with something that you have been in, read the book, got the T shirt etc. You KNOW where the past relationship led you....learn from that. Happiness lies in making different choices and ... (read in full...)
Have I just lost my trust or have I got grounds for doubt?
Q. I think i completely suck the whole thing in. Dont know what to do? Please, any advice. Thnigs has started 1 month and half...Very quickly and uncontrolable, when i look back from now, it was probably because i got my mind not on its place, t...
A. 12 September 2007: You do sound chaotic, but no wonder bearing in mind the chaos you have allowed to build up. You must know that this will never be the way you want, and he will never be the person you want, so why are you trying to find a solution?? Good relation... (read in full...)
He was seeing another girl while seeing me. Now I feel numb towards him. Whys this happening?
Q. I'm tired of a lot of things. I'm talking about A LOT of things. How is it that certain boys become somewhat of a weakness for me? I was sort of seeing this guy. I guess I say that because when we hang out... and he acts a certain way with me. He ...
A. 12 September 2007: You aren't asking the right questions...which is why you aren't getting the right answers. What prevents you from moving on to someone who sees things the way you do and who wouldn't treat people like this? Even if you were to get together he may ... (read in full...)
How long can you be separated before you can say for sure you aren't going back together?
Q. Hi im just wondering how long do you think that you can be broken up with your boyfriend before you can say for sure that you are definitely never getting back together. I broke up with my bf 8 months ago and we arent back together even though i ...
A. 11 September 2007: There are no guarantees in relationships. Other people's experiences wouldn't be any good to you, as you decide how to deal with things personally. Everything you do produces a result, so what are you doing to get a result? Nothing? Then change that ... (read in full...)
She's keeping us guys that like her hanging and sleeping round her exes house. What can I do?
Q. I don't know where to begin, my heart and thoughts are all over the place. Earlier this year, a met someone who became a very close friend of mine. Time went by, and I started to develop feelings for her. At the time, she had recently broken ...
A. 10 September 2007: How much more understanding need I be?
I cannot believe you think you are being understanding. You are being ridiculously tolerant!!
Why is she getting all her own way?? Like yourself enough to value yourself and KNOW that you deserve better. ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend wants to cheat on me, what can I do?
Q. I think my girlfriend wants to cheat on me. What do I do? Here are somethings that have happened: First of all, my girlfriend and I both have herpes. We both know this and talked about it a few months ago. Just the other day I saw in her search ...
A. 10 September 2007: try putting it to the test and saying that this is not working out and you think you should have a break....ask her what she thinks about that. Take the risk....you'll get the answer to your doubts.... (read in full...)
My friend is jealous of my relationship. How can we sort this out when we all go out together?
Q. ok so im going out with this boy evrythings fine but whenever we go out some wheere with a couple of m8s including my best m8, my best m8 always gets really depressed me and jelous becuase she hasnt got a bf... me and my bf have both triied helping ...
A. 10 September 2007: You have really chosen this routine and endorsed it by feeling sorry for her. Nothing wrong with you both going for a coffee with your m8 and explaining that this routine is not working....you are not responsible for her depression or the fact that ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be sexually involved with his sister!
Q. im feling totally diasturbed! i have a boyfriend of 4 yrs who has a sister that is 3 yrs older than him ( she's 24 ) and i think they are sexually involved. no. 1 they sleep in the bed together and thinks its totally okay! shes totally okay with ...
A. 10 September 2007: It sounds familiar....there are three people in this relationship.
If you got married would it be three in a bed??
Somewhere along the line no one has taught them standards and explained that this behaviour is unacceptable....... (read in full...)
I date lots of guys but I get rid of them when I start feeling insecure and lack confidence. Help!
Q. dont think im being big headed but.. lots of boys ask me out and things butt when i do start goin out with them and im with them and things i always mess it up and end it like 4 days or even a day after because i get scared that my body isent ri...
A. 10 September 2007: It might be a good idea if you could accept the fact that a lot of people get together and stay together becasue of WHO they are and not just what they APPEAR to be. You can be the sort of pwerson someone wants to stay close to and value and have in ... (read in full...)
I love her but I have trust issues from previous relations so I've been snooping around and can't put my mind to rest. What should I do?
Q. My past is not the greatest i have slept with random girls and i had some one night stands! so here is my question - Me and my girlfriend started dating 6 months ago and when i moved into her house i snooped around because that is the pers...
A. 10 September 2007: Realise that the girl you are with is not the one who has damaged you.....she does not deserve this!
