His 'reputation' broke us up!
Q. i've been dating this guy for 3 wks.. everything ws perfect we got along great, i was really falling for him, we had plans to go away this weeknd. problem is he hs a bad reputation is known for doing drugs and drinking and gettin nasty nd crazy!! ...
A. 2 August 2010: Let him be him, at the end of the day, he clearly has a guilty conscience, otherwise he would not have been bothered by what people say, in despite of the fact that you said you did not care what people said. So my advice too you is too let him go, ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex contact me and say he wants to be friends but then hurts me?
Q. my bf dumped me 9 months ego.i tried to convince him a lot.but failed.After that I went for no contact period.At that time I got to know he was in new relationship.But I did not break NC.Then after one month he started messaging me.I did not ...
A. 2 August 2010: He is bad news, your not emotionally weak, your making yourself look weak by playing his games! He is a mess, and no doubt he and his girlfriend are laughing about this. He is probably playing ANOTHER girl despite you, and his girlfriend. Too be on ... (read in full...)
Am I pushing too hard for marriage??
Q. Hi all, I am just asking how I can control my neediness. I am in love with my boyfriend of 1 year. He is 31 and I am 26. We have been discussing marriage from early in our relationship but there are lots of cultural and religious issues that we n...
A. 2 August 2010: Maybe you are pushing a little, and you can tell what pressure it is making on your relationship. For example, your outburt's at him.. that also tells me that you are quite eager. in which case, i would advise you too keep pushing. But im not going ... (read in full...)
I think he's just using me for sex
Q. Hi All I think my boyfriend of over a year is using me for sex but I can't bring myself to dump him. He never has time to come see me unless he cames pick me up and we go to his place for sex. after that he wont see me for about a week till he wan...
A. 2 August 2010: i say, he is acting.. he has got you wrapped around his little finger! you shouldnt stand for that! He is a man, they all crave sex.. its on their mind's most of the day! I know it will be hard too leave him, but if you think about it.. do you ... (read in full...)
G/f ended things saying she's "tired of trying"
Q. Hi, Recently my fiancee, girlfriend of over 3 years and best friend of god knows how long, told me it's over. Says she doesn't love me like she used to and she's 'tired of trying'. It's never been a simple relationship, when it started we were ...
A. 2 August 2010: i say that she is your longlife partner! DO NOT give up on her! keep trying too get her back, if you let her go, then you will have a cloud hanging over you for the rest of your single life, maybe even when your with someone else! Because if you do ... (read in full...)
Stick with current b/f or ....
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last six months with lets say a guy named k .. the first few months were great but everyhting slowly became "not so perfect'. My image of him was completely different. Anywho for the past three years i have had ...
A. 2 August 2010: Girl, Do not let K walk all over you! SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER GIRL? WOW, he is blind. You sound like a caring person! so throw him off the tracks! you sound better off with B, he seem's nicer, and much more close to family.. Dont let B slip away, he ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to resent her and her ways...
Q. Okay, i have a girlfriend that i love to death, but sometimes i have some problems that i dont really know the names for. To start off, shes has a troubled past of family problems, drug problems, and boyfriend problems. I, myself, have self-esteem ...
A. 2 August 2010: Good, Im glad things are better, and im glad i could help! x... (read in full...)
The Shy Guy & The Freshie
Q. I'm a freshman this year, and am dating this really sweet senior guy I met about a week ago. He's our band's field commander. Well, he's extremely shy and doesn't really show his affection for me at all. It kind of has me wondering if he even cares ...
A. 2 August 2010: well, you say you met him a week ago! There is your problem, maybe you should have taken the time too get to know eachother better. well now its too late, and your already in a relationship with him.. i suppose the only advice i can give you now, is ... (read in full...)
Is this girl even remotely interested in me as well?
Q. There is this girl who kinda blew me away the first time I saw her. I didnt really think much of it at first, but over the last months Ive come to realize I really like her. But she happens to be 2 years older than me (Im 20). Anyway, we alw...
A. 2 August 2010: Definately play it cool, as if your not interested. but dont completely blank her, hint in the old flirt every once in a while, until she cracks and hits on you back! that way it is a win win! ... (read in full...)
My best friend is moving on short notice. How do I deal with it?
