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writes:I'm a bit complicated, I think. I am seeing a psychiatrist, but he is four hours away (I was living in a different state when I first started seeing him). He diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. My mom has both so I suppose there's a link? Anyway, I've become a very sensitive person at work. If my boss tells me I'm doing something wrong, I feel like crying and have to use everything in me not to. Before work, I usually feel like crying, but once I'm off I'm as good as ever. Also before going to sleep at night I get a bit depressed thinking about the next day. I wish I was a stronger person.. It would make my life easier. I have been through a lot in my life-I am 19 years old, but I've found myself a job as a receptionist, and I'm pretty independent. I can't enjoy sex though..I never have been able to. Maybe because of my depression? Anyway, my doctor hasn't yet found a medication that works well for me for my depression or anxiety, so I'm suffering right now with my sex life, work, and just day-to-day things. It really sucks. So I thought I'd go online and see if I could get some advice, instead of laying miserably in bed pondering my complications. I really wish my psychiatrist lived closer. I have an appointment to see him on Monday, but I feel like I should be seeing a therapist or someone I can talk to regularly. What do yall think is a good idea? Am I missing the bigger picture? Is this just life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): I know exactly how you feel. I had a huge depression when I was 18 years old, and for about one year and a half I was just like you. By that time, I believed that there was no solution for me, and that tooked me to a suicide attempt... I'm now 21 years old and the depression is gone! My advice may sounds basic, but I think you must know: the best way to deal with a depression is to believe that there is a solution. Believe me. I know it sucks so badly, but please be patient, because this takes time to disapear... but someday it will.
PS- and don't blame yourself!!! You don't have folt for being sick
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reader, Azula  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 Hello! Well its not as serious as what is on my column but try reading my column. You'll found a nice one to talk to there. Email me at once you have read it. I want to know your reaction about it. And add me as your friend, It is to let you know that I am here if you need someone to talk to. I may be a stranger but it is always good to talk to someone. After all I can done you no wrong. Hope I can help you.
Uhm so much with that. Your living independent. same as i was doing and I'm at the range of age of 13-16 yo. Signing in in this site is a good idea to spend time but you are depressed and the way things go here you just might be even more depressed. Have yourself a vacation or a week long rest.
Regarding about your crying whenever your boss told you your wrong, it's normal. It is just you put everything to make it right, all the efforts to make it goo and yet no one appreciate it. That's your point on crying. You need to level up your emotion. Watch a comedy show. Talk to a happy person. Do something charitable. Always remember there are so many things this world is hiding for you. Those stuffs only awaits you to see them.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 hun i understand how you're feeling i'm 20 been through some stuff in my life.
i think maybe a therapist would be a better option for you
i am not a therapist myself no but i think maybe talking over these things outloud to someone else may help you gain perspective and have a better outlook on your life.
i am also a receptionist.
i think you maybe afraid of letting people down i mean you said if you do something wrong at work they tell you you get uspet and feel like crying, but why? it's just a job at the end of the day if a job makes you cry you shouldn't be there.
i am sure they wouldn't shout at you i mean people make mistakes!
it's life!
we learn from our mistakes to make it right next time around.
maybe this depression and anxiety is decended from your mum but perhaps you can talk to her about it and find out how she deals with it.
what you need to think is work is work thats just to get money to help pay for things, sex ok well if you're not enjoying it then talk to your psychiatrist about that maybe somethings holding you back from enjoying it.
i think everyone gets depressed thinking of the next day and getting up for work.
you're not alone with this but perhaps seeking a therapist as well as a psychiatrist will help you figure out your depression.
i hope this helps message me you need to talk about anything :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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