Does he love me as much as he does his child?
Q. Please help me understand. I'm 20 years old and i'm wondering about things in general to do with parent-child relationships. I read on here yesterday that its a diff kind of love and you often see on here parents write that their children are the...
A. 25 November 2010: I'm really sorry to say but your boyfriend will never be able to feel the same way about you as he does your child.
It's something inbuilt in us to protect our children and it will be exactly the same for you when you have your own children... (read in full...)
Married man says he needs a "cure" to marry me?? What does that mean?
Q. i have just came back from turkey i meet a lovely kurdish waiter i spent two days with him before returning home he was lovely to me treated me like a princess he has a kurdish wife and daughter back home in east turkey he told me about his wife he ...
A. 15 September 2010: I fell for a Turkish waiter when I was 20 and felt exactly the same as you. They are experts at telling you what you want to hear and making you feel so special so when you come back to reality no man compares, but it's all a well practiced an act ... (read in full...)
With all these questions, are they signs that he's cheating on me?
Q. My husband of 8 years have asked me following questions recently( in last month or so not all of them at the same time but in b/w conversations) which have no connection with me personally: 1. What is an IUD 2. why do women douche 3. what ca...
A. 24 April 2009: Hi I've just read your other posting and I swear I could have written it myself a few months ago. Every single thing you wrote happened to me and I was a wreck constantly wondering what was going on, how can I find out what he's up to etc etc. ... (read in full...)
With all these questions, are they signs that he's cheating on me?
Q. My husband of 8 years have asked me following questions recently( in last month or so not all of them at the same time but in b/w conversations) which have no connection with me personally: 1. What is an IUD 2. why do women douche 3. what ca...
A. 24 April 2009: Does he work with women? My OH used to work in a call centre and overheard loads of women talking about personal stuff on a regular basis. He used to come in and ask me all sorts as he was just confused by the conversations. I dont know if thi... (read in full...)
Should my baby have my last name?
Q. I have a baby with my boyfriend he doesn't plan on getting married to me. In fact he's already married to another woman. Their relationship is rocky and he wants a child to have his last name even though we're not married. Should my baby have my ...
A. 25 March 2009: Hi
Yep, I agree with the others. It will get extremely confusing for you and the kid when, for example, it goes to school etc and you have to explain constantly that you have 2 different surnames. This child is going to be your family from now... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 18 March 2009: I'm confused. Who is it that you want to be with?? It looks as though you've had a conversation with the mistress about staying with her and she's blown you out so now you want to get back with the wife - have i got that right??
You need to ... (read in full...)
How many sleeping partner have you had
Q. Hi im doing a survey about how many sleeping partners (vaginal or anal) you or anyone you know, GF/BF etc, has had? Plz also state how sure you are of yours and your partners number! Plz be honest as there's no need to lie because you can just put...
A. 6 February 2009: Hey I'm 32, had 4 partners and British. My partner is 36, had 6 and is also British. I'd query what you are saying though about women and men having the same amount. You may well be right but it may be the case that in general women have ... (read in full...)
Should I not get married?
Q. I should be getting married this year and love my partner but i feel he still loves his ex wife because of never getting rid of his old past photos. Should i let him keep all of his wedding and past holiday with our new lives. Including our newb...
A. 6 February 2009: I still have photos and mementos from my marriage and I never loved him in the first place!!! It was just a large chunk of my life and there were some holidays etc that I'd like to remember. It's a bit of sentimentality, that's all.
I dont hav... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and face constant arguments with my boyfriend, help me get my head clear...
Q. First of all I am writing in to just ask for help because everyone I speak to says I need to sort it myself but I seriously don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 12 months, I am 5 months pregnant and he treats me like I'm...
A. 5 February 2009: Hi Sorry to hear about the predicament you're in. I really feel for you. The blunt truth is that your boyfriend just isn't mature enough for a serious relationship never mind bringing up a baby. This certainly isn't your fault but in a way it'... (read in full...)
Is there any decent, good websites where I can meet new people to go clubbing with?
Q. i live in the UK and really enjoy clubbing but all my mates have settled down and have little spare money. Does anyone know of some really good UK websites (that get results!) for people who want to go out clubbing with others? I don't want to go ...
A. 2 February 2007: Try gumtree.com. That is town/city specific and there are always people looking for someone to hang out with on there... (read in full...)
We broke up but me and the kids still live in the same house with him! How do I make this arrangement more comfortable for all of us?
