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writes:I am single and was on a business trip abroad. My business partner is a very kind helpful person and good fun to be with. He is happily married with a beautiful wife. Suddenly he is sending me very wrong signals. He came to the airport to drop me - extra long hug. Sms- "I am longing for you" I find it creepy and weird. How can I stop him without hurting his feelings? I am definitely not interested in married men. Reply to this Question
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reader, devastated2008  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 Be blunt and assertive don't play female games of "don't want to hurt his feelings". If he doesn't listen and behave properly tell his boss, his wife, HR and file a lawsuit if necessary. If he's doing this to you, he's doing it to others and they may not be as strong and capable as you. Take charge and be the leader you were hired to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): how about just being honest and don't mince yor words. seems like this MM has no respect for you, he may be your business partner but he is hoping that you may "need" him to make it in the business world. he expects sex from you because that is the way business is done. you have to blame our sistas who have lowered themselves in the business world. it is now expected that a single woman will want to f*ck a MM. happens all the time. but put a firm stop to him and his unsavory behaviour. show him you are different and that you value yourself, that you have morals and that you do not want a piece of married meat. also tell him that you can do so much better. basically just rub salt in his "adulterous" wounds. some men just cannot accept that woman just want to have a business relationship.
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (12 August 2009):
 if it's only once or twice, just ignore it.
if he repeats those messages to you, just tell him that you are not interested
if he doesnt give up, tell him that you will report those sms to Human resource
If he doesnt stop, tell the HR..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Call you HR director and tell them the story, and then follow it up in writing. Don't worry about his "feelings", the guy is a creap and needs to be straightened out...You can try to talk to him, but odds are if he's crossed this boundary he doesn't understand what a boundary is... he's probing and wants one thing...HR will take this very seriously as failure to take action on this is serious and can easily end up in a major (and expensive) lawsuit.Good luck
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