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A devastating break-up with a bi-polar woman sparked my current fascination with psychology, mind-games, intentions and everything the quirky fandango that is "relationships" entails. I'm a bit of an over-thinker, enjoy playful disagreements just for interesting conversation and will speak my mind on this site whether you like what I have to say or not.
I don't offer advice, just my opinion and right, wrong or deluded, I'll give you my opinion whether you're 13 or 70...
I know all too well that love can blind you, but the agony aunts can help you see things clearly, however there's no guarantee that you'll like what you see...
So will you take the red pill or the blue pill...?
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13 April 2016: Its been a long time since logging in here, regrettably I do so now to procrastinate an assignment... But hey! lets not let that small detail belittle the moment ;) I'd like to say a big thank you to anyone who is still here from back in the day....
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My boyfriend tells me that I'm ugly and I look anorexic with no boobs!
Q. my boyfriend tells me that im ugly have no boobs and that im starting to look like im anorexic. i have already tried splitting up with him that lasted about 6 months and now i been with him over 2 years all together and i cant get over him. Please ...
A. 23 September 2009: If you stay with him and he keeps critisizing you, (which he will), your self esteem is going to get lower and lower to the point where you'll never leave him because you'll ACTUALLY start to BELIEVE what he says and start thinking that you're ... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust people and takes it out on me!
Q. Where do I draw the line? My boyfriend is constantly struggling with his ability to trust people, and unfortunately that is taken out a lot on me. I have never been unfaithful and I have never lied to him - so please do not comment that I a...
A. 22 September 2009: That is insanity, let him know you're not going to take this crap anymore and he either starts trusting you or you'll walk. Trust is the foundation of every relationship and if he cant even lay that basic foundation then what hope is there of ... (read in full...)
No money, too much pride and now no respect for him
Q. Hi, I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 35. We both got made redundant in jan 2009. We are currently in big trouble financially, my partner has not found a job since january and is obsessing over the idea of going to college. my partner used to earn £40...
A. 22 September 2009: Get over it, you're never too old to train to get a better job to make a better life and be able to support you and/or a family. Stop whinging and support your man, otherwise leave. Honestly it sounds like he deserves better. Atleast he's ... (read in full...)
I don't like my knees I think they are ugly!
Q. Hey. ok my problem is pretty weird. Any lets get to it. Im 14, And i dont wear anything that shows my knee's. is there something wrong with me cause i think my knee's are ugly and i get embarrassed by them if people see them i mean its fine ...
A. 22 September 2009: What the??? I've never heard of a guy in oz even mentioning a girls knees, let alone giving a crap. Sorry if this seems insensitive, but guys are interested in a lot of features of girls, but I swear to god that knees do not even register... (read in full...)
Do I tell her I saw her asleep, under the covers, with her shirtless (but with trousers on) ex on the top of the covers?
Q. Just before I get started, I known this girl for 9 years, she always wanted me and I wanted her, we date 6 years ago, didnt last cause she was busy with school. Now we are dating again, and Im the first person she fell in love with and I love her...
A. 22 September 2009: This sounds really complicated aye. It doesnt sound like a normal relationship. Much respect for you being able to allow her to have ex's stay over without you exploding with jealousy. But thats probably why she loves you, because she feels that ... (read in full...)
She shot me down yet went out with some other guy 4 days later! Why would she destroy 13 years of friendship in this way?
Q. Well a few days ago i asked a girl that i had liked since before i really had interest in girls out to go see a movie. She shot me down but at the time she almost seemingly sayed yes and basically said that she wasn't over her ex yet and i thought ...
A. 22 September 2009: You cant be angry at someone for not being attracted to you dude. She may care for your 13 years of friendship so much that she wouldnt want to wreck it by dating you. I think its silly to throw away 13 years of friendship, but it sounds like its ... (read in full...)
Does he think I'm a freak?
Q. i started throwing up in the middle of the night and intense pains in my abdomen, i started freaking out cus i was alone and started calling pals at 3 in the morning...i also called this i guy id been seeing and know for three months. the next day...
A. 22 September 2009: You could try being honest, he wasnt the only one you called and being in so much pain that you start ringing ppl at 3am isnt anything that I'd consider labeling a girl a freak for. He doesnt really have a great reason to think you were lying f... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel? Or let things continue the way they are?
Q. hey everyone, i dont really have a problem but its more of a curiousity thing. my friend lives like nextdoor to me and we've been friends for 6 years, hes the type of guy to name call as a joke. he doesnt do anything bad, he has a girlfriend and we ...
A. 22 September 2009: If you want to test out your curiousity I certainly wouldnt start by trying to kiss one of your good mates, especially since he's clearly straight. Things are bound to be awquard if you tell him how you feel, let alone if you try to kiss him! ... (read in full...)
