Would I ever find love?
Q. What am I doing wrong.....? How many times did you get your heart broken before you found the right guy your with? I've been hurt by 4 guys now and dont think I can take it any more.. I am a nice girl.. am not clingy or needy.. I give guys their sp...
A. 15 January 2009: Yes, you'll find him (or finally notice him).
There's just one thing you're doing wrong: the type of guys you chose, i bet there are a couple of guys crazy for you, wich you don't know about because they might be "not your type". Love comes, alwa... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend doing this? Please help me!
Q. Me and my BF got into an argument.. he got really angry and started saying horrible things to me.. he said I am always whining and..(f*king about with other guys).. he said I am not having sex with him so someone else must be getting since he ain't ...
A. 15 January 2009: The first you should do is to realize that you and him are different persons, i mean, your life shouldn't depend on his.
Now, despite if you love him or not, act according to reason. Find out why he's changed, and there's no better way than aski... (read in full...)
When a guy invites you to his house is it for sex?
Q. When a guy invites a girl to his house, does that basically mean he just wants sex even though we're close friends? He's an older man (probably close to 50) if that means anything; he's not some young horny teen. I just want to know what his ...
A. 9 January 2009: Perhaps i'm looking at the worst part of him. In my opinion he wants sex, and he's clever. You may not want to have anything with him, but if you go he'll slowly induce you to change your mind. Maybe in some weeks you'll accept him... don't know.
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Do educated spouses resolve their conflicts better than those with less education?
Q. Do educated ,higher intelligence couples can resolve their conflicts better within a marriage,than a lower educated possibly financially more challenged? Do they divorce faster, and start new relationship,or there is no difference?Does money help ...
A. 9 January 2009: Hi.
Education implies more than learning theories, it helps to develop a complete human being, capable of reasonable thinking and good listening. Anyway the final difference is the control over reactions. A well educated couple could react viol... (read in full...)
He wanted to cum in my eye!!!
Q. I was having sex with a guy I've been seeing for a while the other night, when he said he wanted to do something. He didn't want to say what but I made him tell me and he said he wanted to come in my eye! I thought it was a joke at first so I ...
A. 8 December 2008: Not really a normal request but a porn request, i'd think he's losing respect for you... (read in full...)
I don't want to do certain things, how do I get him to understand?
Q. my boyfriend wants to do more than kissing, not sex but other things .. we did it once before but ever since we haven't because of me, he thinks that i dont like him that much because we dont do stuff but its not that im just dont want to he doesnt ...
A. 1 December 2008: This is very important: you have taken your desicions, tell him. If he doesn't accept'em then he doesn't really love you, and maybe he'll push you by telling you to break up. If he loves you then it won't be a problem (but it also could be false, ... (read in full...)
I think he's going to propose and I'm worried...
Q. My boyfriend (16) and I (15) have been dating for 6 months now. We love each other SO much and we love being together. We're compatible in every way but... I think he's going to propose. He's been talking about it the last 2 weeks and I'm getting ...
A. 1 December 2008: five years back you were only a child, five years in future you'll be a woman discovering a brand new world, do you want to get stuck in the middle?
if you marry now you'll regret it, you have a lot to do. Besides 6 month's relationship is noth... (read in full...)
Pointy boobs and big nipples - is it okay to have boobs like mine?
Q. My boobs are pointy and my nipples are big. I have small boobs already so neither of these things help at all. i have never seen anyone with boobs like mine. I want a boob job but i'm only 16. My boyfriend says they are fine but sometimes when we ...
A. 1 December 2008: well if your BF make not so funny comments on your body then you aren't with the right guy. 16 is good age to take a deep breath and go slow with your life.
Your body is fine, there are a lot of women like you. Learn to accept yourself because if y... (read in full...)
I told my baby sister that Santa isn't real, did I crush her belief?
Q. My sister (she's 5) has been bugging me (im 15) about santa lately. I got annoyed so I told her that Santa doesn't exists. She haven't been quite the same. She when this happy little girl to this depress person. Did I crush her belief? ...
A. 1 December 2008: not only hers but alse her friend's, she'll tell'em. She's a little girl, she's suppose to be annoying, like you were. Did anybody crushed your childhood beliefs?... (read in full...)
My parents caught my BF fingering me and now they won't talk to me.
Q. HELPP! my parents caught my bf fingering me... and they havent spoken to me since (it happened last night and havent talked to me all night and today) are they disappointed..? sad? will they ever get over it? im so depressed right now because i ...
