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writes:Ok i have this problem, ALL my friends who are girls see that this boy "bob" likes me right, he is my best guy mate and i really like him. But my other close guy mate has told me that "bob" likes my friend "emily" , she has told me she doesnt want to go out with him as she doesnt want to hurt me. I appreciate this but i cant help asking myself why he didnt like me?But anyway, i want to know any tips i can be given about this situation .... thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 When you hear something about someone else from another person, always take it with a grain of salt. You don't know for sure that he doesn't like you; you only have the word of your other guy friend. Your other guy friend may be telling the truth, or he may be telling stories because he doesn't want you two getting together.
If you want to know what Bob thinks, ask him. Forget all this "he said, she said" business because it never gets anyone anywhere.
Good luck.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Ahh, I love reading teenager problems and remembering my own problems in high school, even though they seem kind of trivial now, at the time these problems completely absorb you. Firstly, its a crappy situation and I really feel for ya. Secondly, nobody online can really help you figure out why he may or may not like emily instead of you.Thirdly, you should be grateful that your friend is respecting you by not going out with him, she sounds like a decent friend. As for asking yourself why he didnt like you, its normal to feel like that, but he could just value you too much as a friend that he wouldnt want to stuff that up. Nothing worse than having a great male/female friendship, taking it a step too far and then no longer being able to be friends.. But at the end of the day you cant make someone like you in that way. So really the big question is will you let emily date him or not? It may be hard for you, but knowing that two friends who you care about are not able to get together because of you can hang on your concience a bit. No judgement here either way cos I've done both. Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): in my opinion, theres two options. bob likes you, so he asked his friend to talk to you and say he likes emily to find out who you liked so bob would know if you liked him or not. or.. he actually does like emily. in that case, sorry. i don't know you and i don't know him, so its hard for me to tell you why he wouldn't like you. i personally learned the hard way although it took me a while to learn it. you just need to stop worrying about whether or not you'll wind up with well... bob and just let things fall into place. typical advice but it works. hope this helped :)
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