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writes: I hate breasts! I hate the fixation, the obsession, the sexualization! Why can't we be just like other mammals who only get large breasts when they're lactacting, and have flat breasts the rest of the time? UGH!Yes, I'm small chested, I have huge hips and I'm not fat, but I do have some more pounds to lose... I have to lose them, I still have some muffin top, so yeah... I'm scared of losing these last few pounds because I may end up flat chested.Still, my breasts are shrinking... and my boyfriend has pointed this out, and he says he rathers I was chubbier and had fuller breasts than being skinny and flat. But then again, he always says he dislikes chubby women! I can't win dammit!It's like he's been brainwashed to like that stupid ideal of skinny woman with huge Ds... Why? Why is it always big breasts, why?Sure, sure, I could get rid of him but all guys I've liked always like big breasts... it's all they look out for, big breasts... I've never met a guy who prefers small ones! ever!I hate it because I also feel so awful with the media. It's always skinny women with huge breasts. Or just skinny women. People always say that small breasts are great because you usually have a small frame. I don't know where people get that idea. I am everything smalll chested women are supposed to look like - I HAVE HUGE HIPS, SOME FAT ROLLS, BROAD SHOULDERS. I DEFINITELY AM NOT SKINNY, WILLOWY, DELICATE, SMALL, OR PETITE... I'm chubby, big, wide hips, broad shoulders (I do have a small waist though)... I don't feel represented, I don't feel beautiful...Plus this female classmate was talking behind my back, saying I was ugly, hairy, flat chested... I feel awful, because not only men, but also women think I'm hideous!Why can't breasts just be body parts? Why can't they just be seen as non sexual mammary glands? Why do we small chested women have to suffer because the media and men are so fixated on BIG... stupid D cups... how I envy those... and no, I don't buy that "some guys like small" because every guy I've met is into large breastss, on TV there are always large breasts, and if some guys like small they are such a minority I guess.. and what happens if one of them is into small breasts but isn't compatible with me or is a jerk in another aspect? I HATE breasts!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): I'm 17 with A cups and all my boyfs have always loved them especially my current boyfriend :)
Those guys that are totally obssessed with the whole big boobs, bubble butt, skinny everything else, no cellulite, intense tan ... etc. 'ideal' are just gonna crash and burn when they realise there is no one that looks completely naturally like most porn stars.
You don't have to waste your time with these losers- which sorry to say it sounds like your bf is a little like.
Please- Find yourself a guy that is in touch with REALITY and knows how to love and appreciate you exactly the way you look :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Large breasts will might get you noticed, but it definitely won't get you a date. Personality and/or spunk and/or lively conversation will not only get you noticed, it will also get you a date faster than any guy can say, "DD cup". And, it will keep getting you dates long after that other woman with a DD cup has her breasts hanging at her waist ...
I heard from a woman-friend that there is no more despicable thing you can do, than to call another woman ugly. That's like a guy calling another guy "a wimp". Growing up male, i had to learn to take it from other guys who wanted to start a fight. I imagine that this other woman just wanted to start a fight with you, as well, maybe a verbal fight, or maybe she wanted to get even with you for something. Anyway, it's despicable - do you really care what despicable people think?
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reader, AStrawb3rry4L  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 men like big hips
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (18 November 2008):
what's wrong with breasts?
so what men like boobs, it's no different to us girls drooling over a great six pack and pecs. it;s just what turns each sex on. men love boobs because it;s something they don't have and something they just want to feel. i love it when a guy pays attention to my boobs when having sex, but i do find it abit annoying when your in a club and all they look at are your boobs. i try to get my legs out more to stop the boobling.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 November 2008):
 Here's a random thought for you, but it came to me while reading your question. I used to work at a strip club - true fact - I didn't do a whole lot of dancing (I was mostly DJing), but in that line of work you get pretty familiar with breasts and the male fascination with them.
I'll tell you RIGHT NOW that in my experience, the girls with smaller breasts/nearly non existent breasts ALWAYS got the most attention. You would think it would be the girls with the huge breasts (be them real or fake), but the gals who were small on the top and bodacious in the booty were the ones who really captured the fella's attention (and money). Also, voluptuous girls were often paid more attention to, especially if they were completely confident. Nobody wants a waif. It's an unhealthy and gross look, especially when you get these tiny chicks with these enormous jugs. Guys like some meat on the bones. Shows that you're good and fertile.
I don't know if this made you feel better or somehow, worse. I hope it didn't because the point is - you are a hot babe. There are all KINDS of fellas who are into all TYPES of bodies. Don't worry about fitting into some societal box that allegedly is sexy. YOU are a sexy woman who needs to start feeling amazing about herself. You need to start loving your body and get away from the negativity that is making you feel so poorly about yourself. I think your boyfriend is a little bit of a creep and that you could find someone who loves every inch of you exactly as it is. You may think that it's impossible, but it's NOT by ANY means - don't settle for a guy because you think he's the only one who will love you. Tons of guys would be thrilled to love you.
Wow. I went on. I'm done now. You are gorgeous, my darling.
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reader, Austinalive +, writes (17 November 2008):
Every man have different likes. I love small breast, and dislike big. But beyond attraction you should be aware that a real relationship depends on more than body. So you hate breast because men like'em, what kind of men are you meeting? It's not about big breast but your date's big brain.
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reader, rcn +, writes (17 November 2008):
 I prefer small. I want you to stop focusing on what you don't have and focus on what you do. Your focusing on what others like and don't like, be yourself and find happiness in being yourself. Someone who's true to you won't care how large your breasts are because they'll be overwhelmed with you as a whole. Don't envy those with "d" cups. When their backs are in pain by lugging them around, I bet some have envied you. Those on tv, for 5K you can buy yourself a pair. I wouldn't recommend it, but those who decide to need to make that decision based on their sense of self, and not impressing someone else.
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reader, AuntBeth +, writes (17 November 2008):
 Sweetie, I could bore you with the scientific reasons why men love breasts... but I won't. Instead I'm going to offer you this advice:
Love yourself. Every bit of you. Adore your love-handles, be happy with your broad shoulders, be fanatical about your wide hips... and love those boobs of yours. If you love them, guys will love them too.
If you believe in yourself and love your boobs, then the man in your life has no reason not too. And if this guy is fixated on boobs, he's as shallow as the rest of them, and maybe consider finding someone new.
If you want to lose weight, your breasts will probably drop a cup size or so. But this is perfectly normal, and you should tell your boyfriend to make up his mind: skinny and flat, vuluptuous and bigger. Although hun, at the end of the day, all of this is your choice. You're in control. x
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