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writes:I'm having a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. I love him a lot and I'm sure he loves me too. But i don't like him anymore. I don't like the person he's become. He is immature, confrontational,rude, unthoughtful and worst of all: He's terribly jealous. I have two friends. And since i met him they have become distant relationships. All my time is spent thinking, worrying, arguing, being with him. I'm a junior in college, and wish to move off campus my senior year. He doesn't want me to move in with one of my two only friends because he feels she will influence me to party and drink and smoke and I'm guessing cheat. He thinks he will make a better roommate, but doesn't have the money to afford the type of place I want. He hasn't even taken me out on a date in the past two months because of money issues.What he doesn't realize is that if I move, I will no doubt be closer to him, be able to spend more time with him, and he can also sleep over.He hates my friends. They have done nothing too him. I lie to them and tell them he likes them because I'm embarrassed of his behavior. He never wants to be around them, hang out with us, but complains I never invite him to do things.He once told me I should erase every guys number from my phone! And got mad when I wouldn't. He says he wants to marry me, have a family with me,all that. But I'm afraid if I move in with him the controlling behavior will only get worse. I really want to break up with him. But every time I do, I go back because I get lonely, sad, feel like I'm doing the wrong thing. He is also very persistent and says he's sorry, he loves me, needs me. We ALWAYS get back together. The relationship has been a mess for a long long time. But i do love him and have fun with him sometimes. Should I leave?? How can I do it??
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reader, cupid_1234 +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Looks like you have been very patient with him all this time but at the same time had enough. Maybe you can show him to a therapist and maybe they can work on his insecurity issues. He needs to be treated and he need to first learn to love himself. Gift him books which deals with self-love and how to deal with low self-esteem. Show him some documentaries on it.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 He definitely has trust issues and whether you've done something to cause that only asking and discussing that will reveal the truth but by the sounds of things his too unstable to even try having a mature discussion.
He has to understand if he keeps this attitude up his going to hurt himself more in the long run for no smart woman is going to stay around for too long. Dating is like marriage in its all communication and give and take and by sounds of things he is all take with no giving.
His controlling too controlling if you get married itd only get worse especially if he doesnt break out of the controlling mold find someone who is trusting and not a control freak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Yes, you should leave him. He is controlling and your relationship is not healthy. There are a number of issues that sound disturbing. It is worth a while of feeling heartbroken in order to get your life back. Really, he is bad news. You are better off alone than with someone like him.
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