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*aryannparker
writes:What is he thinking? Please analyze this with me and offer your opinions and suggestions. Thank you!I met a man who is ten years older than me (I am 25 years old) on an internet network about four months ago. We have been exchanging emails since then about every day/ every other day, unless one is out of town. We have also chatted on the messenger, even more recently. He even gave me his cell number and told me I could text him if I feel like chatting. Our conversations have been intriguing and fascinating, as we both connect at a deep, intellectual, and emotional level, just like soulmates. He has told me that he is impressed with my mental maturity and enjoys our conversations. We are able to learn from each other and exchange thoughts and ideas. The tricky part is: I don't know what is on his mind-does he want something more than a friendship with me? He has my number but never called. He lives 20 mins away from me but never initiates to meet in person. He is straight, loves children, single, available, and confident. We have exchanged pictures. What should or can I do? Thanks!
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (16 September 2007):
As paranoid as 88jane's post seems those are always chances. Online dating isn't the good idea it seems to be. A lot of people that are on there end up there because they can't handle a relationship and thinks this will save them part of the process of going out and meeting people. And it does, but what about after you've made contact? It is the same game from there.
That being said though, no one really knows the rules. He might just be wondering when it is okay to call a person he never physically met before. The thing is, he was on that site too and you can only assume that he's on there for the same reason you are. Perhaps he met more than one person on there and is figuring out who his future lies with.
If you've got what you feel is a great connection, the only way to know for sure is to try it out. So you'll have to initiate it if he does not.
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reader, 88jane  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 ok well first of all i have to say that it is very risky ro meet someone from the internet--although it can sometimes work out, there is always the risk that the person you are talking to may not be who they say they are! you may have exchanged pictures but there is no telling that the things he has told you are true! if you do meet then be extremely careful, and i suggest meeting him with a group of friends in a very public place---just dont go alone!
ok now to interpret the situation---the reason he may not want to meet or call is because he could be lying about his identity!!
or,he may be scared to meet because he could be worried that you are not who you say to be!
i think if you really want to meet him then you should initiate it! if he agrees then go for it but be safe! if not then i would certainly think that he is lying about his identity and i would stop contact with him!
good luck hunny! i hope it works out-----be safe!!
xxx
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