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I had also seen so many break ups and reconciliations.
I am new to this site but it is a good way to spend time.
And I hope I can help you with your problems.
Please always remember that my answers or responds to your questions are just my mere opinions on the way how I see things on your questions.
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Feeling like killing yourself? Here's some help.
Don't Kill Yourself
Seek help if you are possibly contemplating suicide as it is not the answer to anything. It only causes grief.
You can call people for assistance.
* In the US you can call 1-800-784-2433 (toll-free)
* In the UK you can call 08457 90 90 90
* In Ireland you can call 1850 60 90 90
* In Australia you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 (local call)
* In Australia you can call Kids Help Line on 1800 55 1800 (toll-free)
Worldwide
I urge you to call one of the Suicide helplines. The following site has numbers in the United States and worldwide:
* http://psychcentral.com/helpme.htm
and this site lets you find a phone number in your own country:
* http://www.befrienders.org/support/helplines.asp
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Suicide is illegal in many countries (Wikianswers cannot facilitate the commission of any crime) and besides we care about you and want you to live.
Please talk to a counselor about your problems, nothing is bad enough to take your own life over.
If your life is at a place where suicide seems better than going on, think about some very important things. Life can turn from horrible to wonderful in a very short period of time. Your life, whether you know it today or not, has a positive impact on someone. It might be your family, your friends, your co-workers, your neighbors...someone knows you in a way that you can't see. Suicide is permanent... there's no turning back. The deep feelings you have today will be different tomorrow; regardless of how down you feel, you'll have something tomorrow that can, if you let it, make you feel better. Our problems are often so great, so real and feel so devastating that leaving life behind seems like the only answer. But it's not an answer. It leaves many, many questions for anyone we leave. It gives your name a legacy of not being able to cope, of not seeing the good in anyone around you. I'm sure this isn't what you want for your name. Please sleep. Please cry hard, if you must, and talk to someone who loves you. But please, also, put the idea of making a permanent end to what could be temporary problems out of your head. Even though I don't know you, I care about you. Every life has purpose. Every single life. Please try to find yours before thinking about killing yourself.
No matter how bad it is right now, it can only get better- when you are down try doing something nice for someone else. It sounds a little lame but it works, scientifically it's called a helper's high. It gets your mind off depressing things and helps you add value to society and confidence for yourself.
Try planting a tree, writing a card to your friend/family member, volunteer a day at the Boys' and Girls' Club or even answer some questions on WikiAnswers! Feel better and harness your Awesomeness!
If you are asking a legitimate question because you are planning to kill yourself, call 911 in the USA, or 999 in the UK, or the emergency number for the country you are in, right now, and tell them that.
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A. 19 July 2009: I will advice cowgirl if she had some experience.
I think since it is the first time, just go with the flow of emotions. Enjoy each other, it's not yet time for experiments.
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Just updating everyone.
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Wish you for more good things to happen
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I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend whom I left.
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A. 11 July 2009: Oh that's a good start.
Well Enjoy the rest of the thing.... (read in full...)
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But being as the person with the first hand information about the issue and you know what's the best for you.
Do it with no regrets.
Be happy in some other ways and stay happy.... (read in full...)
I see this guy all the time, but he is not interested, how can I get over him completely?
Q. I NEED your help. The boy I have fancied for 2 years, told me a couple of days ago, that me and him would never work. Not even in secret. And it just made me feel like i am a no one. I need your help because, he is in the year above me, but we talk ...
A. 11 July 2009: Oh that's a great downfall! Girl he would not be your first boyfriend if he agrees right? Other guys have been interested on you, right?
Well you just might not be his type even a bit for him to say that on you. Girl time to set your mind on othe... (read in full...)
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Q. My girlfriend went to her friends (friend #1 who is a girl) to hang out with friend #1 and friend #2(who is a guy, and has a crush on my girlfriend) She later texted me saying she was staying the night at friend #2's house. I later found out fr...
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First, he will get angry, that's using the comm... (read in full...)
My stepfather to be wants me to call him dad, he is abusive and I don't like him, what can I do?
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What's goin... (read in full...)
When a guy says, while holding a girl's hand that he caught a big fish, what does he mean?
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A. 10 July 2009: If you want a straight answer, he loves you.
If you want a sweet one, it's to show you how much you mean to him.
If you want a joke, your not a big fish right?
Another one, why not tell him you wanna see the worm that catches the fish.
Dea... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants nothing to do with sex, is this normal?