A. 19 November 2008: Of course they are disappointed. And they aren't afraid of you growing up, they are afraid of you growing up TOO fast. 13-15 year old? Come on girl, there will be time for fingering... slow down.... (read in full...)
She always able to steal my guys because she has big boobs!
Q. My best friend has really big boobs and all of the guys like her. Any guy that she asks out says yes, and any guy that I ever like she has to get with him. It really frustrates me and I hate her for having big boobs sometimes. What should I do?...
A. 18 November 2008: Oh boobs, always boobs. I'll tell you a secret: it's not the size but the guy you choose. She's able to steal men from you because you're choosing guys that want to be stolen. Look for a better one. ... (read in full...)
I've never had a date or a boyfriend, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi I'm a 25 year old female and I've never been on a date or Had a boyfriend. I feel like there's something wrong with me, is there?? Help would be good, as I feel alone in this problem....
A. 18 November 2008: We can't say if there's something wrong (age has nothing to do, you're quite young) if you don't know or tell us the reasons why you haven dated someone.
Haven't you fall in love? have you been asked out? have you rejected? are you too shy? do you ... (read in full...)
My F-I-L harrassed me, and said he won't stop until he gets what he wants.
Q. I am 32 years old and married my husband 5 months ago. My husband's father had been very close to me, really helping me be accepted in the family. Its a big family with 5 kids, all of whom are married, my husband being the youngest of the children. ...
A. 18 November 2008: Why don't you tape him. Hide a camera to prove he is the one starting all.
good luck... (read in full...)
My friends say it's time for me to date, but I don't like anyone enough.
Q. my friends say it's time for me to date but i can't find anyone that i like enough that likes me back. wut should i do?...
A. 17 November 2008: There's a marvel called common sense. It happens when everyboy gives you advices and examples and it's up to you to take the best of all, or reject it. If your friends tell you it's time to die, what would you do?
Date when you feel ready, date the ... (read in full...)
I hate breasts!
Q. I hate breasts! I hate the fixation, the obsession, the sexualization! Why can't we be just like other mammals who only get large breasts when they're lactacting, and have flat breasts the rest of the time? UGH! Yes, I'm small chested, I have ...
A. 17 November 2008: Every man have different likes. I love small breast, and dislike big. But beyond attraction you should be aware that a real relationship depends on more than body. So you hate breast because men like'em, what kind of men are you meeting? It's not ... (read in full...)
Is there ever a point where breasts are too big?
Q. My breasts are 34F's but I'm still young and they are still growing. I also have big nipples. Will boys be put off by this? Is there ever a point where they are too big?...
A. 14 November 2008: Nature is wise, most of the times. I don't see any trouble with you sizes, they might be a little bigger than other women, but no men will be put off of you for your breasts, even more if he loves you for more than your body. The best way to judge... (read in full...)
If I am on top should he be sitting or laying down?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to go ontop but we dont know how to position ourselves i cant seem to keep the rythmn either help plz should he be laying down? or sitting up ...
A. 14 November 2008: You should find the rhythm by your own. Laying down or sit mostly depends on the size of his penis, but both work the same. An usual mistakes of men are trying to guide women in movements of up and down, wich is not precisely what you enjoy, try ... (read in full...)
1 litre of wine every day for 15 years! Good for you or not?
Q. Dearcupids, would anybody think that it is a health hazard for someone to drink one litre on wine every single day. Can this cause health problems? What are the consequences?. I know a friend that has been drinking this much for the last 15 odd ...
A. 13 November 2008: For me the easiest way to see if it has caused any trouble if taking the wine away for a week. Desperation, anxiety, anger are proves of a serious alcoholism. Liver and brain damages are consequences. good luck... (read in full...)
Do I keep or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend (dating for 3 months),a clever and charming business guy, has suddenly stopped giving me attention and says he is too busy with his work to see me. He says he still loves me, but not seeing him as often as before brings doubts to my ...
A. 11 November 2008: I don't really undestand the sense of these kind of questions.
If you want to keep him, keep him. If you want to dump him, dump him. Pretty simple, right?
Now tell me: are you able to talk to him or you just generate these thoughts on your own ... (read in full...)
Because of my vomiting and not eating my boyriend thinks I have an eating disorder. I don't agree.
Q. hey, im 16, female and 5"3 in the last 3weeks ive changed what i eat a lot. it started where i threw up everything i ate, this lasted for 1 and a half weeks during this period itriedd to throw up half of what i ate but i just ended up throwing u...