Realise too that thinking about the past can destroy the present, and disrupt your future.....so why do it? Learn from it. Learn that there are bad ... (read in full...)
I want us to learn how to control our anger towards eachother, but after the police intervention I'm afraid the relation will end.
Q. Please someone help me. I have been crying for over 3 days now. My boyfriend and I have been having some problems, for intance: Whenever he got me really really mad, I would try to smack the back of his head or his chest or sometimes slap the side ...
A. 10 September 2007: I love him so much...you say......is this how LOVE behaves??
Once you have gone down the rocky road of physical abuse it is familiar, and not likely to stop occurring. Respect has gone for each other and yourselves. I guess you may feel sorry, b... (read in full...)
I want to keep this relationship/friendship going but it's disappointing when the answers are postponed. He says we are soulmates, and we're both married.
Q. i've recently been in touch with someone i new in high school. we're both married and have grown children. we are very attracted to one another, and he has stated in one of his e-mails that we are soulmates, however, he is very slow to respond ...
A. 10 September 2007: You have chosen to get into this situation and you are seeing disappointment ahead....like yourself and HIM enough to back off. Nothing good will come of this and you know it. You have both chosen partners for life.
Would you like your husband doin... (read in full...)
Am I being unrealistic when I sit here and hope to experience that magic feeling?
Q. Hi I'm very confused right now. I'm in my 30s looking for something which most people I speak to say will never happen. I've been in a few relationships, with the longest being for 6 years which ended last year. The reason we finished is that I am ...
A. 9 September 2007: Not everything happens when we want it to. What are you doing to meet the kind of person you are looking for? Don't settle for anything less than what you consioder to be the best....there is someone out there, just look for open doors of ... (read in full...)
Apart from the age difference, he goes to uni soon and I'd only see him once a fortnight. I'm in a dilemma.
Q. Hey I am in a bit of a dilemma. The thing is there is this guy who really likes me. Hes 19 and im 15. He says he really likes me but im not to sure about him. I think about him a lot and can occasionally see myself with him but am not to sure. Ano...
A. 9 September 2007: You say you're not too sure about him and then there is the dubious situation re college. Be honest....do YOU think its a wise move??... (read in full...)
I cant seem to stop flirting with guys when I've been drinking. I'm scared I will do something silly when my guy isnt out with me. I think I just crave the attention?
Q. I cant seem to help myself from flirting with other guys when im out, even if my boyfriend is right beside me! its only when i have drink on me but im afraid to go out on my own incase i do something ill regret. like last weeknd, i almost got with ...
A. 9 September 2007: Reverse the situation....how would you feel if he was doing it to you???? You don't have to drink. You don't have to get into these situations. You choose to, then how mad is it to complain when you get a result you don't like???? Do you like ... (read in full...)
We all played spin the bottle and I ended up having sex! Help!
Q. i had a birthday party yesterday, well it was my mums birthday party and all my family came and all my mums friends came. me and my cousin got very drunk and we went upstairs out of the way, we was playing spin the bottle and the things where gettin ...
A. 9 September 2007: Jess, you are not on auto pilot....no one is MAKING you think about it. You are choosing to think about it. It was a bad exeprience, but there is nothing you can do about it now, except learn from it, and maybe keeping your dignity and self love wil... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of the bags under my eyes from 2 bad relationships in the last 2 yrs?
Q. How to get rid of bags under my eyes??? After a two very bad relationships in the last 2 years I am left with bags under my eyes, which I didn't have before. The puffiness has now gone - I get much more sleep - but one eye in particular has a purple ...
A. 9 September 2007: You could try sleeping with two rounds of cucumber over your eyes.......its supposed to be very good for eye problems like that. Relationships don't do that to you....its your attitude towards life that does bad things to you, but you allow that to ... (read in full...)
Had a really good first date on saturday but havent heard from him. Should I leave it for him to make the first move?
Q. Had a really good first date with a guy on thursday night. I text him once on friday nite and once on saturday night... it is now sunday and i haven't heard anything from him although it was his idea to meet up again. Shall i continue to persue him ...
A. 9 September 2007: What it all has to do with is how HE felt about the other evening, and whether HE wants to meet up again. he may have been really busy since he saw you...........leave him to make the moves, then you will not have any doubts as to where you stand.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems to speak to her male friend more than me! Am I right to be hurt?