Help me...I don't want to end up an old spinster!!
Q. Ok. This is really hard for me. I am 28, and I have never had a serious relationship. I have had two boyfriends, neither of which was a sexual relationship. I live at home due to the fact that I am studying for a postgraduate degree, so canno...
A. 20 September 2009: Attitude is everything. Write down a list of all the things you like about yourself... all the compliments you've ever received that meant alot to you... all the things you've ever achieved that mean something to you,... seriously... yeh it sounds ... (read in full...)
I wish he was more romantic
Q. right, so ive been with my boyfriend a while now, 2 and a half years, and were in love. well I'M in love, and i think he is too, he just doesnt really show it anymore. you know what its like being in a new relationship, you're getting to know eac...
A. 20 September 2009: Mmmm... there's two sides to every story. He may think that youre not very romantic aswell. Kissing and cuddling isnt necessarily romantic. Try doing something over the top romantic, something that shows that you've put a lot of effort in to show ... (read in full...)
I need help to gain confidence in my small breasts
Q. Ok, this is kind of a stupid question. First of all, I don't live in America nor do I live in Europe. In the country I live in, men are obsessed with big breasts. They are just ideal - real or fake, they're just considered better than small ones. ...
A. 20 September 2009: Well as a guy I dont think you should get surgery. Yeh, big breasts are for the most part considered attractive, but hell, I find smaller breasts really, really attractive, (even 10A) and I know atleast 5 other decent guys who would agree. Not ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he like me? He likes her instead.
Q. Ok i have this problem, ALL my friends who are girls see that this boy "bob" likes me right, he is my best guy mate and i really like him. But my other close guy mate has told me that "bob" likes my friend "emily" , she has told me she doesnt want ...
A. 20 September 2009: Ahh, I love reading teenager problems and remembering my own problems in high school, even though they seem kind of trivial now, at the time these problems completely absorb you. Firstly, its a crappy situation and I really feel for ya. Sec... (read in full...)
What should I send the girl online that I like? I was thinking flowers or a stuffed animal..
Q. I met this girl online and we have been chatting for almost a year now. I really care about her and I want to do something special for her. She lives about half an hour away and we have been planning to meet, but I want to do something before we do. ...
A. 20 September 2009: You've been chatting online for almost a year, she lives 30 mins away and you havent met yet?? Good grief man... well slow start aside, you would know alot of stuff about her by now which will certainly be to your advantage. Myself personally, I ... (read in full...)
Why is he angry? he broke up with me!
Q. I slept with my ex boyfriends friend. Me and my ex boyfriend split up four months ago it was his decision to end it and I was crushed by his decision. During the four months in which we weren't together me and a friend of his who I had met wh...
A. 11 September 2009: Erm... yeh, he has a right to be angry. Never sleep with a friends ex. He wouldn't like it, but he wouldn't get angry at you if say, you slept with some random that he didnt know. ... (read in full...)
Do you think theres a huge diffrence in age?
Q. I Have a Problem . I really like this guy , But he is a year younger than me and also the younger brother of one of my very old friends i havnt seen in awhile . I know he wants to mke us offical but im not sure , even though it seems almost TO ...
A. 11 September 2009: Of course theres not a huge difference between 16 and 17. Besides, once you get out of school, age differences of even 10 years are pretty common. ... (read in full...)
Am I going to be used?
Q. i met this guy at a festival a few weeks back and we swapped numbers and got eachothers facebook addys etc. even though nothing happened at the festival there was definately an attraction there and we both admitted to wanting something to happen. w...
A. 9 September 2009: You're an adult, if you just want to have a bit of fun you certainly shouldnt feel bad about that. If he's booked a hotel its pretty clear what is on the cards and if you're both on the same page then there shouldnt be a problem. You could always ... (read in full...)
He wants me to contact him but wont reply to me
Q. I had a bitter ending with my ex 4 months ago. Then last saturday we met finally as a closure and acted as if we were not bitter at all. I wasn't expecting anything as it was a relief to me that finally we ended in good terms but shortly after our ...
A. 9 September 2009: Or maybe he just cares about you and wants you to contact him if you're ever in trouble. I think you're over-thinking it just because he didnt reply to a msg that didnt need replying to.
Best of luck
JT... (read in full...)
50/50 ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 3 weeks. we're both a little quirky and get along so well. we're best friends, and we love eachother so much. well at least that is what i thought. we made a mistake but it was on both of our parts ...
A. 9 September 2009: There's not really much that you can do and noone is going to be able to tell you whether he will break up with you. We dont know what the mistake was, but if it was enough to scare him after only dating for 3 weeks... maybe he's thinking, well if ... (read in full...)
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