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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My beau has been with 48 women. I have been with less than 1/5 of that. I have never let my partner's past get in the way of the relationship, and I used to never let his past bother me......but he went through a period of 4 months or so where he would tell me that my area-down-there was too 'stretched out' and 'too big' for him and that he couldn't feel me because one of my exes was of another race. He would tell me that I am a wh*re for the number of men who I had chosen to be with and that it was no wonder that he couldn't feel me. It has humiliated and belittled me more than I can express in words...and now his past bothers me and i can't help but to resent him for it.I am trying to get over it, but it has put me into such a sexual slump that I have no drive, I don't find myself attractive anymore, it really took its toll on my self esteem. Help?
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reader, Aech135 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 If I heard a guy talking to his girlfriend like that I probably would kick the crap out of him. Your boyfriend should not be insulting you ever. You can do better than a guy that treats you like shit and you will be much happier in the end if you do. You could try talking to him and telling him how you feel about what he said but he sounds like the kind of guy that isn't willing to listen or change and honestly is probably not worth you wasting your time with.
I've known guys like that and they usually are the self centered type that won't think about your happiness as much as his own personal pleasure. Also since he seems like the abusive type be careful that if you do break up with him to not be in a position where he could physically harm you if he gets mad since he obviously has no regard for your well being. Either have a friend over when you do it or do it somewhere public enough that he won't try anything.
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