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26-29,
*rook_e_boo
writes:Ok my Best friend in the whole wide world i knew her since 2nd grade she is 2 months odlder than me and he is into drugs and sex she has pretty big boobs(double d) and that is why alot of the guys she dates (wich most of them are 17-20)like her and i don't know what to do to get her to stop all of it i tryed almost everything in the book like:u will be a knowbody:you will end up so poor:u will hate your life:your teeth will fot and fall out:you will die from some dissise please give me some advise she won't stop weed cigs sex and this would be better and not much of somthing to worry abouut if she was older but she is 13!!!!!
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reader, Azula  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 If you tried everything as you have said. You already have your full. Leave that as a family matter. Get rid of her. It might not be a good thing to hear but its a good thing to do.
Go on with your life. She must be in the caring arms of her family. They already know what's good for her. Let go and go on with yours.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 Hi,
She sounds like she has gone on a self destruct mission. There will always be a problem at the back of this somewhere, it could be her parents.
Telling her she will die, and all the other stuff you are saying wont help, believe me I know. Its a very hard and complex situation, because the likelihood of her seeing that you are trying to help will go straight over her head, as you have discovered.
Please dont give up on her though, because when she comes down, which she will with a bump, she will need you. Do you have a tutor that you could talk to and trust?. Telling her parents could back-fire, because she resent you, but if all else fails you might have too.
One day she will thank her lucky stars that she had a mate like you.
Good luck X
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 in my experience, telling someone they are doing the wrong thing and they have to stop doesn't work at all, as long as they want to keep doing it they will.
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reader, Azula +, writes (9 July 2009):
Uhmmm... Let's see. I think she is already absorbed by it and she also have absorbed the thing. It's a little risky but make her regret everything. I think simple talks would not do that much. Most importantly, if you feel being responsible for her because you are her best friend. The way you describe it, the best thing you can do now is to let her parents know what she is suffering from. Blinded by the pleasure and pressure of others and lost in the dark. The parents can take it from there.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (9 July 2009):
 hun if you're concerned tell her parents what she is doing this isn't normal for a 13 year old she's illegal for all of that!
you've tried to help her in your best ways and maybe it's time to bring in the parents its there child they need to get her sorted out before she gets really ill due to STD's or anything or ends up doing something stupid because she is high!
hope this helps sweety :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (9 July 2009):
Brook_e_boo is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes i have tryed EVERYTHING she is consited she thinks she is the best thing on this earth so idk
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reader, Sceneo +, writes (9 July 2009):
I've had this problem recently with a very close friend, although i wouldn't say we're close friends now.
It seems that she's doing this to fit in with the crowd. Maybe she feels like an outsider and needs the drugs ect to prove herself.
I know this situation all so so well, and i must say smoking weed at age 13 is really bad. What i did was;
I had it out with my friend through MSN messenger. I told her how i felt. This shows that you care about her.
She'll soon get bored of the drugs and sex, novilty will wear off, trust me. I'd focus on your relationships with other friends as things may not be the same with this friend, its always good to have a back up.....
It may seem like you've lost your friend, but she's still the same person.
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reader, Sceneo +, writes (9 July 2009):
I've had this problem recently with a very close friend, although i wouldn't say we're close friends now.
It seems that she's doing this to fit in with the crowd. Maybe she feels like an outsider and needs the drugs ect to prove herself.
I know this situation all so so well, and i must say smoking weed at age 13 is really bad. What i did was;
I had it out with my friend through MSN messenger. I told her how i felt. This shows that you care about her.
She'll soon get bored of the drugs and sex, novilty will wear off, trust me. I'd focus on your relationships with other friends as things may not be the same with this friend, its always good to have a back up.....
It may seem like you've lost your friend, but she's still the same person.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 July 2009):
Have you tried finding out WHY she wants to do all this?
Does she think this is the only way she can feel good about herself?
Is she doing this to avoid problems at home?
Most of the time when people act like this it's because she WANTS to hurt herself and feels she deserves it. So telling her it's bad won't help.
Talk to her, arrange to do fun stuff just the 2 of you.
Good Luck!! xx
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