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A. 10 July 2009: Man that's normal. Ladies are not as horny as you guys. Conservatives still lives on this planet. I hope it's not the only thing you are after on your girlfriend. She had assured you a sex so don't pressure her. Just enjoy each others company ... (read in full...)
My friend is making passes towards my girfriend, should I confront him?
Q. Hi I have a question.Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 years.I love her a lot and we have been through a lot.Now heres the thing me and my friend go to the same gym and so does my girlfriend after the last few weeks he has gotten ...
A. 10 July 2009: YES AND TOTALLY GO CONFRONT HIM!!!!!!! I think he is forgetting something that that girl is taken by his FRIEND!!! Damned with people like that. Oh! Sorry! Too much of a reaction. Here's a better idea. CLEAR THINGS FIRST! Try talking to your girl... (read in full...)
How can I stand for myself more, I let myself be taken advantage of?
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A. 10 July 2009: Hey your completely me but wait I'm not the one who posted it right? OK! Enough with the jokes. I am not yet capable of removing it and don't have that much of a plan to take it off. Well it's all because this is me. I'm just wandering how ca... (read in full...)
She's telling me sexual things, but I'm mates with her boyfriend
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A. 10 July 2009: Well it's time to let your mate know. That girl is not good for your mate, if your mate is some kinda a good person. You can't let that attractive (physical + mental) girl do such thing. You might not know it's not only you she is flirting with. ... (read in full...)
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Are blow jobs now an expected part of making out?
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A. 10 July 2009: I agree with betty black. And even though in a modernized time child must be child. Considering that I'm living in a conservative country, as considered by most of the people. May i know your worries about this.... (read in full...)
I prefer to sit and cry for hours, is this some kind of depression or split personality disorder?
Q. Hello. I'm just having a hard time to smile these past few days. Though I found this site to be very worthwhile I still feel like there's something I lack of. Something I need. It's been months since I've started living alone. My life had been one ...
A. 10 July 2009: OK! Thanks for all the concern.
Here! I will be leaving on Sunday night, going to the province.
Try to unwind and think things through.
And also for me to have someone to be my company.
I'm just not used of being alone.
I have my relatives th... (read in full...)
Can I ask her out or is she 'off-limits'?
Q. Hi, I asked not too long ago about a good gift for a female co-worker for her b-day. Well I got something for her, and she really liked it. Like her expression showed it the whole day. A few days ago, I heard some bad news that implied she was ...
A. 10 July 2009: And good luck! Enjoy and be love.
Don't forget to update us.... (read in full...)
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I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend whom I left.
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I'm also bored with my life. Why not try signing in here, at the dear cupid, be an agony aunt and help other people.
It can also help you. You'll be able to discover more things about this site. It... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband come to my meetings even though he is supportive?
Q. I have an amazing loving bf that I've been with for a year and a half. Recently I joined a new business that sells womens and a small line of mens weight loss garments. Like girdles. When were at home my bf gives me great ideas about advertising he ...
A. 9 July 2009: I found your update an answer to mine so here's my reply back. It will not be long as the first one but please try to think it over. It may contain more messages than it looks like. That company could change your life forever and your life is him, ... (read in full...)
Please help... My brother molested me and I'm afraid he'll do it again.
Q. Recently, my stepbrother has been trying to pants me. i thought it was just some inmature thing a brother would do. but last night, my step brother and me were in my room talking. We were just talking about his ex-girlfriend and other thing like ...
A. 9 July 2009: Uhm girl here. I found some contacts you could try to call. I posted it out on my column. Go and check it out. Please inform me if they have been any help.
And just don't mind the suicidal thing. just the contacts.... (read in full...)
Confused and torn between two guys. Any advice on this situation?
Q. Hi again, the other day, i asked for help for the situation between me and the 28 year old chef at work. When i went to work, i acted like nothing had happened, and it seemed to be ok. Towards the end of the night, however, i noticed him star...
A. 9 July 2009: Girl It's 12 o clock pm now at my place but I will do my best to give my comment.
As things is going on me. Don't be fooled too easy. Give your boyfriend a chance. Think all of the reasons why you answered yes when he asked you to be his girl. At t... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend whom I left.
Q. Hello. I left my ex-boyfriend in early August last year. He hadnt spoke to me much the last month we were together...I feel stupid for leaving him too. I left because i didnt feel loved anymore. Now i feel like i need to be loved and that im needy...
A. 9 July 2009: Oh! That's sad but enough with the sadness. You know what I remembered someone because of that. I also fell in love with a man who acts so bad in front of others but when I'm around or just the two of us he is so cute ,adorable, the most handsome... (read in full...)
