A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:i've recently been in touch with someone i new in high school. we're both married and have grown children. we are very attracted to one another, and he has stated in one of his e-mails that we are soulmates, however, he is very slow to respond back to my e-mails, due to various responsibilities. i want to keep this relationship/friendship going but i am getting tired of being disappointed when i do not hear from him. what should i do?
View related questions:
soulmate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just wanted to thank all the responders to my question. I know that they are right and nothing good can come out of this. Thanks again for caring enough to respond.
helplessromantic.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): When you get involved with a married man you will always come second place...or maybe third, fourth or fifth place depending on the number of kids and whether or not he's doing something that weekened or if the mother in law comes over etc etc. Get used to it if you want to continue this affair. Think of all the energy and emotion you are wasting being the "lady in waiting". I'm amazed with your own commitments you are that bothered if he can't communicate for days. If you've got that much spare time why don't you spend it volunteering or finding a more fulfilling activity that nourishes you and doesn't leave you feeling hollow and left to one side. One final thing. If he left his wife and 'commitments' for you and said "Ok I'm ready lets run off together" how would you really really feel? Would you do it? I suspect you'd panic because, believe it or not, you actually do have control at the moment. My best advice would be to take that control and walk away while your family and integrity are still in tact.
...............................
A
female
reader, Jualsy  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 You have chosen to get into this situation and you are seeing disappointment ahead....like yourself and HIM enough to back off. Nothing good will come of this and you know it. You have both chosen partners for life.
Would you like your husband doing what you are doing and feeling the way you are feeling about another "friend".
See it for what it is....a tender trap that you have chosen to walk into!!
...............................
A
male
reader, Tommy7 +, writes (10 September 2007):
What do you expect from him? Is it reasonable? Maybe you're lucky he thinks enough of you to keep responding. I suggest you enjoy his emails and your memories. Don't push it.
...............................
A
female
reader, penta +, writes (10 September 2007):
 He's married, and so are you. What you should do is block his e-mail and get on with your life.
...............................
A
male
reader, rcn +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Take care of your marriage, he needs to take care of his. It's OK to keep a friendship, but he's not the one you married. And if you do keep communications, it's not appropriate to keep your husband in the dark.
...............................
|
