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writes:Hi, I asked not too long ago about a good gift for a female co-worker for her b-day. Well I got something for her, and she really liked it. Like her expression showed it the whole day. A few days ago, I heard some bad news that implied she was seeing someone. Well today I found out that she is in the "talking stage" with someone. Alright, am I allowed to still try to get with her? I really want to ask her this Friday if she is seeing someone, and if not I want to ask her out. Just be straight honest with her, no pick up line. Keep in mind this would be the first woman I've ever asked out and don't want to feel too awkward. But I really really like her. Help please!
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reader, Azula  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 OK! Well you pretty much know what to do.
Good luck hope it will turn out good.
Take care.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Time is on your side there is no rush. Better to ask her at the right time then to do it in a rush at the wrong time. Be cool, your the man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Owh bummer indeed. But you'll get yur chance no worries. :D
Good luck again
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reader, Character +, writes (11 July 2009):
Character is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is a big bummer. I was very pumped today, and saw her. We were talking a little, BUT in front of co-workers. I didn't have an opening to talk to her, with just the two of us. And by chance, she goes home early even though on the schedule it showed 8p.m.
I unfortunately work overnight this weekend, and the schedule shows she gets off when I clock in tomorrow. Maybe I will try to arrive earlier, but have to think how I can get her by herself.
I mean, I'm willing to yell from the top of my lungs on how I feel. But I know that would be very stupid, and probably embarrasing for her. I just need to get her 1 on 1. :-(
Will update later. Thanks everyone.
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reader, Azula +, writes (10 July 2009):
And good luck! Enjoy and be love.
Don't forget to update us.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 good luck to you sweety
hope it works out for the best!
let us know how you get on!! (Y) keep us updated!
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reader, Character +, writes (9 July 2009):
Character is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright, thanks a lot everyone. So it would be ok to ask then if they aren't officially committed in a relationship. I guess there is no reason for me not to ask then, tomorrow it is. This is someone I've been thinking about for months. o_O I definitely would be kicking myself if I don't even ask, I have to go for it.
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reader, Azula +, writes (9 July 2009):
I can say go for it man! You have a nice chance. Even though it's your first woman, the idea of showing who you really are is very important and am glad you know it.
Looking at your message, it tells me that you are a good man.
Well, good luck and wish you the best.
Love and be loved. Be happy and stay happy.
You can do it.
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reader, athenas +, writes (9 July 2009):
He there well go for it and ask her if she is going out with someone if shes just seing the guy well ask her out tell her that you have been wanting to invite her to dinner and that if she would like to accept your invitation. I mean you have to give it a try hopefully she accepts well good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): Help? Sounds like you have everything under control to me. And yes you are allowed to still try to get with her. On the most part you should always get the information directly from the source so it would be a good idea to ask her if she is seeing someone. Well I hope she says she isn't seeing someone, and you get to go out with her ^^ Good Luck!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (9 July 2009):
but if she's seeing someone that means they are not nesscessarily together right?
i mean when people say i'm seeing this guy or im seeing this girl it means they do EVERYTHING relationship wise but without the actual committment so you can technically go for it.
i mean unless she's WITH someone as in relationship an all then it's a definate no no but if she's SEEING someone as in everything but relationship status then i think you should tell her of your feelings.
Hope this helps message me you want to talk further :) more than happy to help x
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Your friend +, writes (9 July 2009):
There is no reason to ask her if she is seeing someone she isn't married or anything like that so just ask her out.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (9 July 2009):
Do it. You will for sure be kicking yourself later if you don't, and you know that. Even if she turns you down at least you will build up confidence about, and have a little experience to, ask the next girl out! She could just as easily say yes and that would be great! Only one way to know for sure... GO FOR IT! Good luck! :)
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