Q. My boyfriend and i have 2 children and have broken up. We are still living in the same house because i quit my job and gave up my apartment for him. he says he is confused and doesnt know what he wants and neither do i. how do i handle this ...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi
I'm in the same position and have been for the past month. We split up but he cant afford to move out.
If you are definite that you will not be getting back together then you both need to sit down together (calmly), discuss where yo... (read in full...)
How can I get him to act his age? He is 23
Q. how do i make my boyfriend act he's age? he's 23...
A. 15 December 2006: My boyfriend is 36 and does not act his age. He hangs about with 20 year olds as he claims he 'has more in common with them than people his own age'. At the end of the day you cant change them. He is the way he is and you have to either accept it ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, now all she does is ask me for money.
Q. Guys..... I'm feeling very lonely and VERY VERY lost right now... Well ever since my ex-gf broke up with me about 3 months ago ive been suffering from depression and loneliness. Ever since we broke up she has been asking me for money because ...
A. 15 December 2006: I'm so sorry you are in this position but you are doing the right thing not giving in to her. For the sake of your own sanity you need to break off all ties and try to get on with your life without her in it. You need to tell her you are doing ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and trusting b/c of my last marriage. My new guy thinks I need more "alone" time. Any advice?
Q. I am 45 yr old newly divorced woman who is working very hard to work through the dysfunction from my marriage. I was married 20 yrs to a mentally ill man and found myself in a co-dependent situation. For this reason I believe myself to be somewhat ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi there
I've been through/am going through similar myself and could go into screeds and screeds of text with my advice. The single best bit of advice I can give though is to go to www.selfesteem4women.com. Start with the test and go from the... (read in full...)
Thinking of changing hair color..anyone know about good temporary hair dyes?
Q. I have medium/dark blonde hair at the minute, and for a change would like to see what i'd look like with a very dark brown hair colour, like Eva Green's in Casino Royale, or Anne Hathaway's in The Devil Wears Prada. I have pale skin, similar to both ...
A. 27 November 2006: You should go to a decent hairdresser first. They can do temporary as well as permanent and can give you advice on what might/might not suit you. If you have pale skin a lot of darker browns will make you look really ill and washed out and you'll ... (read in full...)
I am finding it hard to deal with the fact he has got alot of female friends!!!
Q. Does anyone else's man make a lot of female friends and how do you cope with it? My boyfriend has always made friends easier with women than men and I knew that when I got into the relationship but I still find it difficult to cope with when a...
A. 15 November 2006: Thanks for all your help and advice. I've had a few good talks with him even suggesting that we split up for a while to see if he wants to go out with any of them but he says he doesnt. He admitted that he probably is seen as being flirty with ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give any tips on coping with failed relationships?
Q. Can anyone give any tips on coping with failed relationships? I am a 33 year old attractive and intelligent woman, who has (unfortunately) had the worst luck when it comes to relationships. I've been broken hearted more times that I care to rememb...
A. 31 October 2006: Hi. I was married to the type of man you are now with and thought I could do better. I left, hurting him really badly, and found someone who was what I wanted, attractive, funny, popular, more exciting, someone who gave me the passionate butterfly ... (read in full...)
Married for 10 years but I've never felt sexaully attracted to him, now its affecting us, how can we survive this ?
Q. I am a 33 year old woman, married for 10 years. I love my husband very much for the person that he is. He is kind and considerate and makes me laugh. I find him mentally stimulating and we seem to have the same ideas about life and the upbringing ...
A. 8 September 2006: I was in a similar position too. Only lasted 5 years married to my husband and split up with a kid of almost 2.
I got on really well with him. We could chat for hours, didnt argue much, he was intellectually and morally on the same waveleng... (read in full...)
We just can't stop arguing in front of our child and I am just about ready to leave him!
Q. I live in a house which I bought with my partner 4 years ago. We had a child 2 years ago but we are constantly arguing and I reluctantly feel that I have to do something (ie move out )before things turn really nasty. I dont want our child to see ...
A. 21 August 2006: Hi. I dont know where abouts in the world you are but in the UK if you have a joint mortgage with your partner you would have to buy out his half of the mortgage or sell the property and split the proceeds.
With regards to the arguing, there ar... (read in full...)
Having feelings for my neighbor and we are both married!!!
Q. I'm married and I do love my husband,but there's a man that lives next door to me that I have been attracted to for a few years and just in the past months I have felt as though I would like for there to be more, I get vibes from him that he's ...
A. 11 August 2006: Hi. I REALLY would recommend that you dont go there with your neighbour. I know its what you want now and i know it all seems so exciting but soon that turns into hurt. There are 4 of you in this decision plus any kids involved and WITHOUT A ... (read in full...)
