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writes:Ho, I have no idea where I amin life, i am 33, split up with my wife of 2 and s half years last feb, (no third party involved). we're on good terms, still get on but do not want her back, we we're together 7years. I have recently met someone, we met randomly and via text spoke for 3-4 weeks before our first date(on a fri), which went really wells nod she came to my home town on the sun which again went really well, As a result of my split up I have had to take better paid jobs working far from home from mon - fri, which I hate. The new lady is fine with it (she says), she's on hol for 10 days, covering 2 weekends, as a result of my work pattern, I am unable to see her for 3 weeks. We do talk all day everyday on text, even while she's on hol. I have realised that things have started to feel different, changed from light hearted banter to feeling more serious, but then as she's away, and single the holiday romances might come up, feel a bit insecure about it, not that I have a right to or would every let her know. I have started drinking a serious amount, every night, which I'm trying to put a lid on, input that down to hating this new job. I want to go back home.It has occurred to me, that I don't know this girl at all, only the bits she's told me, I know she has links with some serious people, basically gangsters, I don't know if that's true, she's been expelled from school, I good feat for a girl. She could well be having a different guy every night. It's uncomfortable feeling this way but I'm as free and single, with other female options and opportunities. I guess I don't want to mess her around but feel very vulnerable to being on the receiving end at the min. Ex wife is still in the back ground as needs sorting out. I miss home and dogs while away, I just don't feel I know which way is up. And I don't even know where to start. Anyone with wise words? (Apart from sort yourself out, I get that loads from friends) Thanks
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Did you write this while you were drunk?
It's very disjointed but what I gathered is that this girl is trouble. You don't need more drama in your life. Sounds like you should focus on work and possibly work towards getting a job you actually want.
Relationships are terribly distracting and can really steer you off course.
Be extra selfish at the moment and look out for you. Get fit, stop drinking, eat healthy.
What works for me is dropping one bad habit every month and picking up a good one to replace it.
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