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Why do we go back to the ex's that hurt us most?

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Question - (9 January 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 9 January 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'd like to know why we go back to the ex's that hurt us the most?

I was in a LDR with my ex for almost 2 years. Basically I found out that he was sleeping with, texting, meeting and emailing other girls whilst we were together. When I ended it he denied everything, but then admitted to it all and then sobbed and asked me back for about 3 months. But I vowed that I hated him and that he would never have me back, so he stopped asking.

We've been split up for 8 months now.. However about a month ago he popped up on facebook saying happy birthday and asking how i had been etc. As i've been getting on with my life.. I told him i'd forgive, but never forget what he did. But since we talked, I cant stop thinking about him and we've talked more and more, and I know i still love him. Without knowing about the cheating.. I loved our relationship, we had so much fun, we were passionate and close and shared everything.

Whyyy? Whyyyyy would i want to go back to someone who didn't respect me? Who cheated on me multiple times???

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A male reader, cupid_1234 United States +, writes (9 January 2011):

cupid_1234 agony auntBecause you are feeling lonely, you want love, you want to feel special, taken care of, have fun, (who doesn't?) and you get all this from him... But once a cheater, always a cheater. You need to wait for the right person to come along; who respects you and is faithful. There are more important things in your life than him.

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