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writes:Hi, I am 18 and I have been dating this new guy for about two months now. I have known him for six years previous and when we were not dating we spent more time together, were more affectionate towards each other ect. But now that I am his girlfriend it seems like he doesnt want to spend time around me anymore...Or that he has me so now he doesnt have to try anymore, you know? And I dont know how to bring it up with out feeling like the nagging girlfriend...Help?!Thank you in advance. Love Raven xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): I think you have a simpler solution as well you say he’s stop trying because “he has you” since when did you become “had” think about that one…..
Chances are when you put the relationship ahead of your own personal needs, hobbies, interests, friends etc, it would be the odd spontaneous lets come round when you had other plans? The answer: Put them back put the piece of your life back you don’t have to end the relationship it just needs to really be less important until he ex starts scratching his head thinking while your having a game of tennis with your friends, like a light bulb in his brain an Idea pops up
“she’d really rather play tennis then spend time with me” then in the typical male hunters way he will try and win all your attention back, don’t give it all keep a bit back for you no matter how serious you get because Hun when you do this I can promise you will live your life to the full and you will be a proud strong adored young woman and you will have your needs from him or whoever? Love is a game at are age play it!
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reader, penta  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 What you accept becomes your standard. You're worth more than this.
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reader, Raven Monique +, writes (7 September 2007):
Raven Monique is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you. I think I needed to get it off my chest. I feel alot better now and I rang him and I spoke to him about it. I know that I needed to make up my mind and I havent yet but I will. And the fact that he took the time to talk about it was nice, Thank you for your advice as blunt as it was. It was helpful:) Now I have to wait and see. Love Raven xxx
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reader, Jualsy  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 You need to value yourself. Is this the kind of relationship you really want?? If not, you have some choices.....not HIS fault, as maybe he is the kind of person who takes people for granted............YOUR fault if you don't make up your mind what you really want and settle for nothing less.Make a decision, either put up with it all or move on.....no alternatives!!! You may never know the reason for his behaiour, but if it is not what YOU want, then move on.....what a learning curve!!!
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