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41-50,
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writes:I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I had a fling with a guy that went on for a few months, and now I'm dealing with some guilt. He's a guy from work that was super flirty with me, and really nice. I was quite attracted to him, and started to develop feelings for him pretty quickly. I was already hooked when I learned he had a girlfriend. I never knew much about the girlfriend or the relationship, but I stupidly continued to engage with him regardless of the little I knew. To cut a long story short, I ended up sleeping with him, after the development of a strong emotional connection. He is now engaged with this girl, and he apparently never told her about us. I feel awful about what I did, and now feel awful that I will be tied into this guy's story of betrayal forever. I was weak, selfish, and stupid... trust me, that I've called myself every awful name in the book. Just want some feedback regarding how to forgive myself and ease some of the guilt that I'm feeling. I would hate to be the fiancee that doesn't know anything, and is being tricked into a marriage. The guy is clear that if he tells his fiancee that she will never marry him. And I feel dirty knowing that he is scamming her in this way. Help.
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reader, Dr.Ski  +, writes (1 August 2010):
Believe me, you have nothing too feel guilty about! How can you blame yourself when you felt for him? Its like when you want something so bad, you will do anything too get it! and as far as im concerned, You was just following what was right at the time. It is his fault, he should feel guilty, he was the one cheating, not you! It has been and gone, so forget it, and move on.. what his fiance does not know, cannot hurt her! please dont feel guilty, its not your fault xx
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