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writes:Hi iv been going out with my girlfriend for 5 years. She went traveling with one of her girl mate for 4 months. We where still in contact with each other on e-mail and she would phone me once a week.She just came back from traveling and me met up 1 day later to go out somewhere. Everthing seemed fine kisses coudles i really really missed her. The next day she calls and says we need to talk about things, we met up and she dumped me, she said her feelings have changed and shes not in love with me, and she want to be friends, she said the relationship has run its course and people just full apart, and she only missed me like she would miss her friends. Im so confused im going crazy im so in love with her. Shes my first love and im her first. Shes my life i cont life without her. I dont know if she is confused about it. What i dont understand is how can you stop loving some1 so quick. She went away for 4 months and kept me waiting i missed her sooo much. What sould i do?Sould i contact her?could she come back?How can i get her to miss me and come back to me? she must still love me if she said she cares about me!I need some advice on what to do im going crazy she always on my mind i cont sleep. i really want her back im lost without her and she said she would be lost without me if i didnt be friends with her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): hi again
Thanks people for the answers. iv tryed giving her space but she txt me last night saying "hope your doing ok" but i didnt txt back. So she phoned me today but i didnt answer so she txt me again saying "just wanted to know if your ok txt bk i thought we were trying to be friends" so i called her back but she didnt answer. dont know if i done the right move?? So she called me back and we spoke for 5mins, so i asked her at the end if she wanted to meet 4 a little bit and she said no. I need help??
should i ignore her calls and txtes??
should i show that im hurt??
what sould i do?
i just want her to give it one more go Her feelings could change. before she went away we where so close together. i cant see her with another boy that will kill me from inside. How should i play this?? i want to fight for this relationship. The holiday has changed her mind about things, because shes done it before about 2years ago she said she "was confused about things and wants to be friend" thats when she moved out from home to stay at uni.
But i said i cont be friends coz i love her and i have feelings. Then within 2 weeks she got back with me.
should i do the same thing again?
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reader, Dojha +, writes (28 June 2007):
 you mentioned that you cant live without her but i would just like to say that the fact that you were able to send this message to us at dear cupid means you are still alive. so look on the bright side. you are stronger than that and CAN live without her. I've felt like you are feeling before and the longer i stayed away from that person, the more i realised that it's only me telling myself that i couldnt survive without him.
if she says she doesnt want to be in a relationship with you, you need to show her that you appreciate and respect her decision no matter how much it hurts you. you never know, one day she might come back to you. but if you sulk and prove to be needy that might make her want to run even farther.
So, brave up soldier. life goes on.
but if you need more support please write again.
Hope this helps,
Dojha
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hi,
I really feel for you, but if thats how she feels there is not a lot you can do about it. You cant make someone love you, no matter how hard you try. In fact trying to hard and begging can only make it worse.
Leave her alone for a while, and see if she contacts you. Try to get your life together and think of her as if she were still away, so you wont be sitting waiting.
If you really love this girl, then let her go. And maybe in a couple of months she might change her mind. Be strong, I know this is hard, believe me. But there are tons of people who go through this every day, and we all survive. Keep yourself as busy as you can, and be with your mates. You will be OK XX
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