My guy hesitates to take it further with me
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A. 9 July 2009: The problem is your too good to be true and by that I want you for my brother, just kidding. OK. Well said and put together with regards to the point and thought. The problem is clearly pointed out. You are far away traditional and completely the o... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to love me as much and I don't know what to do!
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A. 9 July 2009: It might look as it is but girl you are confusing. First situation. You agreed to have sex but after it you would say it must not go that way. The things in the mind of him at that might be; you're not satisfied(being a guy it would mean a lot... (read in full...)
How can I help my best friend?
Q. Ok my Best friend in the whole wide world i knew her since 2nd grade she is 2 months odlder than me and he is into drugs and sex she has pretty big boobs(double d) and that is why alot of the guys she dates (wich most of them are 17-20)like her and ...
A. 9 July 2009: If you tried everything as you have said. You already have your full. Leave that as a family matter. Get rid of her. It might not be a good thing to hear but its a good thing to do.
Go on with your life. She must be in the caring arms of her fami... (read in full...)
Gaga for Lady Gaga!
Q. My husband has become completely obsessed with Lady GaGa. I mean obsessed!! On the computer are hundreds of pictures and files about her, and even emails arranging to meet with her! We barely have sex anymore, because he feels I'm not enough ...
A. 9 July 2009: I don't think I'm the right one for this but I'll share what I know and understand.
First confirm if it is really the star. It is not the like of stars to do that. You might not knowing Lady Gaga was just part of a front or a plot. He may be seei... (read in full...)
We both should divorce our spouses and work on our relationship with each other, but I'm not sure what to do
Q. Okay here goes. I am seperated and I have a friend of the opposite sex who is also sepereated so we have a lot in common. We have some of the same friends and he is really good friends with my older brother. Well we have hooked up while seperated ...
A. 9 July 2009: All I can say is that you are in the state of longing.
Since you have lost the glow of your first marriage you feel like you also lost a part of yourself and a way of gaining it is through another person. That's when the need arises. Then here come... (read in full...)
Any advice for dealing with depression and anxiety?
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My friends make fun of me and call me fat...but I'M NOT FAT!
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A. 9 July 2009: My friends also do that often and when I say often I mean every chance they can have. But something different between us. The way of viewing things. I'm not hurt even though they mean it as serious as they can get because I have my own eyes that ... (read in full...)
How can I help my best friend?
Q. Ok my Best friend in the whole wide world i knew her since 2nd grade she is 2 months odlder than me and he is into drugs and sex she has pretty big boobs(double d) and that is why alot of the guys she dates (wich most of them are 17-20)like her and ...
A. 9 July 2009: Uhmmm... Let's see. I think she is already absorbed by it and she also have absorbed the thing. It's a little risky but make her regret everything. I think simple talks would not do that much. Most importantly, if you feel being responsible for her ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband come to my meetings even though he is supportive?
Q. I have an amazing loving bf that I've been with for a year and a half. Recently I joined a new business that sells womens and a small line of mens weight loss garments. Like girdles. When were at home my bf gives me great ideas about advertising he ...
A. 9 July 2009: Oh dear how long have you been married? how many children do you have?
You must understand your better half about this. His supports are only on the stuffs you have mentioned. It will not go further. I think you have the problem this time. He is o... (read in full...)
He used to call me everynight but not anymore...
Q. So, a while ago, I would say around the beginning of April, I met this amazing guy. At the time, I thought he was just a guy trying to "get some" so I didn't pay any mind to him. But then I really started talking to him and getting to know him, and ...
A. 9 July 2009: If your after for love you need to set things straight first. Clear what is your relationship. Know his stands about your idea. Be open. Let him know. By then you need to make up your mind based on everything. Consider everything right from the ... (read in full...)
Can I ask her out or is she 'off-limits'?
Q. Hi, I asked not too long ago about a good gift for a female co-worker for her b-day. Well I got something for her, and she really liked it. Like her expression showed it the whole day. A few days ago, I heard some bad news that implied she was ...
A. 9 July 2009: I can say go for it man! You have a nice chance. Even though it's your first woman, the idea of showing who you really are is very important and am glad you know it.
Looking at your message, it tells me that you are a good man.
Well, good luck and... (read in full...)
Please help... My brother molested me and I'm afraid he'll do it again.
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A. 8 July 2009: Oh My God!.. Dear you need to tell it to someone or something worse might happen. The very first person to know this is your mother. Try to open up to her. Girl you really need to stop this right from the start. Oh! You really need to talk to tour ... (read in full...)
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