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I live in South Carolina which for those of you not from the country is in the southern United States. I also happen to be lucky enough to have just proposed to my future wife and am enjoying the time we spend together growing closer and learning more about each other. I am generally a very open minded person and have in the past been the support friends and loved ones needed when they were having problems. I came here originally for help and have since then stuck around out of interest in the community and sharing the help I was given. Anything else you want to know about me you are more than welcome to ask at any time. |
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How do I deal with my insecurities about her past sex life?
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now and I'm trying to get some help dealing with the only real thing that bothers me about her. At one point early on in our relationship we happened to be sitting around with a group of our friends and ...
A. 19 February 2009: i forgot i even had this question on here, lol.
to answer your questions though
A: There is a vast difference between just sex and intimacy and a girl having sex before marriage is not necessarily intimacy. Honestly i doubt i would marry someon... (read in full...)
How can I help my fiancee deal with her grief???
Q. HI, I was curious if anyone had any advice to help me both with helping my fiancee and with my own issues dealing with this. A few days ago my fiancee's brother took his own life. Since then my fiance has obviously been not feeling that gre...
A. 29 January 2009: Thanks for the help and condolences. I really appreciate it and am glad that it seems like i'm doing the right things with her. Now i guess it's just a matter of waiting it out and hoping she's ok once things get a little more normal.... (read in full...)
How can I help my fiancee deal with her grief???
Q. HI, I was curious if anyone had any advice to help me both with helping my fiancee and with my own issues dealing with this. A few days ago my fiancee's brother took his own life. Since then my fiance has obviously been not feeling that gre...
A. 28 January 2009: Thanks for the response. Everything you've said is basically what i've been doing or at least trying to do so i guess i'll just continue doing what i'm doing and hope she comes out of this ok. And i do realise that when i'm being left out of things ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to try weed?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to smoke weed with him but I won't because I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. do they contain mutual elements? or would it be fine if I tried it?...
A. 11 January 2009: the chemical in weed is called THC (tetrahydrocannibal)not TCP and while yes teh strain of weed can affect its level it is not the THC which would cause problems like cigarettes its the carbon in the smoke that does that. smoking a lower grade ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am awkward?
Q. I have a problem most of the days people don't tell me I am awkward but I have the feeling I am. What do you think?? I am 14 years old and I always laugh at anything even though it isn't funny and people just look at me like I need medication ...
A. 10 January 2009: If you are different than everyone then be thankful. Don't try to conform yourself to other peoples views of what you should be or do. If you feel like your hurting peoples feelings when you talk you might want to think about what your saying first ... (read in full...)
Facebook question.
Q. HI:) My boyfriend and I are friends on facebook. When I look at his profile it says that he has been tagged in 17 pictures but when I click to see them I am only able to see 11. Has he prevented me somehow from seeing the rest? how and why? He ...
A. 10 January 2009: As far as I know there is no option to allow certain people to view specific photos on Facebook. You can only really stop people from seeing you on a broad spectrum such as stopping people who aren't your friends to see them. If you are friends with ... (read in full...)
Do guys make passes at girls who wear glasses?
Q. Do guys makes passes at girls who wear glasses and have plaits in their hair? needy type girls...
A. 10 January 2009: as long as the glasses fit your personality and physical appearance then I'd say yes. my fiance normally wears contacts but i think she looks really sexy when she is wearing her glasses.... (read in full...)
How do I date other people without losing him?
Q. I have been dating this great guy for about a year. He treats me perfectly, is fully trusting and trustworthy, appreciates my honesty (I'm a bit too honest for most people, so this is a big deal), does nice things for me constantly and we never ...
A. 9 January 2009: If it was me it would be a stay completely or go situation but i don't know his views on open relationships. You seem to believe that he wouldn't like which to me sounds like you answered your own question. Your only other option is cheating on him ... (read in full...)
14, possibly pregnant b/f wants me to move..should I?
Q. okay so i am 14 and i might be pregnant!! i told my mom my boyfriend and his parents!!! but know he is movin to phoenix and he wants me to go with him my mom says i am going to ruin my life if i go but for me to do whatever the hell i want and i wa...
