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writes:How can I earn my boyfriend's trust back? I didn't physically cheat on him. I'm going through a VERY hard time right now. I recently lost my family. We were separated with foster families. The reasons don't matter, the point is that I went to a town that's about two hours away from where I live. We stayed there about three days and I have no communication with anyone else but our best friend. I texted him looking for my boyfriend but he wasn't there, instead we started texting. Then he asked me for some inappropriate pictures. I refused and we argued until he finally talked me into it. My boyfriend found the pictures and he asked me abou them when I got back. I explained to him what really happened and he forgave me, but I still have to earn his trust back. How do I do that? I already promised I'd stop talking to the guy and deleted his number And everything, but I want him to trust me. I wasn't thinking right. I was alone and needed my boyfriend, I needed some comfort and when I found it I made a mistake. I'm in love with my boyfriend and even though he forgave me and we're still together he doesn't trust me. Help!?
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reader, cupid_1234 +, writes (1 January 2011):
 Don't worry, it will be fine but it will take time so be patient. Do some extra favors for him to make him happy.
Why do you do such silly things girls, seriously!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): hunny we all make mistakes nobody on this earth is perfect enough to say that they dont. Just hold on in there. You hav done the right things to start making it better now just stick by your word and try not give in. And i hope the situation with ur family gets better soon. I cant imagine how hard it must b to be seperated. All the best hun. Poppy x
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 Do not worry. You have already done all the right things, all you can do now is give him some time, perhaps spend more time together and just let him know that you still love him and that he is still dear to you.
And I think the reasons do matter greatly. The reason he has forgiven you is because even though it was the wrong thing to do it wasn't completely unseen or unexpected. You were/are distraught and broken, why wouldn't you have sought comfort? But you knew it was wrong and it was one mistake, in time he will trust you again. Now you have learned, never give in to something like that again.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (1 January 2011):
 It'll come with time. Theres not much you can do to earn it back, just dont do anything to lose it...again.
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reader, Secretlife  +, writes (1 January 2011):
if you just show your boyfriend that you really love him and only him and show him that you're faithful you'll be ok.
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reader, LittleMissy  +, writes (1 January 2011):
Well I'm not suprised he doesn't trust you but we all make mistakes. The best way to try and get his trust back is to be 100% open with him about absolutely everything for a while. Whether it's who you're talking to, or where you're going. Show him you love and care about him. I think the main thing you need to do though is build your self esteem up. It sounds like you need attention, and it makes you "easy" for boys. Talk to some one who understands and think twice before you do anything to disrespect your body again. X
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