Q. [Mod Note: Partially OP's own title] My best friend is moving really soon and I just found out. I don't know what to do without her? I didn't cry when she told me but it just hit me that I won't get to see her everyday anymore. We have been friends ...
A. 2 August 2010: 'There are plenty of fish in the sea, But you want that one!'-
Too deal with it, make new friends before she goes, because you dont want too be completely lonely when she goes. your probably pushing other people away without realising it, as y... (read in full...)
Is my mum trying to control me?
Q. I have a problem regarding my mum, and travelling to London. I was supposed to be going there alone, for a concert, but also to spend a few days to sight see there, and i planned on meeting some of the fans of the band i am going to see there. Some ...
A. 2 August 2010: This is the good old letting go collision. To your mother, your still her little angel, and until she realises that you will have no peace... But that's ok, because parents are quick too understand things when you really explain it to them. so go ... (read in full...)
Will I regret not acting on my bi sexual side if I choose to be with him forever?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and know he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. However, I'm bi-sexual and have never had the chance to experiment with women before. I want to marry this guy; I really, honestly, ...
A. 2 August 2010: No, you might get curious, but when you have the one you love, you can fight off temptations. why should you feel the need to experiment when you have everything you need right infront of you? You will lead the most happy life, with the person you ... (read in full...)
Husband says I let myself go
Q. i been married for 17 years i love my husband to bits we used tohave a brilliant sex life now its non existant we make plans to spend time for just us but it never happens he is a hard worker he gives me and the children anything we want and more ...
A. 2 August 2010: No marriage should be like that, but no matter what, never lose faith! your marriage just needs a little sit down! talk too him and explain EVERYTHING, your a girl, and us girls sure know how too express our feelings... if you can explain it too him ... (read in full...)
Why can't I make up my mind about him?
Q. hi well i have been best friends with this boy for a few years now and he asked me if he could be my boyfriend. I've said no a couple of times before then i said yes. When i said i just wanted us to be friends he said he understands. But now that...
A. 1 August 2010: i know im only young, but ive had the same problem. But the boy i went out with, he made me feel sick in the sense that, when i ended it, hed send back an abusive text, and i would be sick in real life, and i just dont know why. But what i can tell ... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend is more experienced
Q. ok i know this is going to sound stupied but im only 14 and my bf is 13 i know it wrong well he more expriance like in the kissing way he wants me to do tounges wiff him but im scared to because i dont know how and what to do could some one help me ...
A. 1 August 2010: im 14 myself, and i had my first kiss at 12.. the person i kissed, had kissed many girls before me, and you might not believe me, but when you kiss someone, you both pickup the flow, and do the same thing! its normal too kiss, and at some point you ... (read in full...)
I was the one who broke things off, he's accepted it but now I want him back!
Q. I recently split with my boyfriend of 4 years, i was having doubts about the relationship and mentioned it to him but also said i needed more time to think about it. then when we spoke again he decided we should split and i didn't want to lose him, ...
A. 1 August 2010: Awww, Believe me, if you cant trust him, then sod him! i know what its like, when you love someone so much, and it all ends. and when you were together you felt like you was the lucky one, You never wanted it too end, even if things did get stale ... (read in full...)
Guilt and regret...
Q. I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I had a fling with a guy that went on for a few months, and now I'm dealing with some guilt. He's a guy from work that was super flirty with me, and really nice. I was quite attracted to him, and started to develop ...
A. 1 August 2010: Believe me, you have nothing too feel guilty about! How can you blame yourself when you felt for him? Its like when you want something so bad, you will do anything too get it! and as far as im concerned, You was just following what was right at the ... (read in full...)
If I'm not pregnant what else could be wrong with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have sex every day, with no contraception. My last period was June 25, 2010, and it's now August 1, 2010. I've been having nausea, vomiting, no bladder control, acne, and i went to the doctor and they took a pee test and said ...
A. 1 August 2010: I Know im only young, But i have started my period, and my last period was around may 23rd, and i still have not had another. since then, i have been suffering with headaches, dizziness and i have vomited a few times. I find that this mainly link's ... (read in full...)
Why does she not like me? What does it take for someone to fall for you?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have fallen for a woman (co-worker) and I have no idea if it is mutual or not. I don't understand why she would not have an interest in me. A big reason I fell for her in the first place is because I felt she did have an interest...
