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writes:My girlfriend really smells-It really especially puts me off if I have to go down on her and she really smells awful. Sometimes the smell is so bad that I can smell it when she simply takes off her thong before even going down there. I think maybe she can not help it and that is just her smell naturally-as alot of times she still smells even after she has a shower and brushed her teeth.It is so sensitive I do not know what to do.She has a hot temper and can be overly sensitive so I know there is no way for me the bring up the matter of her smelling without her completely flipping out or go off crying somewhere. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sevenlova  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 If you love her dearly and want to continue the relationship you should speak to her.It is not what u say but how u say it
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Hi sweetheart,
as dojha says, dont tell her this in a you smell way it is upsetting for a woman, She should see a doctor as its sounds as she may have an infection, And i no you say she gets checked but sometimes a simple infection can go unoticed, when i was 20 i had the same problem i new something was wrong and it was getting me really down, i kept going to the doc and each time nothing in the end after trying everything i could think of i saw another doc and asked for a full checkup it was plain and simple thrush which doesnt usually get so bad to that point, soap can irritate a problem like this making it worse. She can get special cleaning products for this area, Certain infections of the vagina are caused by fungi or yeast, candida this can be diet an allergy to bread and products of the same nature has to be taken out of the diet. also love it may not be this but tampax you can get very ill if by mistake one has been misplaced lost up there and you may not even no that can cause a nasty odour, a friend didnt no and had been in that situation for 3 months the doc wont be looking for that unless he or she is alerted to it, Saying all this talk to a friend of hers or love talk to her yourself i no you say she is fiery but say it out of concern so you can both help the situation suport her and go to the doc with her it has to be something that can be sorted out with a little kindness and concern im sure you can help. Take care xxx
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reader, Dojha +, writes (13 June 2007):
 save yourself a lot of trouble so dont do the telling cos you might upset her. if she smells before taking her clothes off it means somebody else may smell it too so why dont you ask a female friend to tell her as it is a sensitive subject and she may identify with a females opinion more. ask this female helper to suggest using 'Femfresh', a female intimate wash that's soapfree this may reduce the smell and the female friend should also encourage her by going with her to see the doctors.
hope this helps
Dojha
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reader, wildturkey  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 need to see a doc, can be types of food she eats can be infections, can be type of clothing, std ect worth getting it checked outcotton breaths and can help a lot, but i guess if she sees a doc they will tell her that.
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reader, superfly  +, writes (11 June 2007):
Next time, pretend to have sex by taking off her underwear. When you get her panties down, say to her, "Huney, do you smell that?"....then you touch her vagina to collect a finger sample and smell it in front of her and suggest her to do the same, and when she agrees to recognize what you smell, say to her...."this could be a small yeast infection, which can be treated by any doctors visit."...and if she suggest how you know this, tell her a former girlfriend of yours complained of this before and got treated, and all was fine.However, if she doesn't smell what you smell, then you have to convince her what you smelled is serious and is true, and she should get medical attention for some antibiotics to end this fishy-smell.
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reader, Kelly88 +, writes (11 June 2007):
If its that bad then you should just tell her in a really nice way its not fair for you keep having to go downstairs and putting your face in a fish tank just b sensitive about it good luck x
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reader, penta +, writes (11 June 2007):
 If you've smelled another woman before and know what a healthy woman smells like (and don't mind it) then this is your answer. (I just wanted to make sure that it wasn't you first.)
Okay, if she smells, something isn't healthy. She may have a yeast infection. Phrase it to her that you're concerned for her health, and that you'd like her to get checked by a doctor. A yeast infection can have some serious repercussions.
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reader, superfly +, writes (11 June 2007):
Also, don't give oral sex until her situation has been completely looked at by a doctor....!, b/c you can transfer these infections to favorable parts of your body, causing harm and illness.
