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writes:A quick question, just out of interest :)Guys, what would really put you off a girl? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Everyone lies, so that doesn't matter.Do what your man wants in BED and give random blow jobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Something I don't remember seeing that I believe guys get turned off of is when a girl fakes liking sex with him, if you don't like what he is doing or how he is doing it, tell him, its the only way for him to know and tell him how you like it done. and compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): I agree someoneelse.Truce.Waves white flag.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): I think most people already covered it here.
Me personally:
#1 big turn-off: MTV Carbon-Copy girls. Seriously, are you that dumb you have to let a rather-worthless Television network to tell you what to wear, how to act, how to treat others, etc.? Whatever happened to girls that are all individual and unique? One of the main reasons I just plain avoid girls my age (I'm 20), they're too immature and act/dress/talk all the same. Boring. Next...
Smoking-no, I don't want to kiss an ashtray.
Drinking-sorry, a drunk girl who looks/acts stupid is obviously too stupid for me.
Slutty/flirtatious types-scream attention whore/easy to get (don't have a conscious about themselves...keeping the door wide open to everyone so to speak)
Drama, dishonesty, odor, (like everyone else has said)
Finally, I try to be the rare guy in that I would rather have a girl with an amazing personality over looks. Being big-boned is okay, but Obesity is a turn off as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Er...Am sorry I cannot read papers from your place.Relationships will work if men and women think they are equals.I think in my last post I had told you that we do not want to wear the trousers.
I am married to the same guy for the past 5 years who is masculine enough that he doesn't feel insecure about my independence or the fact that I am successful.In fact he feels proud of my accomplishments.In spite of being from a conservative country we take the decisions of the house together.Each of us give up for each other as the situation demands it.I have been very patient at times too.The one thing we have never done is,we don't say "being a man or woman you should do this".The gender difference is not there.It takes two good human beings who understand their limitations to make a relationship work.It doesn't matter how masculine the man is or how feminine the woman is.
The modern woman waits for the guy who accepts her as she is.She doesn't have to act to be someone else.Pretenses cannot last long in a relationship.
In fact I would say you feel miffed at the guys who want a woman to be feminine.Being feminine and being a simpering wall flower is two different things.The modern woman is still feminine with out being a delicate darling.
Sadly feminism is misunderstood by everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): The modern woman doesn't want to be a man.she wants to be with her man at his side.she is neither two steps behind him nor is two steps ahead of him.she is right there supporting him financially,as his best friend,as his sounding board,as his advisor.
If a man needs a woman it shouldn't be because she is helpless.He should need her because she completes him in every way possible.I am sorry you came across such men who didn't value your independence and spirit.
we just understand that men are vulnerable too.They are taught not to show it.Lucky is a guy who finds a woman strong enough to bear his tears on her shoulders.we don't have to act like a woman,we are the real women.
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reader, frankie.says.relax +, writes (10 November 2008):
frankie.says.relax is verified as being by the original poster of the question ermm 'joeydrake' ?
you said 'odour too, eating too, teeth'
okay, agree with the odour thing, not cool.
but eating and teeth put you off a woman ?
sorry to disapoint, but i would say those things are kind of vital ;)
thanks for all your answers people, keep them coming !
xxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): Ms.Anonymous I am sorry I have to disagree with you.What is NORMAL.All of us have our idiosyncrasies.Little quirks that makes us special.Some men like women who can stand up for themselves.I don't think they are abnormal.
We girls are self-sufficient today.We earn as much as our husbands do.There is a difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness.In fact you seemed more aggressive than assertive.Any guy can tell you that he doesn't like a whiner and Miss.Delicate Daisy who wants attention all the time.We love our men looking after us. But its all fair if I want to protect him,cherish him and love him too.Now that's a true marriage.
Not that current marriages do not have problems.But I can show you many women who try really hard to make their marriages work while battling a career and family.
Since you generalized "women these days",I spoke for all of us.By the way generalizing all the women or men based on some men or women is definitely not fair.
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reader, Tsu  +, writes (10 November 2008):
 lol one thing huge for me, SMOKING. I don't care if she is super model hot with the best ass in all of history.She smoke,s instant dead turnoff. Like off the radarr. And that's just cuz I've seen the pics of smokers lungs, and no way in Hell would I ever want saliva from that disease infested...um...what else. Plain DRAMA. Seriously, there are so many damn annoying women out their that are SO dramatic.Like, forgetting to call. Say ur guy said he would, but later on he had a couple extra things to do, etc etc and he forgets.Then you call up "Why the HELL didn't you call me?!?!" Seriously, every time a girl first says that, I hang up right on her. I will not, everrrr deal with that drama.Oh! And also, stupid jealousy! So childish! Say your guy looks at another girl, and then you flip out "Why did you look at her?! I told you not to look at girls! You saying I'm ugly?!"My response:Wow, stfu, I looked at her once cuz she is attractive, nothing wrong with that! Point is, I'm with you, not her, it's not about looks .Oh yea! Girls who wanna know your myspace pass and read every little message. Wow insecure much?Add insecurity to the list. lol anyways, #1 most damn annoying thing found in 98% of all teenage girls across the world isDRAMA @@@@@!!!@!@!@!@!@!@
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (9 November 2008):
Nagging. possessiveness, moodiness, the obvious stuff really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): ...men like women to be on their face - not in their face! Wise words there for any would-be temptress! So basically, if a woman has a pint glass in her hand then the guy will be turned off immediately. Opposites attract remember - the more feminine the woman and the more masculine the man - the greater the attraction. Yours, Fifthquadrant. P.S. You taken your poppy off yet Uncle Phil? Bet you've had a busy Remembrance Sunday!
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reader, frankie.says.relax +, writes (9 November 2008):
frankie.says.relax is verified as being by the original poster of the questionme and my friends were just discussing what puts us off guys and i thourght it would be entertaining or at least intresting to see the other way round.
uncle phil = actual genius.
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reader, joeydrake +, writes (9 November 2008):
i think a hairy girls really bad, shave god dammit!
odour too, eating too, teeth
good kissing is key
bad breath is terrible!
cheating is dreadful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): I have been told to my own detriment that lies, dishonesty, being non supportive, being nasty about others, making bitchy comments, sarcasm, not making an effort with ones appearance, not turning up at family events, threatening behaviour, keeping a dirty house, too many pets, not listening or communication, being stubborn and difficult all have a part to play.
Seriously lies and dishonesty top of the list
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): Darn Uncle Phil.you just described me.*cries*
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): Giggling. Body odour. Talking too much and not listeniong. Moustache. Not laughing at my jokes. Hogging the shower. Not being punctual. Constantly sending text messages. Hanging a new toilet roll the wrong way round. Not putting the top back on the toothpaste. Leaving hair in the plughole. I could go on . . . . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): ...if she was too fat (suggests sweat and body odour) or too skinny (suggests disease and psychological problems). That's about it, really. Yours, Mr Shallow - telling it like it is, into the noughties and beyond! P.S. Honesty is the next most important thing.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 November 2008):
I've found that guys don't like it when you stab them and put glass in their food.....
What do you actually want from this question?
Don't be a horrible person and then people will not think you are horrible.
It's not rocket science.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Austinalive +, writes (9 November 2008):
definitely lies, half trues, secrets. I hate'em.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 I was going to say "nagging, whining, dramatizing, lying, pouting", but I guess that having a hidden agenda she won't discuss with you is at the top of the list.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): dishonesty.
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