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*pendy
writes:Me and my BF got into an argument.. he got really angry and started saying horrible things to me.. he said I am always whining and..(f*king about with other guys).. he said I am not having sex with him so someone else must be getting since he ain't getting it.. I asked him why he thinks am cheating he said he knows and i know and i told him no i don't know and i asked if hes got proof and he didn't say anything.. those words really hurt me cos i really like him..i think am falling for him.. now hes saying ever since hes had sex with me ive changed..he keeps saying am messing after the argument i asked if he still likes me like when we 1st met he said yeah he does but his behaviour and his attitude doesn’t seem like it..! what should i do?.He’s changed for about a month now..always angry with me..he doesn’t call like he use to..he goes for a week without calling me and when i ask he says he aint got credit but usually he would use his cousins phone to call me!! please help me..am 19 by the way!! mature answers please!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?? Its been week since i saw him and he hasn’t called me still. Not even to wish me happy new year and i aint called him either. I AM SOO SAD.. I'VE BEEN CRYING ALOT cos he’s changed.. WHAT should i do please? Cos am sick of waiting by the phone hoping he might call me..!any ideas and advice on what i should do PLEASE HELP ME..?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (15 January 2009):
 Hi Spendy,
Im sorry to say but this bloke sounds like a bit of a wank! Id get rid of him and you know you deserve way better! Take a look at your self in the mirror right now. See when you are crying? Is that the type of bloke you want? One that does that to you? I think you should find a bloke where if you looked in the mirror it would be you wearing your finest outfit getting ready to have some fun and happy with him!
I know you were falling for him but I also know you can do way better because that type, is by far, I'm sorry to say, way at the bottom of the heap.
Have you spoken to your friends? What do they say? If not, go out with them they are the ones who will help you a lot.
Be strong at this time it will pass.
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reader, Austinalive  +, writes (15 January 2009):
The first you should do is to realize that you and him are different persons, i mean, your life shouldn't depend on his.
Now, despite if you love him or not, act according to reason. Find out why he's changed, and there's no better way than asking him.
In my personal opinion he might be looking for a reason to break up relationship, but keeping sex. If you aren't smart enought at this moment he could be capable of thing you'd regret, pure revenge.
My advice is: be careful, be yourself, be smart, ask (him), fight for something worth and don't insist where's nothing good for you.
good luck
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (15 January 2009):
 Yea, I kinda agree with Jmo. Usually when someone gets mad like that and picks an argument that means they are really frustrated and maybe looking for a way out. I would try talking to him honestly. You may end up going your seperate ways, but dont worry you will be ok.
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reader, superman- +, writes (15 January 2009):
Well if he's going so long without speaking to you ,
i would say that he has someone else , and is just trying to make you finish things
so he dosnt have to take any blame for it
but this is just my opinion
hope it helps (:
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reader, Jmo +, writes (15 January 2009):
 I don't want to put ideas in your head, but ti sounds to me that he's got something (someone else) going on in his life. Sorry. If I'm right about this, he's probably trying to turn things around on you saying you're messing around with other guys. I hope I'm wrong but I don't think I am.
-Jmo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): It sounds as if he might have been affected by something else going on his life - although he should be able to trust and confide in his gf, he may not want to tell you for some reason. Send him an email just gently letting him know that you just want to make sure he's okay and that you're there to talk without judgement if need be and hopefully he should open up a bit. Just send the email, and it will be hard, but keep yourself occupied and check the day after. If he's not again replied again within a week, it sounds harsh but it might be time to move on sweetie, he's too immature to deal with his feelings and to have a gf like you.
Good luck xxx
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo +, writes (15 January 2009):
 I don't get it. How could you possibly fall for a guy like that? Wipe him off your shoe.
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