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writes:hey, i blocked contact from a close friend about 4 months ago and just recently unblocked her a couple of weeks ago. she doesnt like me anymore and doesnt want to be friends. ive wrote her poems and such .but no luck. i realy like this person alot and will do anything for her friendship again. what can i do? thx. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danny07 +, writes (25 July 2007):
Danny07 is verified as being by the original poster of the question hehe jane. 4 month not 4 year :P i would of long forgot her if it was 4 years! and i wouldnt be in this mess :P
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reader, 88jane +, writes (25 July 2007):
 yeh i know you are 18 but you havent had contact with her for 4 years so you were going through puberty at the time! i didnt mean you were going through puberty now! lol!! if youve tried all of that then i really dont know what else to suggest! maybe you will have to face the fact that she isnt willing to forgive you or wait around and realy hope that one day she does!! i dont think there is any more advice that you can get to be honest!
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reader, Danny07 +, writes (25 July 2007):
Danny07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJane, good answer but ive tried all that, and what you mean by going thru puberty im not 13. im 18 in december.. :) thx for the answer tho.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (24 July 2007):
ok hun! firstly you say you blocked contact with her becuase you were drunk and kept her blocked because you thought your feelings were going to affect your friendship! you made a big mistake here hunni! if one of my closest friends just blocked contact with me one day without explanation then i would be deeply hurt! especially because you didnt speak to her for 4 months! any chance that she may have felt feelings more than friendship probably died when you broke contact with her!
now you may be lucky enough to reestablish a friendship with this girl but i think your going to have to work your little socks off and really grovel to her!!
what i suggest is this---
1. APOLOGISE-you need to say sorry to her and let her know that you are so sorry for what youve done and it was the biggest mistake of your life!
2.EXPLAIN- you need to explain to her why you did it--you may need to sit down by yourself and think about what your gunna say but she has a right to know!
3.TELL HER YOUR INTENTIONS-tell her that you want to be her friend, tell her that she was an amazing friend to you and you want nothing more than to be her friend again
4. GIVE HER SOME SPACE- this is all going to be very hard for her so you need to give her some time to think it all through
after this if you are lucky then she may give you the chance to prove that you want to be her friend and youd better not screw up cos if you do you will definately lose her forever!
if she isnt prepared to give you a chance then i can only suggest that you give her some space and hope that one day she forgives you!!
you really got yourself in a tricky situation here and i understand that with going through puberty and confusion with emotions makes you do crazy things so i do feel for you!!
i hope i have helped you here!! good luck and let me know how it goes!! xxx
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reader, Danny07 +, writes (24 July 2007):
Danny07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe sorted all this out a couple of years ago. she still knows i fancy her. but she doesnt like me in that way(well i dont think she likes me in anyway really now).. and thats something ive understood. im over that. all i am looking for his the loving friendship we once had.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (24 July 2007):
I wonder if you still really want her for more than just friends? If so, don't kid yourself, but let her go. If not, then be honest about it. Say you fancied her at the time and couldn't handle it, but now you are over all that and just want to be mates.
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reader, Danny07 +, writes (23 July 2007):
Danny07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthere was no reason. i was drunk and sumthing silly made me angry so decided to block her, and the next day i fort it would be for the best cos i like her more then a friend (but i just want her friendship at the mo) and she kept on talkin about others boys and it always used to hurt me.
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (23 July 2007):
 Well there must of been a good reason to block her, if there wasnt a good reason then no wonder she isnt talking to you now, if you really want to talk to her again, try talking to her face to face if she lives nearby. Get her to understand why you blocked her and how much she means to you.xxx
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reader, Dojha +, writes (23 July 2007):
 assuming there is a good reason you blocked her, you should try and explain this reason to her. if there is no exact reason (that she may find acceptable) all i can say is just hope and pray for the best.
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reader, RUSTUPID  +, writes (23 July 2007):
If you liked her soo much why did you block her out? What was the point in that?
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reader, blaz£ +, writes (23 July 2007):
 hi, look i enjoy writing poetry but ive been through this. poetry does not work. dont send it to her :(you dont want her viewing you as weak.dont expect her to talk to you straight away, just keep trying though. if she keeps on keeps on saying no you may have to leave it for a while, dont forget you blocked her for four months, that was your fault:( but im not saying it was a wrong thing to do, i dont know the reasons why you done it. and if you were right to stand by that:)give her time to get back to normal. dont pressure her though. good luck
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