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writes:Should i stay with my boyfriend the father of our new born son? He cheated on me right after our son was born. There are nights he does not come home. But i dont feel as we have given it all we have, as he does not see a problem or try to change. Am i wasting my life waiting for change that will never happen?
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reader, Dojha  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 my father is a similar case to your boyfriends and hasnt changed to this very day. if you have to consider the emotinal hurt you might be going through becasue of his cheating, you might want to consider leaving him as your son may be affected by negatives he sees in your relationship with his father. and if you raise your son independently and with love he is sure to turn out great.
Nevertheless, definately try relationship couselling as suggested earlier by kay kay if you really want him to be around for the sake of your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): I agree with KayKay but just wanted to add to the last comment that men are not polygamous nor promiscuous by nature, in saying that it justifies a mans cheating. There are plenty of men who would never cheat on their partner.
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 uh oh, sorry to here that, you know, men are polygamous by nature, no matter how hard they try it, they just cant resist it! but on your condition, its time for you to tell him that the situation is bothering you, talk to him! its the best solution, and if he didnt listen, give yourself a break! and focus for the benefit of your son, he's not the last man on earth to crave for.
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reader, dirtypirate +, writes (18 June 2007):
 once a cheater always a cheater! hes making it very clear he is still not being faithful. if he duz not care enough to be there let him go.i realize evryone wants to stay together for the kid but you are only going to continue to get hurt hunny hes just not the one! you deserve better!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): You need to move on with your life. My sister went through the same thing about 10years ago and her husband is still the same. Most men do not change and if you stay with him and the years go by then you guys are having problems then that is the message of a relationship you convey to your son.
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reader, NuVu +, writes (18 June 2007):
He might change someday, but it doesn't sound like he will any time soon. It sounds like you should move on, but do so in a way that can allow you guys to have a good relationship going forward. Afterall, he still is the father of your son and you'll need to have an ongoing relationship with him.
Good luck.
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