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writes:Liz in troubleI am 21... and my very old friend told me that he likes me... he's a great friend and I sort of like him too but he's going out with this other friend of mine called T... All three of us are together since junior high... I am in a confused state... I can't face T cuz I keep getting guilt attacks and I wanna be with this guy... we both just got a spark and every one notices it too... T often gets jealous... she dissed me as well.. I am keeping a low profile but I wanna be with this guy and I dont wanna lose a good friend.. what the hell do I do..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): NO WAY! Chicks over dicks, sorry. Not worth losing your friend. By the way dating a best friends ex isn't cool either.
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 If T was being docile about it, and supportive; I'd say just wait. Don't interfere with their relationship; however she right away took to the offensive, disregarding your friendship. Whether you pursue him or not, it's a friendship that's already been lost; potentially at least.
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reader, 88jane  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 oooh youve got yourself in a right muddle here!! ok, well if the guy you like is in a relationship, regardless of whether the girl is your friend or not, it would be wrong to pursue him! it would be considered cheating and this is wrong as im sure you know!
it is not fair for him to start flirting with you if he knows you like him but hes in a relationship!!
now, if he did leave his girlfriend for you then you would no longer be considered cheating if you got with him but the other thing to consider is..how would your friend feel knowing that her man has left her to be with you, one of her friends!! if she had ditched him cos she no longer wanted him then thats a different story but if she still cares for him then i think as a friend you have a duty not to persue him because you could lose her as a friend that way!
think about how you would feel if you were in her shoes and that happened to you! how would you feel??
its up to you what you decide to do but my advice would be, if you want to keep your friend then stay clear of him!!
good luck hunni!
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reader, cheerycharlie +, writes (31 August 2007):
 you need to make a big decision... friend orboyfriend?.in my opinion friendships are always more important than boyfriends because you no that friends are there forever and most boyfriends arn't. if you diobay this rule you could end up losing both! your friend T will most likly be acting funny is she is noticing this relationship between you and her boyfriend as you sed evri 1 else is..she will be upset f she has known you for a long time and you do this to her and will go through alot of emotional stress wiv knowing you both so long.
did you ever think that you could be losing this man a friend because if you split up over difficultys you mite not be as close friends wiv him either? consider this
all the best XxXxXx
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