How can I lower my sex drive?
Q. How can I stop thinking about sex? I have a sweet girlfriend. However, I keep thinking about sex whether or not she is around. I feel guilty to have such dirty thoughts every time I am around her. This desire always trigger without fail when we show ...
A. 12 January 2011: Hey, You are perfectly normal and healthy. Sex is a wonderful thing and an expression of love towards your partner. Enjoy it. Don't feel ashamed of it. ... (read in full...)
Have I missed the opportunity to resolve this argument?
Q. My boyfriend is on a business trip to Germany for 3 months while I am in the UK. We both took annual leave the week before he left and were supposed to go on holiday but didn’t manage to book anything. So we decided to spend time together where he ...
A. 11 January 2011: You need to stop living in the future and past and live in the PRESENT. You can't do anything about the past and you make your future. If you will be restless and sad and angry, then maybe he will dump you. He is with you which means he loves you. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my heart is encased in ice since she rejected me. I want to go forward
Q. Hi I am here to ask how to stop hurting over my ex. We were together for over 5 years. She was nice to me most of the time and said that I was a wonderful person but she did not love me anymore. She said I didn't do anything wrong, but I feel ...
A. 11 January 2011: If you really want her back, then you need to move forward. You need to stop being needy and you need to ignore her completely. We all want love, its not that there is only one person in the world who can give it. The moment you are in love with ... (read in full...)
Do others get caught having sex?
Q. I have been caught several times by my parents and my boyfriends parents "messing around"/ foreplay and once having sex, I am so traumatized! Does this happen to a lot of people? ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well, you need to learn from your parents. Have you caught them having sex ever ;-)... (read in full...)
I call him, but he never calls me!
Q. I love a guy vey much bt we are just frnds...on every sunday i call him(he never called me) and we talk for couple of hours....frum last two weeks i didnt call him just to check whether he calls me or not and he didnt call me....I m dying to talk to ...
A. 10 January 2011: Call him and scold him for not calling you back and hang up. Throw your temper tantrum, woman!! If he likes you, he will call you back and apologize. ... (read in full...)
I stopped, but should I start masturbating again?
Q. Dear cupid my life is a wreck,i have just recently quit porn and masturbation,these two things ruined my life last year,i lost attraction and interest in girls.now that ive quit,ive developed strange feelings for women which are making me feel very ...
A. 10 January 2011: Great that you have quit porn. Strange feelings for women at your age is normal and healthy. Just don't act on them. Have you stopped masturbation completely? You can do couple of times a week, no problem at all. Just don't look at porn. Use your ... (read in full...)
I want my friend to forget his ex!
Q. ok i made a post about my close male friend claiming he likes me and which I also like however he is still missing his ex girlfriend. When we met as friends, he poured out his heart to me about his past relationship. It was for 7 years but has been ...
A. 10 January 2011: First stage has passed where he has expressed all his feelings to you. I think he will be a bit sad for few days as when he must be telling his story, he will be remembering the days he spent with her ex and what hurt him during breakup. That may ... (read in full...)
Will my babies be born with problems?
Q. I was married to my first cousin 5 month ago….now I want be a mother. But I have herd that the baby born for relatives are born with physical or mental problem. Please help me....
A. 10 January 2011: You should ask a doctor. You didn't think about this before your marriage?... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be just friends after a long term serious relationship?
Q. After a pretty nasty break up with my boyfriend, we decided to talk. I want to stay together, but he wants to be just friends for right now. Is it possible to be just friends after a long term serious relationship? How do you just be friends? Im ...
A. 10 January 2011: Breakups and reunions are common and when you get together again, you 2 will feel you 2 have matured and understand each other better now. But after sometime when you settle down, same issues may come up. I am not saying it will come up but it may ... (read in full...)
He wants to video tape us having sex and I'm not comfortable with it
Q. Okay so I've dating my boyfriend for 5 months I love him more then anything. I'm in college and he works. He's 34 years old and I'm 19 years old. I know there is a big gap but I love him and I feel like he does loves me back. so we had issues in the ...
