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writes:I know men will never get over this, but why on earth are they so obsessed with penis size?Personally I think a large penis is not that enjoyable, as it just hurts. What is wrong with a nice 5 or 6 inch average penis? Why do they always have to say that 5" is too small. THE VAGINAL ENTRANCE IS ONLY 4-6 INCHS DEEP! We can't take any more sausage then that. I also hate it when men take the piss out of other men because they have a normal penis size, yet they seem to think that it is tiny and then make out they have a 10 incher. What aload of bull.So why is the penis size so important and why don't men understand that a average penis is 4-6 inches and not actually tiny!
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reader, Valedict  +, writes (19 February 2011):
The Answer to this question lies in the sexual selection of our predecessors or ancestors, Most men are obsessed by the size of there penis because most probably in our past the men with bigger genitalia might have had better chances of propagating there gene and hence more success at mating.
This simple thought may have changed the entire landscape of sexual selection in our species. The ones with bigger penises had deeper penetration and probably had better chances of getting there sperms reach the egg and thus increasing the chances of fertilization drastically.
This lead to an aggregation of more number of people with bigger and bigger penises in the gene pool, that is why more and more people have bigger and bigger penises these days and eventual obsession because of peer competition at mating game.
Q. How ? when women are not interested in size right ?
The women who gave more thought to the size of the penises, and were able to select such men from the gene pool had much better chances of fertilization and propagation. This increased more and more people with bigger dicks in the gene-pool, although sexual selection is greatly hampered in the female sex because men were able to propagate there gene by force in spite of sexual selection not on there side. This lead to many women with less to no botheration for the size of male genitalia, but the competition in men remained as stiff as it was thousands of years ago.
There is a similar example of the average breast size increasing in the past 10 years, the average breast size of modern british women have increased
from 34B to 36C in less than 10 years. This is because more and more people now days are selecting women with bigger breasts hence increasing such genes in the gene pool. It is nothing but a game of sexual selection and darwinian natural selection at work.
I think this answers adequately why men are so much bothered with the size of there penises than women are.
It has been suggested the evolution of the human penis towards larger size was the result of female choice rather than sperm competition because sperm competition generally favors large testicles and a small penis as in the chimpanzee. However the human penis has a larger glans ridge than is found in many other primates and this may function to displace other males' seminal fluid from a vagina by forcing it behind the glans during the thrusting of intercourse and hence expelling rival semen away from the area of the cervix. A model study showed displacement of semen was directly proportional to the depth of thrusting as an efficient semen displacement device. This study was simulating a situation where a woman had previously copulated with at least one man within a short period and found that a longer and thicker penis would more efficiently displace the semen of rival males by filling the vagina and forcing foreign semen out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): The size of the penis is one area where men think they are "measured up" literally and figuratively. It is also one of the things that no matter what you do you can't change. I am average and have never had a problem with women in bed. I don't ask any size related questions I just go in with confidence and enjoy myself. I have only been told that I was a good size once and even though she was probably just saying it to make me feel sexy - it worked and I will take it. I decide long ago that I cant change it so why worry about it. My wife told me she was with a man before me who was gigantic and actually made her bleed when they had sex. If anything could ever make me insecure about my size, this would be it. I keep telling myself that I'm the one she wants so don't worry about it. Now all I have to do is try to keep my retarded brain from picturing the woman I love banging Andre the Giant. Maybe hipnosis can erase the memory of that conversation.