Q. Hi, here's my problem: My girlfriend has a very close male friend with whom she sometimes goes out with (just the 2 of them) to plays and concerts. In addition she texts with him a whole lot and they call each other a lot too (even late at night ...
A. 9 September 2007: Maybe its jealousy and all anger comes from pain. She has chosen a particular route and it's not wrong. You don't have any control over that. You have choices to make and you can make changes in your life too. Enjoy!!... (read in full...)
We broke up years ago because of distance and he I'm wondering if he wants me back?
Q. Am over 20 and only ever been in love with one person. this person i havent seen for years since we broke up, now he keeps calling and saying he wants to see me im confused and dont know why ? does he want me back or just to be friends ? should i go ...
A. 9 September 2007: Maybe the timing is right now. Distance is overcome with planning and time......be true to how you really feel.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a break, but I'm worried he will split with me for good?
Q. My boyfriend and I (both in college) have been dating for about 7.5 months now. I've had other boyfriends before but he's the first one I've felt strongly about; strongly enough to tell him how I felt. Just lately, we've been drifting. So we decided ...
A. 9 September 2007: What can you do, but accept the situation as it is?? He wouldn't be in favour of a break if you meant the world to him....think about it. It doesn't mean that things are over, but that he wants a taste of freedom for a while.....you cannot deprive ... (read in full...)
I want to remain a virgin so how do I satisfy him sexually?
Q. 8 September 2007 (F) - What can I do to make my boyfriend satisfied and make him enjoy during sex activity? I wanna remain a virgin, and I don't wanna act too sophisticated, please advise me!!! thanks a million... (34 words) (please andrew dont ...
A. 9 September 2007: It depends on why you want to remain a virgin I guess.......any form of sexual activity is regarded as fornication outside of marriage. In America they wear "True Love Waits" rings, so there is no problem....they just show the world that they want ... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for my girlfriend's daughter! What should I do?
Q. I'm 29 and have strong feelings for my 33 year old girlfriends 17 year old daughter. I keep trying to forget about these feelings, but I can't! What should I do?...
A. 9 September 2007: You say you keep trying to forget about your feelings, but you can't.....who else can do that for you then???? You are in control and you are where you are today becasue of the way ypou think. Start thinking differently and you will FEEL differen... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a person is not over his ex, though he initiated the break-up? I'm scared to ask him.
Q. I recently broke up with my bf , and well yesterday i saw him, and he ws acting really awkward and wasn't his usual self, and kinda looked at me... he was the one who initiated the breakup... ppl said he isn't over me... are these the signs tht ...
A. 9 September 2007: He was probably embarrassed and yes, felt awkward. If he wanted you back in his life nothing would stop him from making contact.... (read in full...)
I proposed to her over the phone, she hung up and won't talk to me now. How to renew the relationship as best friends?
Q. i just proposed a girl, who was my best friend. i proposed her on phone she went upset and hung up the phone. i phoned her later and she said not to talk to her anymore. what should i do to renew our relationship of best friends. ...
A. 9 September 2007: Sadly, the one thing we don't have any control over is the actions of others. You either have to accept the decision she has made and move on, or you are going to stay miserable unless she changes her mind. She's in control of her actions and you ... (read in full...)
Old flame continues to burn my butt, how can I extinguish the heat?
Q. Hoping someone can help here...I am pretty confused. Six months ago now one thing led to another with a guy I really liked. He had been flirting with me for about a year and then he told me the next day that he had a girlfriend. We only went so far ...
A. 9 September 2007: Looks like you have a choice to make here. If you want both things equally then you will have to adjust your attitude and take control and not care so much about him being there at the meetings. Act the part!!! If you are being honest about ... (read in full...)
My ex was straight in bed with other women after we split. But says he still loves me. Why do people use sex to get over a relationship?
Q. I posted this the other night and got only 2 replies so i thought i would try at a different time of day to see if i can get more opinions... Do you think a man can love you if he sleeps with his ex within weeks of you splitting? And then meet...
A. 9 September 2007: There is no blanket definition of how males or females behave.......everyone makes choices whicjever sex they are, and some are not choices that we find acceptable. If its in the past, learn from it, but switch off and move on.......you des... (read in full...)
We only just met but are already arguing. Whats going on?
Q. Hi there im looking for HELP!!!!!!! i met this girl 3weeks ago and we are dateting for 1week. but whe had fights already and it was realy bad, but last night whe whent to friends and i had a alot to drink and we had a big fight over it, and i said ...
