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writes: i had a birthday party yesterday, well it was my mums birthday party and all my family came and all my mums friends came. me and my cousin got very drunk and we went upstairs out of the way, we was playing spin the bottle and the things where gettin quite rude. my friend was playing too i was the onli girl. one of the spin the bottle things came up and was on me and my cousin. it was sex i know its silly but we actually ended up doin it. i dint know wat i was doing. well i did but i i cant realy explain but we tried to have sex. he didnt get it in but we were both nakid. he got on top of me and he tried to get it in. what can i do now its going round and round in my head. i feel really weird i know i shouldnt of let it go that far but it did. anyone got ne advice how to try forget wat happened?? pleasee. thanks jess 15
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reader, penta  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 You've survived a "near miss." Now that you know what happens when you're had too much to drink, you're better prepared to deal with what could happen in the future. Don't put yourself into a situation again where there's drink and boys. "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." Please don't forget this; learn from it.
BTW, something similar happened to me when I was about your age, except that the boy had a big mouth and it got all over school. And we didn't go all the way either. So be grateful that this is just between you and the boy, and remember that it could be so much worse next time.
Good luck hon.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Well in your defense, a persons judgement drops ridiculously when they're drunk.
But if I were you I'd just pretend I was too drunk to remember anything, and make sure not to make the same mistake twice.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (9 September 2007):
This is not something to simply forget. That is why the world gets so screwed up, people forget about the mistakes of the past and then repeat them. This is something to think about and ask yourself how it got so far. That doesn't mean dwell on it, it means turn it into something positive for the future. Think about how to not get into such situations in the future. Once you are confident you can avoid those situations, then you can and will forget it.
And if you are going to drink alcohol (and doing all this at your mom's party? I don't care if it was a party or not, where the hell were all of the adults?) know your limits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): I hope you used contreception.
I also hope that you've learned a valuable lesson from all this. If I were you I would avoid getting so drunk in the future. You being so out of control has led to you doing something you bitterly regret. The best thing you can do is just put it out of your mind and make a promise to yourself that something like that will never happen again.
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reader, Gemini1506  +, writes (9 September 2007):
I say talk to your cousin and tell him that what happened should never be brought up
And just get on with your life there is no point dwelling in something that you cannot change.
Oh and avoid your cousin at family parties when one or both of you are drunk
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reader, duce00 +, writes (9 September 2007):
 That sounds like a really rough experience. You asked about how to forget what happened and Im sorry but my advice is to REMEMBER what happened. You have learned a very good lesson here and your lucky that the incident didnt leave you in bigger trouble.
Drinking with hormonal boys usually leads to one thing. Combining alcohol, young men, and vunerable women is just a dangerous combination. This is the usual combination for rapes on college campuses. Your lucky he wasnt more agressive.
Im not saying this just to freak you out. I am trying to help you avoid somthing like this ever happening to you again.
Take care,
Duce
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reader, Jualsy  +, writes (9 September 2007):
 Jess, you are not on auto pilot....no one is MAKING you think about it. You are choosing to think about it.It was a bad exeprience, but there is nothing you can do about it now, except learn from it, and maybe keeping your dignity and self love will prevent it from happening again.Just don't think about it....it's GONE!!!
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