A. 9 January 2009: I wouldn't suggest moving with him. You can't really count on him to always be there for you or for him to stay with you. Both of you are going to change alot as you grow older and even if you don't break up for a long time you may grow into people ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel right being in a relationship right now, how do I let him down?
Q. PLEASE HELP!! well i dated this guy in the 7th grade, we dated a little under a year.. we just started talking again, and he knows i have not been in a relationship in over a year, because my daughters dad left and i havent been ready.. well he ...
A. 9 January 2009: Explain to him that right now the most important thing in your life is your baby and that you don't have the time or energy to carry on a relationship like the one her wants. I think it's good that you realize that you don't have time and are being ... (read in full...)
Nervous about first quasi-blind date!
Q. So I began talking to this girl online about 2 weeks ago. We were both on free social networking site geared towards dating. She messaged me and we spent about 4-5 hours messaging back and forth the first night. Same thing the second night before ...
A. 9 January 2009: just be the same guy she likes on the phone and everything should go smoothly. be a gentleman and make her comfortable by being nice to her and i'm sure after the initial excitement of meeting you she'll be able to relax a little and have a good ... (read in full...)
Does he want me for something more than a hook up?
Q. I have this friend and we used to be really close last year, we would hang out every day for a couple of months. Then, one night we started kissing and he wanted to have sex with me. I told him no because I want to get to know him more and asked if ...
A. 9 January 2009: If you don't want to just casually have sex with him then don't and don't let him pressure you into it or beg it out of you. If you want a relationship with him try talking to him about it and see if he is interested. If he's not interested in you ... (read in full...)
We messed around and did everything but. Now I'm scared!
Q. hi! im 17 and still a virgin but new years morning i was at my boyfriends house and we started messing around we did everything but _____ . after taking both our clothes off i asked him to put a _____ on and he did then began rubbing ...
A. 9 January 2009: You're probably fine but if your that worried you could try waiting a few days and retake the pregnancy test or go to the doctor and have them check you out. I'm sure there are some other suggestions but as i'm not female i've never really ... (read in full...)
Watch porn together? Men's opinions wanted
Q. I am female and in a loving relationship. Me and my man both admit that we watch porn (to one and other, not our grandmother or anything). We have a very active sex life, and have lots of variety with what we do. So my question is i guess, would it ...
A. 9 January 2009: Go for it. I doubt he'll mind it and you both will probably enjoy it unless it's going to make you uncomfortable to watch it with him.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a BBW, how should I have sex with her?
Q. So i need a little help. I have a girlfriend who i love and adore. We have been together for about 3 months We went to have sex soon, but im not sure how to go about it. My girlfriend is BBW. I need some advice on how to go about having sex with ...
A. 9 January 2009: This is focused at the people insulting this poor guy. unless i'm misreading his question he isn't saying he wants her to change or treats her differently i think he's just having issues finding a position that works for them. chill out stop ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out because he's too shy and all??
Q. I'm usually a confident borderling over confident lass. However, I have very deep rooted morals that somewhat are the major cause to this matter. Additionally being a girl, I do tend to prefer the whole "i'm laid back so i'll wait for you to ask me ...
A. 9 January 2009: Go ask him yourself. He's shy and will appreciate you taking some of the uncomfortable part of the beginning of a relationship off his shoulders. If the relationship works out and you end up get engaged when your ready he's going to have to ask ... (read in full...)
I'm on the verge of cheating! HELP! So confused!
Q. I need some advice...I've in a serious relationship for 7 years, married 2 1/2 out of those 7. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship. The 1st year we started dating he took me home to meet his family (on west coast). As soon as I met his ...
A. 9 January 2009: Honestly you shouldn't need a forum to tell you this is a stupid idea. If you are seriously considering sleeping with his brother then i doubt you should even be married since you obviously feel somewhere inside you that you want to be able to just ... (read in full...)
Why are men so bothered about the size of their penis????
Q. I know men will never get over this, but why on earth are they so obsessed with penis size? Personally I think a large penis is not that enjoyable, as it just hurts. What is wrong with a nice 5 or 6 inch average penis? Why do they always have...
A. 8 January 2009: It has a lot to do with the make psychology. Most guys understand that a woman doesn't want some 12 inch object shoved into them but there are also the people out that at least in my group of friends we calla "size queen". Basically their women who ... (read in full...)
