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writes:I'm going to be 21 this year. I have a problem is that I'm scared of loving again.I was hurt deeply once and that I'm still trying to overcome it. Everytime I thought I have gotton over it, it got worse. I'm now feeling miserable and depressed and confused.Recently, I like this guy from church. I tried treating him like an elder bro but I can't coz I have special feelings for him. My heart beats faster whenever he is near. I'm scared of loving him. Everytime he is on msn, I'll automatically log off coz I get kindda scared.He doesn't know I like him. What should I do?
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reader, darksecretangel  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Hey I agree with what DOJHA has said, you have got to stop being misrable, depressed and confused. You have been hurt but so have many others and if they can recover so can you =] Take it slowly, you tell us that when he comes on msn you log off next time dont. Think of all the oppertunities that you are been given to learn more about this guy and form a more stronger bond. He will propably figure out that something is wrong if you keep logging out and that might lead to a confrontation when you two meet.Over time you will become more comfortable around him and relise that there wasnt anything to be afraid of.Good luck =]
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reader, Dojha +, writes (18 June 2007):
 first of all you need to stop feeling depressed and confused. i've been hurt too and when i was i thought i would never get over it. i thought i would never be able to love anyone anymore but i did in the end and i feel great now.
you can make this fear disappear, you just have to take baby steps and not push yourself too hard. if you like this new guy in church, dont let your fear of being hurt affect your relationship with him. If you log off msn as soon as he come on then he probably notices and may question you someday so try to stop doing that and enjoy the conversations you have with him. in time, you will feel comfortable with him and realise that you're not scared anymore.
i hope this helps,
tk cr dojha
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