My brother is slowly killing himself and I don't know if I should try and help!
Q. My brother has been an unstable diabetic since he was 8. Ten years later and things are just getting worse. The chances are he's not going to live to see his 30's, because his organs won't be able to cope and will just stop working. I know he can ...
A. 13 April 2006: I think you need to try to help him because you would never forgive yourself if you didnt. I think you really have your work cut out though and should be prepared for a lot of hostility from your brother but you should persevere. I dont know if ... (read in full...)
I found porn pictures of my husband himself, is he cheating!?
Q. This question is for all the males. and I want a very honest answer if I can get one. I am 34 years old and my husband is 40. We've been married for 15 years this June. When I first met him, we were VERY sexually active. I was only 17. Of cour...
A. 13 April 2006: I dont think that the kinkyness and porn necessarily leads to cheating. If he is able to express himself how he wants then I dont see why he would go elsewhere for it. The thing that would concern me is the pictures. Did he take the picture ... (read in full...)
My god I'm desperate, my daughter physically beats me
Q. Iam a single mum with a 13 year old daughter who is physically bigger and stronger than me and she has started to hit and bully me. Iam a english size 8 and 5 foot tall and she is 5 foot 8 inches tall a size 24 and 20 stone she totally dwarfs m...
A. 10 April 2006: Sorry, dont believe you either. Only a very, very sick mother would agree to do that to their daughter (and to be honest It's sick that you even though up this story!!). IF it is true then the fact that no one believes this is happening must t... (read in full...)
Call for moderators to help out with DearCupid!
Q. Hi everyone, This is another appeal for volunteers to be moderators. You get to approve and categorise questions and approve answers. If you could spare say ten minutes a few times a week, then this could be for you! Just add your name in thi...
A. 28 March 2006: Me too! Me too!! I have become addicted to this site and have checked it every day since I first asked for advice. I'd love to help you out Andrew x... (read in full...)
I respect him and I'm grateful...but I am NOT attracted to him physically? What should I do?
Q. I'm married 22 years to a man who is good to me and who is very attracted to me, I respect him, I'm grateful for him. I wasn't in love when I married him. My selfish focus was to have a family and believed I would eventually be attracted to him in ...
A. 28 March 2006: I have been in a similar position but am a step further than you so I feel I can give you an insight in to what could happen.
I married a man that I wasnt attracted to. Occasionally I'd catch a glimpse of him and think "maybe I am attracte... (read in full...)
I keep misunderstanding my bf's expressions and voice tones..it bugs the hell out of me!
Q. i keep having misunderstandings about my bf. i take what he says seriously because i care but i'm finding it really hard to read his tone/expression. i don't know if he is truly upset about something or if he's just saying to let me know. his tone ...
A. 28 March 2006: I used to have a lot of misunderstandings wih my bf as he is from the South of England and I the North of Scotland. He would say quite a few things to me in a way which I found disrespectful and would blow up at him ("dont talk to me like that!!!") ... (read in full...)
Cesarean or natural pregnancy experiences wanted!
Q. Hi, I am 6 months pregnant and may need to have a c-section to deliver my baby. I am wanting other womans opinions on their experiences with both c-section and natural births. Thanks for any help you can give me....
A. 15 March 2006: When my son was delivered I'd had a spinal block so couldnt sit up. I also had cannulas and tubes in the back of my right hand and in my left arm. They delivered him and placed him on my chest but I couldnt move to cuddle him or touch him. I cant ... (read in full...)
Cesarean or natural pregnancy experiences wanted!
Q. Hi, I am 6 months pregnant and may need to have a c-section to deliver my baby. I am wanting other womans opinions on their experiences with both c-section and natural births. Thanks for any help you can give me....
A. 14 March 2006: HI. I had my son by elective c-section as I'm Diabetic and he was breach. I was relieved at the time because I knew it was going to be at 9 o'clock in the morning and I could be organised. I dont like the thought of going to the shops and ending ... (read in full...)
WHY would he flip out, when I asked him why the old gf was back on his messenger contact list.
Q. Having some trouble with my live in boyfriend and need some input. He was on his computer the other night and I saw that he had re-added his ex gf's name on his msn messenger. They had a very nasty, bad breakup (3 yrs ago)and I knew he had ...
A. 9 March 2006: My other half is the same. If I ask more than two questions it's apparently 'the spanish inquisition'. He doesnt like to think I dont trust or believe him and thinks I'm trying to catch him out if I ask questions (admittedly sometimes I am!) If ... (read in full...)
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