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reader, cockrobin +, writes (20 October 2009):
I've not measured myself since I was in my early 20's but the last time I measured my erect penis was a little over 8 inches in length and between 6 and 6 1/2 inches in girth (circumference). With 20+ years of sexual experience I'm confident that my penis is considerably larger than average in both length and girth but consider my size as something of a mixed blessing. The majority of my sexual partners have been satisfied with my size but on occasion, I've had women who really didn't like the length or added girth. Women have conceded that penetration was uncomfortable while others have considered sexual intercourse with me as pretty painful. Sex with women who have limited sexual experience has been difficult. One virgin bled for a week after intercourse which did nothing for our relationship or for my self esteem, so being well hung is not always the be-all and end-all to a happy sex life.Its true, for some women (and I'm only talking about a small proportion) really do find extra stimulation from deeper penetration, the measuring of larger members or even finding arousal from visualizing well endowed men like myself. But again, these women are in the minority. I can only recall three partners who have really been focused on size the way that many men are. Two of the ladies in question said my size was more appropriate after childbirth. The other girl could be labeled a 'size queen' and she told me that the majority of her sexual encounters have been with men between 5 - 7 inches and that finding larger penises is far more difficult than one might imagine. It may be of comfort to know that when women may 'say' that the ideal penis measures 8 inches in length and 6 inches in girth but how many women actually measure every penis they encounter, to statistically chart their preferences? I've had partners in the past say my flacid penis 'must be 8 inches in length' when in reality I'm probably between 5 - 6 inches, depending on room temperature. So don't get self conscious about 'the ideal penis size'. The average 5 - 7 incher is far more common than women realize and far more comfortable too. oscar
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reader, Nic390  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 Haha I would say its because we are worried if you will like it. We wanna give you pleasure but if we are small we feel we cant a we are not good enough for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): I've had the unfortunate experience of going with a man with a very small dick and I've never gotten over it. Sounds harsh, but men like to watch porn and have no regard for our insecurities, so here goes. This guys dick was really as small as my little finger and when he sat down on the bed, it basically disappeared. Now I am talking years ago when I was a lot younger; if it happened now I'd have to get up and say "sorry mate, this isn't going to happen". However, being young, I went through with it and it was like rattling a stick up an alleyway, and I have a very tight vagina. I couldn't take the guy seriously after that. He outwardly loved himself too and was a lifeguard at a local pool. In fact, I told all my girlfriends and we still laugh to this day about "lifeguard man and his small penis"!!!! So if a man with a small penis finds a women who loves him, then he is very lucky. It's a deal breaker for me I'm afraid; fortunately I'm in love with a gorgous man with a very nick cock and he knows exactly what to do with it - bliss!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): That is an easy question to answer.1. When they are young teens, in some cases if they are small they get teased by their guy friends, thus they internalize some sense of importance of size. This is minor however.2. Guys think ALL girls believe that bigger penises are better and the bigger the better. 3. Guys think women will reject them if they are not big enough. There are anonymous anecdotes posted on various websites that goes something like this: A guy gets undressed, just about to have sex, and when the girl sees him instead of having sex, the girl laughs at him, or gets mad at him, or tells him how inadequate he is, and refuses have sex with him. The humiliation and rejection is unquestionably unbearable. Not to mention that he believes that the girl will then tell everybody about his inadequacy.I don't know how often this actually happens but just the thought of rejection due to small penis size is overwhelming for a guy. It is NOT just like an unsightly mole or bad hair - it is volcanic in power.4. Society. Heard any large penis or average penis jokes lately? Nope.5. It is one of the few things that simply cannot be changed. If you are too fat, lose weight. Don't like your eye color, get contacts. Vagina not tight enough, minor surgery will fix it. Want bigger breasts, $5000 and they can be yours. Want to increase your penis size? Too bad. No pill, no surgery, no exercises, no herbs can change penis size.And the really ironic thing is that I have never known a guy to care about size for himself. Why should he? He only pees with it a few times per day. All he really cares about is what the girl thinks.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (9 January 2009):
aunty_rach is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell guys listen and take this in!!!
WE DON'T ALL WANT A HUGE MONSTER COCK COMING OUR WAY, BIGGER IS NOT ALWAYS BETTER!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Men are obsessed with sex, the one thing we rely on is our penis, the sexual instrument that pertains to the sex, men get off on penetration therefore penis is important.It's a funny misunderstanding on both sides of the sexes on how the other is sexually operated. Men don't realize that women are a lot more emotional and various come into play to make sex good for them, because they naturally assume women get off in the same way because well... what other way could there be? - that's what we're thinking in our heads.And women tend to think that men are the same way as they are that many factors are/should be important for men as it is for them. But then there are those women who understand too well and end up trying to over impress men over their personal appearance.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 January 2009):
 It's all guys have to be self conscious about, is my theory. Woman, we're self conscious about EVERYTHING. My butt, my thighs, my back fat, my cuticles, my scalp texture, EVERYTHING. Guys don't have to worry about that beer gut or shrimpy legs, at least not according to the media they're getting. There's a little pressure for a magic 6 pack, but not as much pressure as there is to have a gigantic schlong.
I completely agree with you. Just like guys are telling us, "GOD, your boobs are FINE, they look AMAZING, stop wishing for DD's!!", they need to get it through their dense heads that WE DON'T WANT SOME 10 INCH MONSTER!! It is not sexy!! It is not desirable!! It is scary and horrifying. And the penis certainly doesn't dictate masculinity, the MAN does.