A. 11 November 2008: He can't tell you if you have an eating disorder, but guess what? Neither you. Go to a doctor.
Most teenagers have disorders without knowing, or even worse, denying.
So if you see people worrying about you don't take light, it might be somethin... (read in full...)
Is it easy for a girl to lose her virginity?
Q. i was wondering is it easy for a girl to lose her virginity?, just by fooling around? like if she had "oral sex"??? ...
A. 10 November 2008: Pretty easy if you're around boys and alcohol. Even easier if you don't care about. Even more easy if you believe some people lies and pressures. Or if confuse love.... (read in full...)
Help! Decoding guy speak?
Q. I am interested in a guy I have spoken to several times at a local bar. But I can't determine if he is interested or just being nice. Last week for the first time I think I got the hint that he is interested. Before leaving last week he even made ...
A. 10 November 2008: Just to clarify: going to a hotel doesn't mean a serious relationship. Most of the times it's all against. So not taking her to a hotel coul mean something serious.
Do you know what's the easiest way to know? ask him.
good luck... (read in full...)
I'm shy, how do I show my feelings?
Q. I am a shy person. Haven't kissed a boy with tongues yet and I don't go out with many people. I really like a boy but. So how do I let him know I really like him? How do I overcome my shyness with boys. ...
A. 10 November 2008: About kissing it'll happen eventually and there's nothing better to learn that following your instints.
About shyness i guess it's just to start, if so you could try writing notes, not romantic, proposing notes, but notes simulating a real conv... (read in full...)
I'm fat, right?
Q. Hey, I'm 16 years old. I'm 6 ft tall and weigh 98 kilograms. I'm F A T, right?...
A. 10 November 2008: Well, just based on the facts i'd said you have overweight, but you should notice that bodybuilders too, muscle is heavier than fat.
Indepently of the facts, light dinner, walking or jogging for about 30 mins will keep you on line.... (read in full...)
I don't think if I ever have an affair again I would let it last that long.
Q. Here is my story. I've been married for 24 years since the age of 17. My husband is a wonderful man, we have a beatiful 22 year old daughter who lives away. Sex life is almost non-existent. No one initiates it anymore, but when it happens it's goo...
A. 9 November 2008: Are you sure you're married? you sound like those adolescents that confuse sex with love. I suggest you to grow up.... (read in full...)
My virginity is getting in the way!
Q. I'm 26 years old and still a virgin. I'm not saving it for any reason, it just hasn't happened (which is weird I know). I really want to have a healthy sex life at my age. I'm still single, and not really concerned about being in a relationship, so ...
A. 9 November 2008: For the last you wrote: yes you'll have to tell him eventually, or even better, prepare all this relation based on your conditions.
I read that you want to please him in bed and being a virgin won't help you, well, that's a way of thinking that won'... (read in full...)
Sexual confidence....help!
Q. It has been a very long time since I have been intimate with someone. After my relationship ended a couple of years ago, I needed some time to get things into perspective and then just lost interest. I am less than confident now with my appearan...
A. 9 November 2008: Pretty simple: get into his mind.
Women, even the most beautiful, are always embarrased of showing their bodies during intercourse, wich it's always ridiculous to us, at least you have "morbid obesity".
It's not entirily the shape of your body, bu... (read in full...)
What would REALLY put guys off a girl?
Q. A quick question, just out of interest :) Guys, what would really put you off a girl? ...
A. 9 November 2008: definitely lies, half trues, secrets. I hate'em.... (read in full...)
How to get my wife to tell me the real truth about an affair?
Q. Are there any special words that I can tell my woman to get the truth out of her? Possibly, something that I can say that will touch her in a way(emotionally) that she will finaly come clean? I have a strong sense that my wife has had sex. I found ...
A. 8 November 2008: Pressure won't get you answers, but her conscious will. Patience is the key and your cold emotions are needed. You should act like normal, even better, eventually she might feel guilty, overall if you use some seemingly unconcious prhases like "i ... (read in full...)
Would he think I am "easy" if we were to have sex right away?
Q. Calling all men.... I have recently got back it touch with an old friend. We used to have a 'thing' for each other but it never really went anywhere. We are now several years on and well things are moving really fast... but in the virtual world......
A. 8 November 2008: To be frank i guess he might think of you as easy, he could think "damn, what has happened to this girl all this time, she wasn't like this"
be patient, send some signs and wait for his. Don't risk what could be just for the hormones.
good luck... (read in full...)
