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writes: So this is the third time i wrote here asking for questions... And its still about the same girl, to begin things change and doesnt go quite as planned... About four months ago i posted a previous question about asking my highschool crush out now that ive finished colleged. The answers said try to chat her on fb and see if we are still "compatible" ... Turns out when i contacted her she was a few months pregnant and happy with her bf. So i asked the community if things would be cool if i try and confess my feelings and be a homewrecker but... They said no ot wasnt cool so i let it go and forgot about all of it. Until recently...her relationship with her boyfriend is hitting a rough patch and shes starting to noticr that maybe he's not the guy for him... But shes also showing signs that shes reciprocating my previous feelings... Is it okay if i get involve woth their lives... And see where this particular puzzle fits once and for all. Im not completely batsh*t craxy nor am i a guy willing to rest his life in a community with strangers giving advice... But it feels that a few other people can knock some sense into me. I dont believe in most cheazy romance stuff but ... What if this is supposed to be my story... Need help ...just people who'll say this is stupid or completely reasonable thanks.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (14 June 2015):
You, sir, are behaving like an asshat.
MOVE ON.
Find some other girl with whom you are compatible. 90% of love isn't "finding the right one" it's "Being right for the one you're with".
That's not to say attraction, common interests, beliefs, and goals don't make a difference - I'm saying that you will find all of these common ground prerequisites with many other potential partners. Love, real, deep, meaningful love is when you turn that "interest" into a mutually fulfilling relationship.
You will NEVER have that with this girl. Find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2015): ".her relationship with her boyfriend is hitting a rough patch and shes starting to [notice] that maybe he's not the guy for him..."
Too bad she didn't notice that before she let him knock her up. Now he's going to be a part of her life for at least the next eighteen years whether they're together or not.
"But shes also showing signs that shes reciprocating my previous feelings..."
I wouldn't be at all surprised if she's plotting to play you for a sap just to make baby daddy jealous, which could put your health and safety at serious risk.
"Is it okay if i get involve woth their lives..."
No. Her first and only priority should be doing everything in her power to make sure her child has the best possible start in life, and that does NOT include playing two penises against each other.
"Need help ...just people who'll say this is stupid or completely reasonable thanks."
This is stupid.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 June 2015):
 She is pregnant, WITH someone else's child. SHE is with that SOMEONE, and no amount of her not being happy with him, makes you declaring your feelings for her OK.
Not only that, but are YOU ready to date someone who is (sorry" silly enough to get pregnant with someone she doesn't REALLY know?
YOU are sticking your head in a hornet's nest. Full of drama and half-truths. YOU don't know that the BF isn't such a great guy after all. She might feel insecure due to gaining weight and being pregnant.
I'm not going to give you different advice then last time, because? NOTHING has changed. SHE is still with him.
Come on. USE some common sense.
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