A. 1 August 2010: aww, you two are definately bonding! you see, if you think about it, when your not sure about something, you spend a lot of time thinking about it! so maybe she is just thinking about things before she commits herself too a relationship. I think ... (read in full...)
Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?
Q. Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...
A. 31 July 2010: Women are more emotional, When something happens too a man, he is more likely just too take it on the chest. but with all the constant hormones in a woman, such as her period, then she is less likely too be able too cope with her own situation's.... (read in full...)
Two men - Should I go with my head or my heart?
Q. I am confused. I need to choose between two men. This is not an easy decision. My husband has been out of the country for 2 1/2 years and I haven't seen him in one year.Over time we have lost communication(more on his part I would talk and t...
A. 31 July 2010: Can you answer me this: Why is your husband away?
1) If you have no love left for your husband, then there is no point in being together.
2) If you love the other man, and he fulfills all of your need's, then why stop it?
3) No matter what... (read in full...)
Can I be in love with two men at the same time?
Q. is it possible to love two people at once or is there a diference between loving someone and being in love?i'm in love with two men. i just don't know which one is my "true love"....
A. 31 July 2010: It is completely normal too like two people, but im afraid, this is never easy! In your head, thought's must be racing through like; 'im a player' and so on... But it is not you, it is your mind.. and how it thinks, you have no say! i guess your ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to a guy I'm not in a relationship with...how do I act with him now?
Q. I guess you could say what i did the other night was pretty stupid. I lost my virginity to a guy im not in a relationship with, he claims he really likes me, and we have had abit of a thing goin on for a bit of time now. However, im realising it ...
A. 31 July 2010: Things will be fine, He was your first time, and at the time you both liked eachother. sure he isnt your romeo, because they dont come this easy, or early.. but now you have experience for when that romeo DOES come along, and when he does, you will ... (read in full...)
Mum walks in on me having sex?
Q. Titled by Poster: What a mess i am in. Had a gathering the other night, well i would'nt even call it that, there was like five people and myself there and that's it. Things went well, wasnt anything crazy, nothing broke, i dont think. However, the...
A. 31 July 2010: First of all i would explain too her that everybody has a first time, and ask her what her first time was like. just act as if it was more pressure than anything, that way she may have more of an understanding with you. Try and bring yourself closer ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to let myself go sexually...I am so shy.
Q. I need some advice as I feel I am not normal, I have never felt attracted to anyone until now, I am with this amazing guy and we have been together for a long time and he has said he loves me and I love him in every way, he knows everythng about me ...
A. 31 July 2010: So, your shy about your body? well think in your head, that you have to have sex with someone at some point... so if he is the one you love then why not make it a special time for you! for the both of you!... (read in full...)
Is it a break if we are still talking...or should I take a total break...
Q. I recently made a post on here...and I received lots of great feedback and thank you all for that. I have one last question and situation to share with you all...I need help because I have been given advice from friends but I need unbiased or ...
A. 31 July 2010: Your relationship is the usual rollercoaster, has its ups, has its down's. But the most important thing too remember is that if you love them truly, you cant let go. You shouldnt lose interest as soon as that by completely not talking, because at ... (read in full...)
Dumped because I got too close to another guy! How do I get my bf back?
Q. ok well basically my boyfriend broke up with me 6 days ago and im actually devastated. The reason he broke up with me is because he saw me being a bit 'too close' with another guy who is my friend and broke up with me right there and then. I know I ...
A. 31 July 2010: Well for starters, an apoligy is never enough! you need to show your true emotion's too him. Call him, and ask too meet him somewhere, and discuss the whole thing there. And just agree with what he sais, if he sais you were wrong to do it, ADMIT IT, ... (read in full...)
Is this girl even remotely interested in me as well?
Q. There is this girl who kinda blew me away the first time I saw her. I didnt really think much of it at first, but over the last months Ive come to realize I really like her. But she happens to be 2 years older than me (Im 20). Anyway, we alw...
A. 31 July 2010: Then, Once again, she is hinting for you... she is wanting you too question it!... (read in full...)
Ugly curse... or beautiful blessing?
Q. How do I even begin? Well, I just feel the need to express my thoughts and get things off my chest because I am in a complicated situation that is leading me to lack of sleep because my brain won't stop thinking and debating. I am sixteen years ol...