A. 10 January 2011: Don't do it ever and you will ave peace of mind.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be friends with her if I can't be her boyfriend!
Q. In short, I know a girl who I became friends with over the past year. But to be honest, being friends with her is not like being friends with one of my guy friends. We talk, or rather she does most of the talking. I find myself in a role of helping ...
A. 9 January 2011: You are doing the right thing. Some beautiful girls feel its natural for them to be treated as queen as they get lot of attention from everyone. I understand its hard as deep inside you, you don't want to lose a beautiful and sweet girl and have ... (read in full...)
Why do we go back to the ex's that hurt us most?
Q. I'd like to know why we go back to the ex's that hurt us the most? I was in a LDR with my ex for almost 2 years. Basically I found out that he was sleeping with, texting, meeting and emailing other girls whilst we were together. When I ended it...
A. 9 January 2011: Because you are feeling lonely, you want love, you want to feel special, taken care of, have fun, (who doesn't?) and you get all this from him... But once a cheater, always a cheater. You need to wait for the right person to come along; who respects ... (read in full...)
I can't break up with my controlling boyfriend!
Q. I'm having a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. I love him a lot and I'm sure he loves me too. But i don't like him anymore. I don't like the person he's become. He is immature, confrontational,...
A. 9 January 2011: Looks like you have been very patient with him all this time but at the same time had enough. Maybe you can show him to a therapist and maybe they can work on his insecurity issues. He needs to be treated and he need to first learn to love himself. ... (read in full...)
Am I weird for wanting to marry the only man I've ever dated?
Q. Hi, I'm a woman, 23 years old, and I have only dated one man seriously in my life. He's my boyfriend at the moment, and we've been together since I was 17 (yeah, first real bf at 17, I was a late bloomer!) He loves me and wants to marry me, ...
A. 9 January 2011: Well, I think you 2 got what you wanted at the perfect time. Please don't complicate your life by dating someone else forcefully. True love is with one and only. All the best!!... (read in full...)
Is it ok to hold a grudge for that long?
Q. Alright, this girl i knew a 3 years ago is trying to get in contact with me. She use to be my bestfriend till one day i found out she had sex with my boyfriend at the time when the 3 of us were hanging out at another friends house. Even though i ...
A. 9 January 2011: What she did was completely unacceptable to you so its natural to hold a grudge. But try to forgive her as everyone is not perfect and we all make mistakes. To err is human!! But that doesn't mean that you should get in contact with her again. Try ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be friends with her if I can't be her boyfriend!
Q. In short, I know a girl who I became friends with over the past year. But to be honest, being friends with her is not like being friends with one of my guy friends. We talk, or rather she does most of the talking. I find myself in a role of helping ...
A. 9 January 2011: Selfish means excess care of oneself and disregard of others feelings. In your case, you have been giving a lot, both in emotional and financial respect and she is the one who is taking. You are emotionally attached to her and you want to be ... (read in full...)
I just want him to kiss me ...
Q. I've written here before about this guy. We've been seeing each other for about 3 months. During that time he's been recovering from a surgery. We talk 24/7 via phone calls, text, and get together about once a week. Last night, New Year's Eve, we ...
A. 2 January 2011: I think its just shyness. I was also shy in my first relationship. After many days, we somehow went to a park which was dark and empty. There she sat very close to me and her cheek was facing me with invitation written all over to kiss her. I kissed ... (read in full...)
My life is a mess... what tips do you have for me?
Q. My life is fucked up... What to do? I am 23 year old guy. For the past 1 year, things havent been going the way i wanted..or rather i should say it never went. I am neither a sportsman nor a geek. I am lazy. First of all, Internet Pornogr...
A. 2 January 2011: You should meet a doctor for sure. Get yourself checked up if everything is fine. One tip which always works is exercise and healthy diet. Join a gym and start lifting weights. This will help a lot in enhancing your mood. And always remember, "you ... (read in full...)
