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writes:After seeing the previous question posted about ages, it made me want to ask my own. I am 33 and fallen in love with a guy who is getting ready to turn 25. I've never had a thing for younger guys but he's absolutely amazing. He's everything I'd ever want in a partner. But, the age keeps replaying over and over in my mind. He doesn't see me as 33, just a person he's fallen for but it feels kind of strange to me. Is 25 too young to really know what he wants? He is past the whole party/casual sex thing, but he's only 25. He sounds like a man, looks like a man, has amazing qualities, like I said, everything I could ask for, except an older age. I guess I worry the most that he might be too young, mentally, to really know what he wants. Does his mind/emotions work the same as that of a man who is like 35 or 40?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2015): don't see anything wrong
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 June 2015):
 If he knows what he wants then his age (25) is perfectly acceptable.
Women tend to live 8 years longer than men...sounds like a perfect gap.
My hubby is 42 to my 55.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (10 June 2015):
It's just a number. Go for it! Love is hard to find and even more hard to keep.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 June 2015):
Honestly, I don't see the problem. At 25 he's fully developed, the product is finished, yadda yadaa (and that includes his brain.) That's why age gaps at a younger age are so jarring (and often wrong). Because young people under the 21 crowd are at a completely different wavelength every single year when it comes to their development. This man though, he's officially a fully grown adult. And that's when the years adding up don't weigh so heavy anymore. All you both can do now is grow older and hopefully accumulate some wisdom over the years.
Don't fret over the age gap. It's not significant enough to warrant any worry.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (10 June 2015):
 My husband is the same age as me but he is a man child, and will never grow out of it. The only thing that matters is he wants you, and nobody else. It's my husband's innocence, and the belief that true love lasts forever that gave me security. Whenever I see women your age, my first concern is having children and settling down. I don't see that far as the end game. With men who said they want children then get overwhelmed when real responsibility comes, I would wonder how a younger man fares. Not all 25 year olds are the same. He might surprise you. I guess you have to find out by dating him more.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (10 June 2015):
No, his mind and emotions do not work the same as someone ten years his senior. That doesn't make him lesser, nor does it mean he isn't a good match for you.
The real consideration I point out to people in mixed age relationships is the end game. How will people feel when retiree is married to top of career path sort of issue. When convalescent home is married to getting ready to retire.
In this case, a paltry 8 years is really not a big deal.
Yes he's younger than you, however, at 25 he -IS- a man. A fully fledged and responsible to himself man. No ifs, ands, or buts about it (even if a lot of 25 year olds still -act- like boys).
Only you can decide if he's too young for you. Since the practical consideration of the endgame is not really that far out of synch, all that should really matter is whether or not YOU feel he's right for YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2015): You are both adults and can both make your own decisions. If you love each other and want to give it a go... Why should there be a problem?
My own grandparents had at least a decade between them and they were together until death.
If a man cannot decide if he wants a relationship with someone by 25 then there is something wrong with him.
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