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writes:Let me condense this essay worth of a question down to a simple yet truthful question. I started casually dating this man who was not only dry humoured, overly sarcastic and independant but gradually as the relationship progressed; showed many apparent facets, such as insecurity, care and possessiveness. I admit from day one I was aware of his bad reputation and yes alarm bells were raised in my head on a daily basis. Yet this is what I wanted strangely. A bad boy. A beast.After 2 months... casual dating was far gone. It became a passionate, thrilling and most of all thought provoking relationship for the both of us. I loved it, I loved him. He loved it, He loved me. Well thats what I genuinely believed initally. Looking back on what we had, Lust and love were both prime factors. But love in my eyes did conquer lust at the end of the day. Ok. 3 months passed by...He dumps me. His reasons? None. I'm not the type of lass to chase after someone who truely isn't for it nor overanalyse the situation. I fully understood at the time it wasnt working for him. Fair enough, I moved on... although it was extremely tough. 4 months passed by, I get a call. It was him. Saying I was his first love, He is truly still in love with me, he is sorry for not giving me that needed closure at the time, he wants me back, and that he wanted to run back to me the week he dumped me saying it was a mistake. I gave him a second chance and let him walk straight into my life again... for a brief second of course. We slept together and he buggered off. I feel like a fool. I honestly do believe I'll get another call in the next few months from him wanting me back again. I know he's unsure of what he wants but I do know he cares for me. He just carries out his actions and doesn't think of the consequences previous to that alike many. I know I'd give in again, and take him back.. even if it was merely for a little encounter. Like I said before I love him. Tell me I'm a fool please and kick me into the right direction. Love is blind... I feel blind! Help please! x Reply to this Question
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony +, writes (8 January 2009):
UnfinishedSymphony is verified as being by the original poster of the question awww cheers babe!
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reader, loveuxoxo  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 no problem sweetie! and good you are doing the right thing! and you will find someone so much better downt the road. and anyone would be lucky to have u! dont forget that.
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony +, writes (8 January 2009):
UnfinishedSymphony is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys.
I can say for a fact, you both have honestly helped me put things into perspective.
Its just a case of moving on again unfortunately.
Much love,
Linds
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reader, loveuxoxo +, writes (8 January 2009):
hon i really believe that you need to end communication with him and just never take him back. and i know you love him. but he blinds you makes u think he really cares about you but he keeps leaving you. and he might care a little at the time. but you need someone who is consitint and that you know loves you and you wont wake up the next morning with them gone.. and either you deserve so much more then that! this guy is to unstable. and u gave him the second chance and he blew it. now you need to show him he cant always get you back when he wants to you. you need to do this for yourself. cause he isnt good for you. so dont talk to him anymore. or give him the chance to get you back cause he doesnt deserve it! i hope this helps!
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reader, Aech135 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 It sounds like this guy is using you for his own personal pleasure and playing on your emotions to get you to do what he wants. At the moment it sounds like he's a familiar setting for you and therefor easy for you to let back instead of finding something new. I don't think its really him you love as much as the idea of him and he obviously doesn't love you back. Go find a guy that will treat you right and will love you back even if it means getting over the whole bad boy infatuation. It's much more satisfying to be in a relationship where you know your partner loves you. If you aren't the most important thing in his life he's not worth it.
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