A. 31 July 2010: This is a beautiful blessing, age doesnt matter, LOVE matters, and it definately sounds like you have it there. Just keep up keeping it secret, and when your out of school, there is no law no more! :) x... (read in full...)
I'm starting to resent her and her ways...
Q. Okay, i have a girlfriend that i love to death, but sometimes i have some problems that i dont really know the names for. To start off, shes has a troubled past of family problems, drug problems, and boyfriend problems. I, myself, have self-esteem ...
A. 31 July 2010: Sounds like you are the punchbag.. Not that she doesnt love you or anything but, you let her walk all over you from the start, You made yourself out too be a big softy! well now is your chance too stand up too her, and tell her exactly how your ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how much our sex life is bothering me
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for just over a year. We only have sex about once a week, sometimes not even that, or twice a week at a push. I want to have sex a little more often (twice a week every week would be great), but my ...
A. 31 July 2010: Listen, we all have needs, and maybe you should talk too him about this. Of course your dreading that, a fool of me too mention it... has anything bad happened too him recently, or is anything on his mind? Because things like that can really bring a ... (read in full...)
There's a possibility he's not the father... should I let him know that?
Q. i had sex with two different men and im pregnant... thing is i used a condom with the one guy and i didnt with the other... now the man i didnt use a condom with i have been with off and on for 5 years now and the one i did i had dated in the past ...
A. 31 July 2010: Listen, If your relationship with him is strong, trustworthy, and un breakable, then tell him. not even that, if he is understanding, then tell him. In fact, no matter what, tell him.. because if he finds out any later then it could erase the whole ... (read in full...)
Problems finding a mate!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been quite alone for over 12 years now. My last (and only) marriage was a disaster- all I got out of it was three great kids, who are now grown. However, I am willing and able to start over again; I have a real desire to be a ...
A. 31 July 2010: Well im young, but i can tell you about finding someone. as we all know, Play ground love is with just anyone, and when love comes around the first time, it seems so hard too catch the second time, you see someone you might like, then you imagine ... (read in full...)
Is this girl even remotely interested in me as well?
Q. There is this girl who kinda blew me away the first time I saw her. I didnt really think much of it at first, but over the last months Ive come to realize I really like her. But she happens to be 2 years older than me (Im 20). Anyway, we alw...
A. 31 July 2010: Your not off your mark at all, By telling you her previous relationships, she is hinting for you too make the move. Take my advice and bring yourself closer too her, you say your personality is the same as her, then go for her! she is in your league ... (read in full...)
Should I wait this year out to be with him even though he may break my heart?
Q. Ok sooo. Last year I dated this guy who I was totally in love with but he basically broke up with me a week after we had sex. I felt totally used and hurt. Though he promised me it wasnt something he liked doing but he couldnt do long distance he ...
A. 31 July 2010: Listen, Ive heard alot about these sort of things, (mega hassle) he is making things complicated, he is disrupting your life! Better yourself, and tell yourself that if he wants you, then he can come and get you... dont put your life on the end for ... (read in full...)
I am not convinced why he wants to break up with me
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me saying that we don't see things eye to eye. I have a 4 year old son, not with him. He feels bothered when my son acts up at the dinner table and wants to walk around. He believes children should be seen, not heard. My ...
A. 31 July 2010: He is chewing more than he can bargain for, he is clearly a very demanding person, and if you dont both agree on something, he will want too be right, therefore he thinks he is better than you, and has no choice but too walk away. In my opinion, if ... (read in full...)
Help, I'm so confused about my sexuality...
Q. I've always liked girls but the last three years or so I've had nuthin but bad luck with them.... I was telling one of my brother's gay friends about my problems and he said that I might be gay or bi........ so i did soem work and im not sure and ...
A. 31 July 2010: The trouble with young people these days, is that your mind's are like sponges. whatever you hear, absorbs into it, and you believe it. So, you have been having bad luck with girl's.. is it your looks? your personality? It is NORMAL for you to get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hits me I need help and advice please!!
Q. I'm 20 years old, Basically i have been with my bf for a year and 4 months into the relationship he started getting violent. it began by him punching things around his like a wall or the car dashboard, then when he got more angry he started to ...
A. 31 July 2010: Listen, No matter what they tell you, you never deserved too be treated like that! There is always the relationship that you feel is worth suffering for, but not like this. you need to have respect for yourself and realise that turning back too him ... (read in full...)
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