I like to cuddle my best friend
Q. My friend, who is a girl, and I are best friends. We are really close and I trust her with almost everything. We have sleepovers a lot and always sleep in same bed and cuddle. Is that wrong? sometimes we stay up all night just hugging or rubbing ...
A. 2 January 2011: Ah, its perfectly normal and in fact its so good you 2 have such a lovely friendship. Its the intention which matters more. Keep hugging and loving... huggies from me as well to you both ;-)... (read in full...)
I've tried to be a friend, but I have been played for a fool
Q. sorry for the length but please guys can anyone advise. ive known a guy for over a year. I thought we were good friends hes had a lot of personal issues and trauma which ive been there for him, hes borrowed a fairly large amount £400 ? in bits over ...
A. 2 January 2011: Well, this is not at all lengthy.
You are such a wonderful person for helping him without asking for anything. If he has not returned your money then there is an issue. And if he is lying on top of that, then there is really a big issue.
What... (read in full...)
I sent a boy embarassing pictures of myself
Q. Hello I'm seeking good advice these are the details to my DilEmma I'm an 18 tease old female soon to be 19 in a few months,I'm not a virgin but in FebuAry it will be a year since I decided sex is for marrige,the begginibg of my abstinence. Six mont...
A. 2 January 2011: I am not sure why you are thinking about abstinence as having a relationship is a healthy thing. Maybe you want to concentrate only on studies for now. I feel relationship matters to u a lot which is a great thing and I respect you for that. ... (read in full...)
How can I fix those missing feelings and get them back?
Q. So my problem is, I cheated on my boyfriend and now have no want to be around him or be intimate with him. My feelings for him, well I don't know if they've changed, but I know I still love him. I've been trying to to dump him because it hurts too ...
A. 1 January 2011: You said "now have no want to be around him or be intimate with him, ... feel nothing when we kiss and can't get turned on by him anymore, And also, I really like who I cheated on him with".
Means you want to start a new relationship but don't wa... (read in full...)
He Says We Are Done, So Why Does He StilL Call Me Like We Are Still Dating, Each and Every Day?
Q. Hello. I know, I know, this sounds totally riduculous, but here goes. I have to have closure for the New Year, and perhaps you can help me. I had been dating a man for approximately 18 months before we split up during the Summer of 2010. We ...
A. 1 January 2011: Maybe he just wants to be friends with you so even after breakup, he is still getting what he wanted. Are you getting what you wanted? I guess no. If you still want him back but he doesnt and you keep talking to him, then what you are doing is ... (read in full...)
She tells me she still loves me, but as a friend
Q. I dated a girl, who I absolutely fell in love with from the first time I met her. However, things did not work out for us. It was my fault, I said things I shouldn't have. I have continued to have feelings for her. She continues to want to be ...
A. 1 January 2011: Maybe she also loves you but unable to express as she is engaged to some other guy. Ask her to come with you if she really loves you. Be straightforward and tell that her that you can't love her as a friend. If she cant, then just stop talking to ... (read in full...)
How do I earn my boyfriend's trust back?
Q. How can I earn my boyfriend's trust back? I didn't physically cheat on him. I'm going through a VERY hard time right now. I recently lost my family. We were separated with foster families. The reasons don't matter, the point is that I went to a town ...
A. 1 January 2011: Don't worry, it will be fine but it will take time so be patient. Do some extra favors for him to make him happy.
Why do you do such silly things girls, seriously!!!... (read in full...)
What would you guys do in a no win situation like mine?
Q. Hey. Just after some advice. Do you think hiding things is ever ok? My boyfriend is a very jealous, posessive and sometimes paranoid person. From past experiences with him I now go put of my way to avoid confrontation and accusations from him. ...
A. 1 January 2011: He is very insecure and has low self esteem. He doesnt think he is good enough so he gets threatened by someone else. You should not hide things because if you do and if he finds it out, it will much worse. Worse for you. There will not be any end ... (read in full...)
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