He's leaving... do I confront him?
Q. Hey, I have a guy problem but both guys and girls are welcome to answer. I’m 16 and a committed Christian, at my church there is an 18 year old guy who I am crazy about. My brother, who is friends with this guy, thinks that he’s too old but that’s ...
A. 8 January 2009: If you decide to pursue a relationship with this guy your going to need to be prepared to not see for long periods of time where you will probably be worrying about how he's doing and whats going on in his life not to mention worries about what he ... (read in full...)
Do you think in time, if I stick to my resolution, will I get over her and move on?
Q. Ok, so there's been this woman in my life for the past 5 years or so, and I am in total love with her. I've never told her how I truly feel, even though I think she might have an idea! I don't want to tell her because I fear the rejection that I may ...
A. 8 January 2009: Yes if you really stick to not seeing her or being in a relationship with her then you'll probably move on in time. That doesn't necessarily mean that you have to avoid her, just stop constantly focusing on her and focus more on stuff you like to do ... (read in full...)
Oh lord... he's come back to me again??!!
Q. Let me condense this essay worth of a question down to a simple yet truthful question. I started casually dating this man who was not only dry humoured, overly sarcastic and independant but gradually as the relationship progressed; showed many ...
A. 8 January 2009: It sounds like this guy is using you for his own personal pleasure and playing on your emotions to get you to do what he wants. At the moment it sounds like he's a familiar setting for you and therefor easy for you to let back instead of finding ... (read in full...)
My little sister is obsessed when it comes to guys, how can I make her see sense?
Q. Hey guys, I need some help... it's not for me but I'm really worried for my younger sister, she seems to absolutely obsessed when it comes to guys... she's only 15 and she does everything in her power to so called "pull". I love her so much but am ...
A. 8 January 2009: I agree with the advice everyone has given you. She needs to understand the scary part of this situation and she needs to understand the risks not just of a guy taking advantage of her but the risks of getting an STD or becoming pregnant as well. ... (read in full...)
He's been with alot more partners than me yet he accuses my past!
Q. My beau has been with 48 women. I have been with less than 1/5 of that. I have never let my partner's past get in the way of the relationship, and I used to never let his past bother me... ...but he went through a period of 4 months or so whe...
A. 8 January 2009: If I heard a guy talking to his girlfriend like that I probably would kick the crap out of him. Your boyfriend should not be insulting you ever. You can do better than a guy that treats you like shit and you will be much happier in the end if you ... (read in full...)
Am I just over reacting??
Q. Not sure if I'm just over reacting to something really stupid but it's another thing that's really upset me and just wanted other people's opinions. I gave blood yesterday and fainted afterwards (my first time). Got home having been told not to...
A. 8 January 2009: I don't know how most guys are about it but when my girl isn't feeling well I generally won't let her do things. She likes to take care of me and cooks me dinner alot but when she is feeling bad I do as much as i can to help her relax and get better ... (read in full...)
Do we exist?
Q. Im going to pick an emotion or whatever you call them. Love. Is it an emotion? A feeling? A force? You are welcome to post your opinion. My opinion is that there is no such thing... the most perfect explanation. Its just an illusion, an hal...
A. 8 January 2009: oh, and getting away from the whole is life meaningless part and back to the is love real, I think love is real. I have always thought that it was real but not necessarily something that everyone is lucky enough to find. I think that since it's such ... (read in full...)
Do we exist?
Q. Im going to pick an emotion or whatever you call them. Love. Is it an emotion? A feeling? A force? You are welcome to post your opinion. My opinion is that there is no such thing... the most perfect explanation. Its just an illusion, an hal...
A. 8 January 2009: Since you asked, no I am not a believer in god. I have very religious parts of my family and I understand the whole belief in a greater being and the comfort in knowing that there is something we are working towards all of our lives and the ... (read in full...)
I believe I have retroactive jealousy. I cannot get over her past.
Q. I am 27 and my fiance is 25. We have only been engaged for about a month (been together for 2 years) We are also getting ready to go to Pre-Marital counseling with the pastor at our church. I have no children, she has 3 children, that I love dearly. ...
A. 7 January 2009: I have the same problem and even posted about it on here. If you're anything like me it's not so much oriented at her so much as the fact that someone else either did something with her which you two find to be special or was able to please her in ... (read in full...)
