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*kingwifey
writes:So, a while ago, I would say around the beginning of April, I met this amazing guy. At the time, I thought he was just a guy trying to "get some" so I didn't pay any mind to him. But then I really started talking to him and getting to know him, and we started dating May 9th. Maybe it was too soon? But, he used to call me every night, and everyday after I got out of school and we would talk for hours on end. But, he would call me, and sometimes I would ignore it. But now, I feel like I've taken it all for granted. Because now it's like, we never talk. Ever. And I've tried the whole, wait, don't call, text, email, etc. thing. But he still hasn't talked to me. I'm thinking he just wants to get what he wants, then bounce. And I think he's getting sick of me, and talking to his friends a cousins about it.. We've only been dating for two months. And I'd love to keep going because I can really get along with him and I feel so comfortable around him. But I just don't know what's up.. I called him last night, because I miss his voice.(We don't live near eachother, so all I have is the phone, until he can come down and visit.) And I could hear I think, his cousin in the background saying "hang up, hang up" and then *click* So now I'm really starting to think.. It's tearing me up right now. Because I really wouldn't mind falling in love with him, and spending more time with him.. And it could be the fact that he's older, and has things to do. But he either, responds to my texts with one word answers, or just doesn't respond at all. Or, when we get on the phone he'll make up and excuse to get off.So I'm just wondering, your opinions, and am in need of advice..Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): I really feel for you. I am in a situation kind of like yours. we dont live super near each other and all we have is the phone.. and he is not calling like he did either. I think that you should get your girlfriends together, dress up and go out and have fun. Go out and see all the attention you get. It will help you feel better about yourself and help you put him out of your head for a bit. I understand that you really like him and felt a connection. But you deserve someone who is going to go out of him way to show you that he cares for you, you should have no question that he is into you. I think you just need to move on and find a guy will treat you right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): he does sound like he doesn't want to see you anymore. its not your fault this happens all the time to everyone. especially in their teens! he's a jerk for not being straight with you but you should just forget about him
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reader, Azula +, writes (9 July 2009):
 If your after for love you need to set things straight first. Clear what is your relationship. Know his stands about your idea. Be open. Let him know. By then you need to make up your mind based on everything. Consider everything right from the start. Don't set aside a thing to think. You are the woman. You should not be the one waiting and doing all of the efforts. This is short but mean every word.
Hope this will help. If you want to clear something to me feel free to send me an email.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 maybe he's found someone else and is ignoring you and avoiding you until you actually get the message sad but true it does happen.
that's why he gives one word answers why he makes up an excuse on the phone to go he's probably found someone else.
sorry hun! you can do so much better than that wind bag anyways!
don't let him put you down like this!
hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Sceneo +, writes (9 July 2009):
Maybe he just does want you for the sex ect.
I may be wrong, i don't know the guy but it's very weird that he's just stopped.
Although, he may think you're not making an effort. HE called you all the time, do you call him? Being in a relationship is hard work, you both need to make an effort for things to work. My adive would be to ring him and have a chat.....
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