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writes:So my problem is, I cheated on my boyfriend and now have no want to be around him or be intimate with him. My feelings for him, well I don't know if they've changed, but I know I still love him. I've been trying to to dump him because it hurts too much to stay with him when I feel nothing when we kiss and can't get turned on by him anymore. Everytime I try to leave him I get pulled back. I feel like I need him in my life and like he's there for a reason. He won't jus be friends either. Its either date him or nothing. And also, I really like who I cheated on him with, but I still love him. And after trying to dump him I realize how much I care. How can I fix those missing feelings and get them back?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u guys, and no I'm not trying to have both of them. I told the other guy I wanted to stop talKing and I think its because I was interested in him that I wasn't interested in my own damn boyfriend. I love my boyfriend, so I told him. Hess hurt, but knows that I am trying to fix this all. I said if things don't get better we can break up but asked for a second chance and he gave it to me. I do believe he loves me a lot since most guys wouldn't give a cheating gf another chance. I'm done with what I was doing and I've got all my focus on him. Thanks again guys, although this answer - How would you feel if the script was flipped and he was the one cheating on you? So you want have your cake and eat his to. Please get a grip girl and stop thinking only about yourself. Do him a favor break up with him and be happy with the one you're cheating with. You are selfish!- was very unhelpful. I was trying to get a grip, why do you think I was trying to get stuff figured out?! Hm
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): How would you feel if the script was flipped and he was the one cheating on you? So you want have your cake and eat his to. Please get a grip girl and stop thinking only about yourself. Do him a favor break up with him and be happy with the one you're cheating with. You are selfish!
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reader, soon567 +, writes (1 January 2011):
You can't get those feeling back because you're not into him. As you see you care for him a lot but you know deep inside you can give yourself to him. If you two worry married you would be more likely to stray on him.
Many people is like him, all or nothing, if he loves you then he'll want you to be with someone that could make you happy. Who really wants to be with someone who doesn't really wants to be with him. Go ahead and tell him that it will not work. If you wait longer then it'll be that much more hard to make the break.
Your new guy isn't that great and I would pass on him, if he cheat with you then what do that tells you? He'll cheat. Let him be some other girl problem. You see yourself as a cheat yet you just don't see this isn't a relationship that will stand the times. You need to look at the bigger picture, yours relationship may become like so many others (brother/sister) if you don't end this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): Stay with your cocheater. Stop being selfish and don't stay. Don't you think he deserves a girl who isn't promiscuous and fake? Guys don't want girls who sleep around and bounce from one bed to the next. Stay with your cocheater.
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reader, cupid_1234 +, writes (1 January 2011):
 You said "now have no want to be around him or be intimate with him, ... feel nothing when we kiss and can't get turned on by him anymore, And also, I really like who I cheated on him with".
Means you want to start a new relationship but don't want to be blamed for breaking the relationship and feel guilty.
(It would be wonderful if he ended it, isn't it?)
Take some responsibility for your actions and be honest and tell him that now you love someone else and cant carry on with this relation.
You can't have the cake and then eat it too.
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