Am I the cat who wants too much cream?
Q. Hello! Bit of a dilemma. I was going out with this guy from work when all of a sudden another (better looking and sexier) guy (who did not know about the first guy) asked me out. I did not give him a reason for turning him down. A few months later ...
A. 8 November 2008: Well the first way to aproach this dilema is dividing it. Don't think of your current partner in terms of other guy, i mean don't compare (for that you said "i chose the wrong one" it's not a buffet girl).
If you don't want to be with this guy, don'... (read in full...)
My virginity is getting in the way!
Q. I'm 26 years old and still a virgin. I'm not saving it for any reason, it just hasn't happened (which is weird I know). I really want to have a healthy sex life at my age. I'm still single, and not really concerned about being in a relationship, so ...
A. 8 November 2008: If he doesn't know, how can you tell he'll be upset about you being a virgin?
Most of men feel glad of having a virgin, make'em feel special.
But there's another point on this: do you just want to have sex or expect a deep relationship? if it's ... (read in full...)
A love affair, a fairytale that ended badly.
Q. ok, this is a long story so thanks in advance for reading. about a year ago i bumped into an old friend who i hadn't seen in years, through common friends. Soon after we all started hanging out and at some point she admitted having problems...
A. 7 November 2008: Hey, thanks for asking more about "moving on". I'm sure you've heard about "a nail gets out another nail", commonly used to say that if you date somebody else you'll forget your previous partner. Well, that's thoroughly false, a nail hides the other ... (read in full...)
A love affair, a fairytale that ended badly.
Q. ok, this is a long story so thanks in advance for reading. about a year ago i bumped into an old friend who i hadn't seen in years, through common friends. Soon after we all started hanging out and at some point she admitted having problems...
A. 7 November 2008: in attention to what you wrote after: what's "moving on" for you? dating someone else right away? if so, you're wrong, take your time.... (read in full...)
A love affair, a fairytale that ended badly.
Q. ok, this is a long story so thanks in advance for reading. about a year ago i bumped into an old friend who i hadn't seen in years, through common friends. Soon after we all started hanging out and at some point she admitted having problems...
A. 7 November 2008: Are you really in love? it sounds to me that both of you got trapped in passion, she's getting over it, but trust me, she'll fall again (not necesarily with you) because she's unstable. Let her go, maybe she'll come to you, but is a lie (i guess) ... (read in full...)
My girlfreind of 2 yrs doesn't like have sex anymore. I ask her why and she replies" because I'm tired of it !
Q. my girlfreind of 2 yrs doesn't like have sex anymore. I ask her why and she replies" because im tired of it and its not my first priority". Ive asked her if she was cheating on me she always tell me no that she loves me but just doesn't want to have ...
A. 7 November 2008: Well, first it think sex shouldn't be your priority too. Have read your own words? throw realationship to the toilet just because she doesn't want to have sex? what about chattin? laughing? isn't it worth?
Now, you should be careful with what's h... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and feel I am ready for sex. Advice ?
Q. Hello, I am a 14 year old girl. You need to know that because my question is about being ready for sex. Its a long question even though it answers will probably be short. Well, I have been with my boyfriend for just over nine months. We are real...
A. 7 November 2008: I think you'd be ready for sex when sex becomes less prioritary for you two.
Finally it'll be your desicion, but i can tell you what i've seen around me along years: women that have sex at your age usually meet their "love of her lifes" around 19, ... (read in full...)
How can I look available but not desperate?
Q. Hi, I was unsure how to proceed after talking to this cute guy who works in a cafe I recently went to. We talked a little bit about music and we found out we attended the same high school, but he graduated a year after I did. We had a nice convo ...
A. 6 November 2008: Hi
Do you go often to this cafe? if so you should't worry about going, since it's your routine (at different times of the day, of course). That way, when you have the chance to talk with him again you could ask him if he has a GF. That's usua... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with me and won't stop asking me out!
Q. This boy in my school has had a crush on me for ages. He keeps asking me to be his girlfriend, I keep saying no but he wont give up! At the start it was kind of cute, but its become like an obsession of his. He asks me at least 5 times a day. I ...
A. 6 November 2008: It sounds a little unconventional but if were you i'd go to his home and talk to his parents. He'd probably feel ridicolous and let you alone.
Another way i could think about is being with him (not dating) walking or having lunch etc, and flir... (read in full...)
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