Embarrassing noises after sex!
Q. ok.. this is a little embarrassing, but it's to do with when i have sex. Sex in every position is really good and fine.. what i am asking about is when i have sex doggy style.. i enjoy this style the most and so its my favorite to do. the thing...
A. 7 January 2009: Haha oh yeah this has happened with me and my girlfriend. It's not really anything to worry about in my opinion. My girlfriend and I always get a laugh out of it if nothing else but it's never bothered me when it happens. I wouldn't worry about it ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my insecurities about her past sex life?
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now and I'm trying to get some help dealing with the only real thing that bothers me about her. At one point early on in our relationship we happened to be sitting around with a group of our friends and ...
A. 7 January 2009: haha, I don't know if I'm a great mind but I'm good at empathizing and I'm usually very good at reading people so that helps a lot when I am trying to help friends since I have a few that are just retarded sometimes.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my insecurities about her past sex life?
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now and I'm trying to get some help dealing with the only real thing that bothers me about her. At one point early on in our relationship we happened to be sitting around with a group of our friends and ...
A. 7 January 2009: Thanks for the advice that actually makes alot of sense I kind of normally just tend to be sitting around with her talking about stuff when it pops into my head so yeah getting up and finding something to distract probably will help a lot. It always ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to have more foreplay in bed?
Q. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to persuade my girlfriend to change our sex life to something a little more compromising between us. I generally enjoy doing most of the work during sex since I really enjoy pleasing her and the ...
A. 7 January 2009: i appreciate the feedback and the concern that i may a little to absorbed with it but (no offense intended) i think you may have exactly what i was saying pegged just a little askew. it's not a major issue to me or something that captivates my ... (read in full...)
Do we exist?
Q. Im going to pick an emotion or whatever you call them. Love. Is it an emotion? A feeling? A force? You are welcome to post your opinion. My opinion is that there is no such thing... the most perfect explanation. Its just an illusion, an hal...
A. 7 January 2009: =) well since you like to ask questions i've got one for you. Does it matter if you exist? If the people and feelings surrounding you are only delusions there created by your mind or some other outside influence that you are and internal part of... (read in full...)
How can I get her to have more foreplay in bed?
Q. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to persuade my girlfriend to change our sex life to something a little more compromising between us. I generally enjoy doing most of the work during sex since I really enjoy pleasing her and the ...
A. 7 January 2009: also realized i have a few miswritten parts of this as i was typing and rewriting trying to describe enough detail to be useful for input without writing a short story about myself.
main one i caught was where i said her and the girlfriend. you can ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to have more foreplay in bed?
Q. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to persuade my girlfriend to change our sex life to something a little more compromising between us. I generally enjoy doing most of the work during sex since I really enjoy pleasing her and the ...
A. 7 January 2009: talking to her about things is probably the least of my issues. i don't think I've had an issue yet with her that we haven't sat down and talked about and when i know she's having issues with me i make her sit down and talk to me about it. she's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not being understanding...
Q. I am not sure what to do. I am someone who likes to get myself involved in a lot of activities and partially due to my university projects, I do have commitments and projects in the night time, resulting in the decrease in time I have to spend wi...
A. 7 January 2009: Although I wouldn't go as far as barging into my girlfriends activities I can definitely understand his frustration. In my opinion he either feels like he's not spending enough time with you and wants some attention and to feel like he's the most ... (read in full...)
Will it be a good idea if I do sleep with him only one time?
Q. Dear cupid, So i've been thinking people. I talk to a few guys but its this one guy I was thinking about having sex with. I'm not the type of female that sleeps with any guy and every guy. Will it be a good idea if I do sleep with him only one time...
A. 7 January 2009: That's not really a true statement. I'm a guy and don't have sex unless I have feelings for the girl and
I have a female roommate who has sex like she's your typical guy. But I agree that if there is a chance you might have feelings for him afte... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my insecurities about her past sex life?
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost a year now and I'm trying to get some help dealing with the only real thing that bothers me about her. At one point early on in our relationship we happened to be sitting around with a group of our friends and ...
A. 7 January 2009: sorry that this is so long by the way I tend to ramble when I type out things.... (read in full...)
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