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writes:Hey guys, I need some help... it's not for me but I'm really worried for my younger sister, she seems to absolutely obsessed when it comes to guys... she's only 15 and she does everything in her power to so called "pull". I love her so much but am worried she's going to end up being traumatised... she's had it once before.It's now got to a stage where she's lying to my mum and me and is going to far distinations... sometimes areas that she doesn't even know, to meet some of these boys. Today she bunked off school to meet someone that she met four days ago. She's not listening and she is so naive and vulnerable someone is going to take advantage of her on day. Please can someone help in making her understand... I've tried talking to her sooo much... All day yestday I spoke to her and even after that she still went today to meet this guy. Please help me deal with this and fix her up, I'm desprete Reply to this Question
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reader, Aech135  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I agree with the advice everyone has given you. She needs to understand the scary part of this situation and she needs to understand the risks not just of a guy taking advantage of her but the risks of getting an STD or becoming pregnant as well. You might also want to inform your parents about the situation. You may feel like your getting her in trouble and she may get mad about it but if it was my sister I would rather her be safe and made than ignoring me and ending up getting screwed over because of her own bad decisions.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I totally agree with jimmorrison71. I also have a little sister who is 11 and a couple of months ago I caught herself cutting herself. When I asked her why she was doing it, she told me she was an emo in school and that she has to cut to be taken seriously. I tried and tried to talk her out of it but to no avail (she's already a teenager in her mind anyway who thinks she's never wrong) so me and my boyfriend told her we knew a girl in school who used to cut herself and cut too deep and ended up dying. It was fabrication but it worked and she hasn't done it since.
You know what your sister is doing is dangerous, just like I did. I think its a big sister duty to sort it out and if you feel its getting out of control tell your parents. Your sister might not understand right now but she will in the end.
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 You've probably heard this from several people before...But shes going through that "phase".
Its like an addiction. Giving her that tad bit of confidence boost all girls crave (exp at her age), meeting new people, the fascination to experience alot of things from an early age...ect ect. My younger sister is 15. Shes going through exactly the same thing. Its like she wither wants to grow up majorly fast and catch up to me...or constantly have that quick fix by pulling some randomer? Boy or girl..it doesnt seem to matter to her. Whatever anyone says, she'll be oblivious to it. Shes finding out about herself at the moment and won't let anyone get in her way...even including her love ones. I completely know how your feeling. It definitely left a rough patch on mine and her sisterly bond for some time; as it was blatent to me that what she was doing wasn't the norm..however it was blatent to her what she was doing was fun. I was really worried for my sister. For her own safety, her wellbeing and additionally hating the fact others would portray her differently to what she is as a person. Give her some time. Trust me hun
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