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writes:This boy in my school has had a crush on me for ages. He keeps asking me to be his girlfriend, I keep saying no but he wont give up! At the start it was kind of cute, but its become like an obsession of his. He asks me at least 5 times a day. I really don't want to date him, but I don't want to break his heart by putting it too harshly! Any Adivce?????
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (7 November 2008):
 oh well at least you tried, sorry it didnt go to well for you then.
If it persists you still need to have a heart to heart talk with him and say your not interested.
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much. I went out with him on a date for one night, and it went horribley! So the next day I told him the truth and said I just didnt like him. Instead of asking me out in person he now asks me out in text. Oh well I guess it's an improvment...
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (7 November 2008):
Would it honestly do you any harm to try going out with him for just one night.
You never know you might like him out of school, and if you dont you can say i like you as a friend, and he stop asking you out as you already been out with him.
I agree he does have guts to ask you out, its hard to gain the convidence to ask someone out, and uts harder when they keep saying no.
Any Give It Ago, Good Luck!
Tell me what happens next! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): What kind of snob are you? Would it really be so bad to let him treat you to dinner or some activity? The guy has guts; you've got to give him that. He must really think highly of you (although I can't imagine why). The least you can do is go out with him once, and if you don't enjoy yourself make him promise to stop bugging you. Then, once you've given him a fair chance, tell him off, if he doesn't leave you alone.
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reader, onelove1  +, writes (7 November 2008):
aw yes the obsessive person. honestly, i used to be one of those kind of guys. thebest thing u can do is just tell him like it is becuz when my crush did that, i took it kind of hard but then i just got over her and he will pry do the same
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reader, Austinalive +, writes (6 November 2008):
It sounds a little unconventional but if were you i'd go to his home and talk to his parents. He'd probably feel ridicolous and let you alone.
Another way i could think about is being with him (not dating) walking or having lunch etc, and flirt with some other guy.
Like tasteofindia and tisha wrote being too soft won't help you.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Worrying about breaking his heart won't do you any good - it will just make him think that you like the attention from him and he'll just keep asking you out until you go bananas!
Like Tisha said, the only way to get him off your back is to tell him like it is. You don't need to be mean, but you need to be firm and tell him that you're not interested and you need him to leave you alone. Don't feel bad about it - he needs to learn that this obsessive behavior isn't dug by ladies. You'll be doing him a favor in his future relationships.
Good luck and be strong!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 November 2008):
 I'm afraid you're going to have to get a little tough with him. He seems to be a slow learner, and being nice hasn't been working, has it? I know it's hard to be mean to someone, but you're going to have to learn how to do it. At some point in your life, and it looks like the time is now, you're going to have to deal with someone who just won't take no for an answer. So you're going to have to be very firm, tell him that you don't want him to ask you anymore, and and that you will no longer talk to him at all if he asks you again. Then stick to that, walk away from him, ignore him, shut him out. I know, I know, it doesn't feel good to be mean or nasty, but I'm afraid he's put you in a position that you going to have to be.
As far as breaking his heart, is going to have to learn how to cope with that at some point in his life, and it might as well be me. As an oldie but goodie says, you can't always get what you want. It's just part of growing up, of learning life's lessons. Good luck with being firm. I know you can do it.
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