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*iki cashmore
writes:my boyfriend tells me that im ugly have no boobs and that im starting to look like im anorexic. i have already tried splitting up with him that lasted about 6 months and now i been with him over 2 years all together and i cant get over him. Please help i really dont know what to do !! I suffer from depression and had a miscarriage about a month ago. Which is why I have lost a lot of weight and i was thin to start with and therefore found it hard to gain weight if someone can give me any help id appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): you + this boyfriend = crushed self esteem and completely miserable
Initially(you + dumping him )= worst experience of your life
you + staying with him = even more worse than the worstness of initially(you + dumping him)
Later on(you + dumping him) = happy and able to rebuild your damaged self esteem and move on
You IF you + dumping him + getting through the moving on process + getting a new bf that isn't like your stupid ex = HAPPY :D
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 September 2009):
This guy is shocking. He really is. Don't let him or anyone else treat you this way. Get away from him as quickly as you can. You've been through enough already without having a shabby boyfriend tearing you apart. You'll start to gain weight naturally, so don't worry about that. Also, I think it might be a good idea to seek some couselling so you can talk to someone who will listen about your miscarriage. But please finish with this guy and move one. No woman deserves what you're going through. Lots of luck. xx
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reader, Blod +, writes (23 September 2009):
 Why is he your boyfriend if he talks to you like this?
It sounds as if you're trapped in this situation. You have to be really firm with him and yourself too. You shouldn't stand for this.
If you want to finish with him, do it. You don't deserve to be treated this way, by your boyfriend of all people. You've had a hard time and he's not helping. Your main focus should be getting better and if he's making things worse then cut him out of the equation.
Sorry if I'm coming across a little bit harsh.
Good Luck. X
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 September 2009):
 If you stay with him and he keeps critisizing you, (which he will), your self esteem is going to get lower and lower to the point where you'll never leave him because you'll ACTUALLY start to BELIEVE what he says and start thinking that you're ugly/anorexic and that you cant get or dont deserve somebody better. Do what you know you have to do and GET OUT NOW!! This guy is an asshole of the highest order!! And you deserve SOOOOOO much better!!! Dont mess up your life when you're in your prime babe.
Best of luck.
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reader, Mariab +, writes (23 September 2009):
 You CANNOT and SHOULD NOT let anyone talk to you in this way! I don't care how much you love him... He will ruin your self image and self esteem. Do yourself a favour and tell him to go jump in a lake... you have to be stronger than him in order for him to respect you. Did you ever wonder why he is still with you if you look so bad??? Please put yourself first? Be strong and stand up for yourself. God bless xxx
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