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writes: Hi, I was unsure how to proceed after talking to this cute guy who works in a cafe I recently went to. We talked a little bit about music and we found out we attended the same high school, but he graduated a year after I did. We had a nice convo since it was almost time for them to close and I was the last one to leave. He seemed nice, but I don't want to keep on going there all the time like a stalker or seeming desperate looking. I don't know if I should make the first move or just hang out there and wait til he tells me something? (if anything?) I thought he was cool and he told me a little about himself and his hobbies (he's a drummer)I also don't know if he actually even would want to ask me out, but I feel curious about it. Does anyone know what I should do to be available but not desperate looking? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI actually don't go there often at all...my class was canceled that night and I just decided to go on a whim. I don't know if he has a gf or not, though and I hate being put into the position where I ask and then I look foolish (like anybody esle, right?) but I think I might as well be upfront, right? Or ask if his gf goes to his performances? soemthing along those lines? I'm thinking of "casually" dropping by after my class tomorrow (if he is even there, i don't know his hours) but thanks for the advice :O)
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reader, Austinalive  +, writes (6 November 2008):
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Do you go often to this cafe? if so you should't worry about going, since it's your routine (at different times of the day, of course). That way, when you have the chance to talk with him again you could ask him if he has a GF. That's usually taken as a sign for us, after that you can change topic, so you won't look desperate, but that question will remain in his mind, it's a start.
Just be careful about him lying.
Good luck
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