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writes:ok i made a post about my close male friend claiming he likes me and which I also like however he is still missing his ex girlfriend. When we met as friends, he poured out his heart to me about his past relationship. It was for 7 years but has been over for a year. He claims he likes me but today, I noticed he was distant and I asked him why. He didn't want to tell me before but later told me, he is still mourning the loss of his ex girlfriend.I have tried talking to him. I don't know what else to do for him. i just want him to be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): I think the best thing you can do, is to do nothing. Just let him be. This is his issue to deal with, not yours. Don't get in his face about it. Moving on, grieving a loss, getting over someone, is a highly personal process. You can't direct it for him or rush it along. Just give him his space.
You can still hang out together as friends, and you can continue to be a sympathetic ear for him to pour out his heart to, but don't be the one to bring it up first.
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reader, cupid_1234 +, writes (10 January 2011):
 First stage has passed where he has expressed all his feelings to you. I think he will be a bit sad for few days as when he must be telling his story, he will be remembering the days he spent with her ex and what hurt him during breakup. That may have made him emotional. Which is good as it means he takes relationship very seriously. He also maybe disillusioned about the previous relationship and a bit scared to enter a new one(or rather losing it again). But with time, when you 2 will have good time together, new fresh loving memories will erase/bury his past memories. Talking time is over. Its action time now. Take him out to places and have fun.
It will take time. Just be with him and have patience. All the best!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Im afraid its going to take a long time for him to move on after 7yrs it is said it takes 2 yrs for every year they was together
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