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writes:So I began talking to this girl online about 2 weeks ago. We were both on free social networking site geared towards dating. She messaged me and we spent about 4-5 hours messaging back and forth the first night. Same thing the second night before she gave me her phone number. We started texting and she eventually called me that night and we talked for a few hours. The next few days were full of texting and long (4-6 hour) conversations. I went of vacation for a week and would text her all day and talk to her a few times a day for about an hour or so.She asked when we would meet (we live about 50 miles from each other) and I replied this upcoming weekend. She wanted to call it an 'outing' and not a 'date' which is fine with me. As this weekend gets closer, she has now called it a date because of pressure from her friends and how much she says she likes me. Also, she has expressed feelings of great nervousness about actually meeting and fear that we won't click in person.We know what each other looks like, but still haven't met, and yet we both really like each other which is evident by the more than 4000 texts and 20 hours of phone calls in the 2 weeks we've been talking. I am just wondering if there is anything I can say to her to make her feel more comfortable about meeting me or anything I can do while on the date that will make her feel more comfortable. I, too, am nervous, but I don't think it's beyond the normal first date jitters. We just really like each other already and she is afraid something will change when we meet. I tell her that if we established a connection with texting and talking, then seeing each other is just a formality and we already click.Any advice for me/her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): My advice - just go and enjoy yourself - be yourself and dont worry!! I bet the minute you see each other, the nervousness should disappear.
I had exactly the same thing happen to me - and as he made the 4 hour drive to where I live, I felt completely nauceous with butterlfies in my tummy - both my mum and cousin were laughing as they stayed on the phone to keep me company while i waited to meet him. He arrived, the nervousness disappeared immediately. This was about 4 weeks ago, we have since spent 3 days over New Years together and 2 more visits planned. I dont know what will happen from here, but its the best risk I have ever taken in my life (I had never met anyone from the net before and never thought it possible to).
Have a brilliant time :-)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Call it an outing or a date, it's just a word:)
Relax and be yourself. If there is something you remember she likes to do ( going bowling, horseback riding.. what not, then try and plan something like that.
But most of all, don't forget she is going to be nervous JUST like you.
One thing is texting and IM'ing another thing is the physical chemistry. It's either there or not.
Have fun.
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reader, Aech135 +, writes (9 January 2009):
 just be the same guy she likes on the phone and everything should go smoothly. be a gentleman and make her comfortable by being nice to her and i'm sure after the initial excitement of meeting you she'll be able to relax a little and have a good time. sounds like she's very excited.
Good luck, hope everything goes well and you two enjoy yourselves =)
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