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writes:Ok sooo. Last year I dated this guy who I was totally in love with but he basically broke up with me a week after we had sex. I felt totally used and hurt. Though he promised me it wasnt something he liked doing but he couldnt do long distance he just missed me too much. He truly seemed upset about it but I was pissed. We didnt talk for months and then we both moved on. One day he added me back on facebook. I was just going through another break up and tried my best to keep it from him until he explain he missed me etc. He had a girlfriend but he constantly talked to me and would have rather be with me instead of her. they broke up and few months later and here we are still talking all the time but wont date cause he cant do the distance. I basically am once again in love with him.. I dont think hes still in love with me though. All my friends are pissed at me cause they think hes going to use me. But I do believe he didnt mean to hurt me the first time. I am willing to go to the nearest college to him... I feel dumb sort of. Help me should I wait this year out and be with him and he may or may not break my heart? I don't know what he wants..... or what hes thinking.. he wont talk about it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): I could've written the first paragraph of your story here. The same thing happened to me once upon a time.
Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy and girl have sex. Boy leaves girl a week later. Yep, my story, too.
About five months after that happened, he contacted me to wish me a happy birthday, and he's contacted me on every holiday since then, trying to talk to me.
But I won't stand for it. Why? Because if he really wanted to be with me, distance should not have been an issue. He got what he wanted out of me, and once it was inconvenient for him, he bailed. I know I'd be a fool to think he wouldn't do it again.
If this boy won't talk to you about it, he's unwilling to explain himself or his situation. He's seeking attention from someone he's gotten the better of previously, because he thinks he'll be able to do it again.
Don't let him, is my advice.
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reader, Dr.Ski  +, writes (31 July 2010):
Listen, Ive heard alot about these sort of things, (mega hassle) he is making things complicated, he is disrupting your life! Better yourself, and tell yourself that if he wants you, then he can come and get you... dont put your life on the end for someone your not sure about. pretend you have no interest in him, then his true colours will surely shine! :) x
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