A. 9 September 2007: What has to happen before you will realise that this relationship is not a good one. If you can love someone and still get into situations like this you need to take a long hard look at your bahaviour in a relationship. We TEACH people how to treat ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go on a trip, but I don't think I can back out...
Q. Hi guys, I booked a six month trip with a mate last year, To be honest I was pretty unsure of going, as I like my luxuries and not sure I am going to cope backpacking and staying in hostels round Europe, plus my mate is not a really close fri...
A. 7 September 2007: There are two reasons for you not going....your circumstances have changed, but also you didn't want to go anyway!!
What is wrong with saying NO.......a smile on your face..nothing aggressive and assuming that your friend will understa... (read in full...)
I feel like he isnt commited to me and the children keeping his options open for encase someone new comes along. What should I do?
Q. Hi I really need some advice LONG story sorry. Im with my partner over over 4 years,he is 40 im 37 we have a 2 1/2 year old daughter,I have 2 children from my ex marriage which ended 51/2 years ago I was married to an alcholic I was with him 16 y...
A. 7 September 2007: If a situation won't change, then the only solution is that your attitude TOWARDS it must. If you have the welfare of 3 children to cater for and you need the partnership for this reason then start seeing things differently and appreciating the... (read in full...)
I'm trying to leave him, but he won't let me go. What do I do?
Q. I AM TRYING TO LEAVE HIM ALONE BUT HE WANT LEAVE ME ALONE WHAT DO I DO?...
A. 7 September 2007: Are you suggesting that you are under his control here??? Victim syndrome??? You got into this situation by making deliberate choices, so why not make another choice?? Is this harrassment? Deal with it. Does he not understand what you want? Explain ... (read in full...)
I feel like he isnt commited to me and the children keeping his options open for encase someone new comes along. What should I do?
Q. Hi I really need some advice LONG story sorry. Im with my partner over over 4 years,he is 40 im 37 we have a 2 1/2 year old daughter,I have 2 children from my ex marriage which ended 51/2 years ago I was married to an alcholic I was with him 16 y...
A. 7 September 2007: Remember that you are in this position becasue of choices you have made so far. If you are not happy with the way things are, then make some changes..and get a different result...it works!!! Engagement rings are not always promises of marr... (read in full...)
How can I get over his affair?
Q. Hi, I sent you email months ago when I was told my husband was having an affair, I got a lot of help from your answers, but I'm still in doubt... we have decided to try and build our marriage, my husband told me everything, he is not seeing her ...
A. 7 September 2007: I just can't get certain things out of my head You said that. Who is in control of what you think about????? You!! Switch off the past....there is nothing you can do about it. Why let something you can do nothing about ruin your pre... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and have been asked out by a 17 year old. Is there too much of an age gap?
Q. well i'm 24 years old and i've been asked out by a 17 year old what do i do, he's a good looking, kind harted guy is there too much of an age gap? another thing he is kind off related to my friend who lives next door what do i do ?? ...
A. 7 September 2007: Why play a numbers game?......does the age matter if you get on well? If you are worried about it at this stage maybe you would be concerned about it all when you decide to be with him permanently. You should be feeling fine about things..... (read in full...)
I want to marry her, but she's always breaking my heart. How can I keep her?
Q. i have a bab which i love her so much and i want to marry her but she is alway break my heart, what do i do to stay with her?...
A. 7 September 2007: "She is always breaking my heart" What do you love about her???? If you loved yourself more you wouldn't out up with this kind of treatment. The future does NOT loook bright ahead.....spare yourself more heartbreak.... make a decision to jump... (read in full...)
I love him, he loves me... But he doesn't really know who I am!
Q. ok, i have done something slightly insane - and i know its insane but i want that to end and to become reality now but i think i have gone too far for it to over be what i want it to be. let me start at the start and i apologise in advance for h...
A. 7 September 2007: What is your problem???? You have already established what kind of person he is, and he is likely to continue to be that kind of person no matter how long you stay with him. However, you are not responsible for the way he behaves, you are only in ... (read in full...)
Now that he has me, he doesn't try anymore! Help!
Q. Hi, I am 18 and I have been dating this new guy for about two months now. I have known him for six years previous and when we were not dating we spent more time together, were more affectionate towards each other ect. But now that I am his ...
A. 7 September 2007: You need to value yourself. Is this the kind of relationship you really want?? If not, you have some choices.....not HIS fault, as maybe he is the kind of person who takes people for granted............YOUR fault if you don't make up your mind what ... (read in full...)
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