You're totally right on, sister.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (8 January 2009):
aunty_rach is verified as being by the original poster of the questionof course, if they don't know how to use it whether it is small or huge then the sex will be crap.
a big penis does not make a man more manly! i think guys need to really understand what a woman wants and then they will feel less worried about it. i remember one of my ex's used to call his penis "bigL" but it was an average sized, anyway he used to always ask me if it was big enough,etc. obviously very insecure. but i got so sick of hearing about his penis i felt like i was dating a penis.lol. i just wish guys would listen to us and realise that size does not matter. i know they will always worry about it, but i just get sick of hearing guys who are usually a normal size, put themselves down and say they are tiny.
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reader, Aech135 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 It has a lot to do with the make psychology. Most guys understand that a woman doesn't want some 12 inch object shoved into them but there are also the people out that at least in my group of friends we calla "size queen". Basically their women who talk about how much they love it when a guy is large and that sticks in our head since there isn't anything we can do about it. Basically in a guys head being smaller than another man means that you are more likely to be inadequate in bed with some women and therefor makes us feel emasculated. In case you haven't noticed the guy mentally tends to fall towards bigger is better for almost everything even not penis size. Things like big TV's, big price tags on cars, big boobs, big guns, big tools and things. At times a guys ability to buy or provide larger more expensive objects makes us feel like we are more able to support and please a woman because we worry about women tiring of us if we aren't good enough at giving her what she wants whether it's a big diamond ring on her finger or pleasing her in bed. We can change jobs and income and save money for physical objects but we cant really change penis size. The media doesn't help either. Things like porn, movies, tv shows, and other things are portray a large penis as a great thing and since alot of guys really enjoy watching both porn and any other kind of tv or movies we are shown from a young age that if you aren't big you aren't exciting to her. Women always ask about why penis size affects men so much but they actually cause a lot of it. I know I've been insecure with my girlfriend at times because when i met her before we started dating she was dating a guy and while hanging out at a coffee shop that all of our friends spend alot of time at she happened to say something along the lines of it being a gift from god kind of thing. The problem is that women don't usually talk to guys about their preferences in size the talk to their girl friends. WE don't hear about the larger sizes being uncomfortable or hurting the girl that often but generally the more publicly vocal girls tend to be the ones that like a larger guy or that complain about a smaller guy. From my own observations the girls that talk about it just out in the open no matter who is around tend to be the girls that enjoy casual sex since most girls aren't going to sit in public and discuss her and her boyfriends sex life and how she connects to him emotionally and physically through it. Instead what we usually hear about it either the more casual girls talking about their preferences and complaining about smaller guys or our own girlfriends trying to comfort us when we feel insecure about it which just makes us feel like their trying to make us feel better about it because we can't help it not because you like the size we are. Instead of comforting a guy your with about it if he askes or mentions that he thinks he's to small try saying something along the lines of "Oh trust me, your more than big enough for me" Not only will it make him feel better about his size but it will probably give him a big of an ego boost that he may need if he's worrying about if he's pleasing you and could possibly make him a little more vigorous in bed since he doesn't have to worry about you being pleased with his penis.
Hope this explains at least a little bit about it but it definitely doesn't cover all of the reason guys care about it.
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 without sounding explicit, its become a personal thing for me. as im introduced to new partners with new penises of course...ive always got the peak penis size floating in the back of my mind and i cant help but compare. i am generally more satisfied with a larger penis, both length and girth. however the crucial crucial things is (without sounding overly cliched)..its not about size, its about how you use it.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (8 January 2009):
 Its all to do with the same reasons women feel self concious. The media dictates that men must have a six pack and be hung like a horse. Look at the underwear posters for men, theres an entire french loaf packed down there.
Porn is probalbly a big reason for mens insecurities aswell. We tend to watch alot more porn at a younger age so its already burried in our heads that bigger is better.
The problem is that men get hard time with it and it starts at a younger age. High Schools have communal changing rooms which are a huge mistake. This leads to those who are maybe a little insecure or less developed being mocked and humiliated. The little insecurity turns into a life long trauma, I remember those days well.
To men a bigger penis is a symbol of masculinity (big point), fertility and being able to satisfy a women.
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reader, here4u! +, writes (8 January 2009):
 dear irritated. all men and all teenage boys are the same when it come to the size of their penis'. they all think that size matters when really, its what they can do with it that matters. they like to think the bigger the better. they say they have 10 inchers to make themselves sound good, and to make themselves feel good about themselves, then half the time there dicks are smaller than our little fingers. i dont understand it myself, but i supose us women just have to deal with it. Erica :)
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