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reader, superfly +, writes (11 June 2007):
Your girls situation needs the attention of a family physician.100% of the times, we are never aware of body scents of any kind within our own body.However, MOST OF THE times fungal infections, or bacterial infections(vaginitis), can result in smelly smells due to the deterioration of proteins in the vaginal canal, leaving smells similar to decayed matter or meat.These bacteria can come from anywhere...such as using public 'washingteria's', a long time untreated STD, wearing others underwear(etc).Tell her you would like to raise to talk with her about an issue that "'she may not be aware of'.......say to her "'you have mentioned this with a very distant friend of yours...make one up, and say this friend has told you what the problems could be and what can be done to fix her situation."If this goes untreated, it can lead to infections up the reproductive and kidney tracts...possibly resulting in infections there and infertility...Antibiotics will heal this in SHORT TIME!!!GOOD LUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): It is a difficult one. I am lucky, as both my girlfriend and i both wash if we plan to 'go south' (even if this means breaking off for a while ... the excitement will soon be licked back). My suggestion is you say to her "have a wash down there because i've got a treat for you tonight". After she is as fresh as a daisy, spread some chocolate sauce and spend an age on her pleasure. She may well want to repeat the experience ... worth a try at least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Buy a detachable shower head. It cleans up in there a lot better than a regular shower. If she asks why you replaced the shower head, just say you did it because you like them better or that the old one was getting blocked up. If she gets offended easily I would not tell her she stinks. If it is really bad after she showers maybe it is a sexually transmitted infection? You may want to get checked out.
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reader, sparky2107 +, writes (11 June 2007):
Welcome, i recently had this delicate issue to address, the thing is... there is no gift wrapped way to say it, some good advice i had is to share a bath or shower with her then only have oral sex after that, if she doesn't put the 2 together ie clean = oral sex! then you'll have to be brave and say something, the issue is there and it will come out one way or another - wether in your reluctance to have oral sex with her - and she says something like "how come you don't...." or some little things you let slip along the way, either way it will affect the relationship. One thing I learnt from my experience was to not try and find the solution for her or make it sound like there is something wrong with her, at the end of the day it's your preference (some men love a strong odour) and it is natural for a woman to have an odour, apparently it varies through her cycle and from woman to woman, possible areas to address are if she showers often enough? and if so? water isn't good at running up hill so she needs to hold the shower head and direct it properly, also an infection can cause an odour i'm told, i'm sure women readers could help you out more but that's my experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): I am the ORIGINAL poster to this and just wanted to add a couple more thigns I forgot to say - firstly I KNOW she doesn't have any health issues or infections down there are she regularly gets checks (the last one was about a month ago) Also I have lived with a couple women before and I know women tend to have discharge on the crotch of their thongs-normally after a wash it in the machine it is clean again. But with her seems her stains can not be washed out-instead her it seems to "bleach" or "acid" the crotch of her thongs where her discharge was - eg if she has a black underwear the crotch is normally bleached white it seems after its been washed from where her discharge may have been. Is that sort of thing normal? I dont know as never saw it with any other women before. Thanks
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Hia babii, if i was you i wud rly talk 2 her about it.. if it is such a problem that she isnt noticin u must tell her cos she cud have an infection..maybe aviod putin ur face down there and she may ask u why and get the point.. hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): you're right, definatly dont just come out with that. or expect a painful red handprint across your face. i could only suggest dropping hints, obviously not big ones. no offence to her but has she ever heard of fem fresh? its a deodrant for down there. some women have conditions where they do smell a bit. you could buy her a nice 'spontanious' gift of strong perfume to distract the smell. Be careful though because if shes not been checked out it could be an STI and there are some that have no symptoms so she couldnt be aware of it. other than that id sit her down explain how much she means to you and tell her your problem, and maybe have a drink before the pain. all the best .
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): now thats a tough one, one of my ex bfs was simler, they dont seem to notice themselves, i was abit abrupt and to the point and when things where getting hot i said i just cant cos...... but women are far more sensitive, maybe u could say that you find it really erotic to wash each other in that area and take a long hot bath, its a little more difficult for women to cleans, we need to soap up and rinse a few times.
good luck
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