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writes: Hello I'm seeking good advice these are the details to my DilEmmaI'm an 18 tease old female soon to be 19 in a few months,I'm not a virgin but in FebuAry it will be a year since I decided sex is for marrige,the begginibg of my abstinence. Six months ago I met a young man 19 yearea old and we began a friendship,I'm not too sure how it occurred but ge asked me ob a date and I said I don't know and that I would take his offer into consideration and I never have him a clear answer ge initiated to text me frequently and call me babe and ecentuallt I caught myself calling him babe aswell and today I did something I deeply regret,we exchanged photographs his his was just of him without a shirt and for some odd reason I decided to send him photograph of my booty no face shots or anything and I did have Indies on but still I feel horrible I promised mtself that part of me was dead and gone I qas doinh so well focusing on school and not caring one but about boys oe dating,I feel horruble what should I do would like to make pt clear to this young man Im not interested in continuing that sherAde it was a mistake I'm very firm and speak with clarity but I just and very upset at mtself I am unsure how to go about this situation advice would be greatly appreTiaTed,sorry for the badly punctuated story bd for the various spelling infractions I'm going to blame it on my phones annoying t9.
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reader, Aida +, writes (6 January 2011):
 well take it as a lesson learned but i wouldn't worry about it.
you didn't show your face so you'll be fine.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Abstinence only means you need to free yourself from the physical nature of lust. I think out of habit, you sent him that picture but you can still tell him that your actions were not supposed to convey the meaning he might have received, apologize in case he thought different things, he should understand and you two can carry on being friends.
I do not know how you feel about him but you should not try and resist anything pure, anything even remotely close to love should not bring you shame and perhaps such healthy feelings could help you rid yourself of the more impure habits you might possess. Hopefully you will still be able to focus on your studies. Good luck
I hope that helps.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Well, now you know. Don't do it in the future. It might seem fun at the time, but remember to stop and think.. will I regret this in the morning?
Don't beat yourself up, just don't do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Just your boobs? At least you were not wearing stripes with plaid.
Once you have sent it, you can't take it back. You worrying about it is like paying interest on money you haven't borrowed yet.
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reader, cupid_1234 +, writes (2 January 2011):
 I am not sure why you are thinking about abstinence as having a relationship is a healthy thing. Maybe you want to concentrate only on studies for now. I feel relationship matters to u a lot which is a great thing and I respect you for that. Whatever be the reason, falling in love and getting attracted to someone is a very natural and normal thing. So being abstinent you are trying to shut your normal desires. Desires are bound to come out one way or another. I don't think you should worry about it at all as you didn't reveal anything in the pics. Maybe you can have a relationship with someone who gives you lots of space for your studies and gives you encouragement when needed.
Sweety, don't feel bad about it. Everything is fine. Enjoy your studies and life and all the best :-)
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