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writes:what does the girl do in sex? i am a virgin but am thinking about having sex woth my bf of 15 months. We are both virgins so he's not sure either but what does the girl do in sex?? do i jst lay there or do i hav to move or what? obviously i am going to be cuddling in close with my boyfriend and creating a more meaningful time but what do i do about the physical 'sex'?? any advise? thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Ok so I am 15 almost 16. I went through a really tough time last year and I was extremely stupid and looked to boys for love instead of God. I thought I was inlove with this boy, he told me all the right stuff..said he never wanted to be with anyone else, talked about marriage (stupid at this age)..said i was the only girl for him and that he never felt this way before..his family loved me my family loved him it was all perfect...I ended up having sex with him.I can tell you this was the biggest mistake of my life. You should wait and save it for your husband, because now I have nothing to give my husband because I gave it to some stupid boy.....please wait and I promise you in the long run you won't regret it..you will have plenty of opportunities in the future..wait till your more mature..because i know i thought i was and I was definitely not ready fro that.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (2 September 2007):
 no i wouldnt say that you are too young to be in love, although i would question how you knew that this was love as you have not had much life experience as someone who was 20!However, although you may feel ready to have sex--the reason why im concerned is because your boyfriend could get into loads of trouble, by this i mean prosecuted and charged for rape! under the age of 16 it is said that you are too young to give your consent to sex and therefore any relations you are involved with will be considered rape, even if you did give your consent! You giving your consent wouldnt help your boyfriend if it went to court! So im not saying it is immature of you to be thinking about and wanting sex but it would be irresponsible to do it before you turn 16! Thats just the law hunny, theres nothing we can do about it!Its up to you what you do just make sure that you are ready when you do it and you use contraception (which im glad to hear you are thinking about for the future!)xxx
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reader, mmmfit1 +, writes (2 September 2007):
Hi Babe,Yeh i agree with everyone else, take it easy on your first sex session. Let ur bf go on top and he should be gentle with you first. Slow thrusts in and out, as it can be painful for both of you. the most important thing is to relax, use a lubricant if you are very tight. after a while he can build up his thrusting to a faster speed. Dont expect fireworks on your first session, but it only gets better from then on. Hope it goes ok and try to enjoy the experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): hi im the person that wrote this question. Just wanted to let everyoone know that we have bouhgt condom and my boyfriend came with me to go on the pill last week. thanks for al your advise so far. Can i ask though..if there is an age limit on sex then does that mean you are saying that i'm too young to be in love. i have had 2 boyfriends before this 1 and they have both bin a few months but not ended up not very well. ive never felt this way before i seem to love him more and more each day and everyday he tells me how special i am to him. I don't need to have sex right now no. But it is something we have discussed for a few months now and i haven't bin pressured at all. He is 16 so he is ok(although i do realise that him haveing sex wih someone younger than 16 can get him into trouble) soo if i am being mature. i hae bin on the pill, got condoms, talked to doctors and will do it in our own time...are you saying that that is still imature behaviour just because of a simple number that is my age?
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reader, Loah +, writes (31 August 2007):
 I agree with the above comments, play it safe sweetheart!
When it comes to what you should be doing during sex, that completely depends on what your comfortable with, chances are its gonna be pretty uncomfortable (for you especially). But keep in mind that first time sex is not mindblowing, nor is it the magical experience youve seen in movies and television. personally my first time is something that ill never forget, simply because we spent more time giggling like idiots and making fun of ourselves for taking it so seriously, thats what made it special! Neither of us had a game plan, we just went with whatever felt right, and even that was a stretch. In closing all I can say is do what comes naturally to you and your partner, dont take it too seriously, but most def use protection, no ifs ands or buts!
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reader, 88jane +, writes (31 August 2007):
ok first of all i have to say that your age says you are 13-15! is that your correct age because if it is then you are not old enough to be having sexual intercourse yet! it would be illegal! wait until you are 16 because that is the legal age of consent in the UK!secondly, before you start having sex make sure that you have contraception. condoms would be the best option for you! you dont want to get pregnant at such a young age!thirdly, make sure that you are ready to be having sex! if you are feeling unsure at all then dont do it...you need to be 100% ready so if you have any doubts then you are not ready!you will be nervous, of course, but take things slow as the first time can be a bit painful or uncomfortable! just let your boyfriend know if it hurts and just take it slow!sex should be fun and once you get used to each others body and how to do things you can start experimenting with positions like you on top! for the first time i would suggest that he goes on top, and instead of lying there like a sack of potatoes you can wrap your legs round his body and rotate your hips, stroke his body..things like that! it will get easier with practice!!hope that advice helps.....BUT dont do it until you are 16 and until you are 100% ready!!take care sweetheart!!xxxxx
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reader, hit-the-road,jack... +, writes (31 August 2007):
yowell like what the other person said, you wanna get your condoms sorted out before hand but its real good that youve bin with him for 15 months n that.anywayswell theres no like "rule" on what position to go in for the first time yeah but the most often used on is missionary - all missionary means is that the girl is laying down and the boy goes on top. alternatively he could lay down and you could go on top, but for your first time you can choose either .basically do whatever seems right and whatever youre comfortable with. that doesnt sound very helpful but when the time comes, itll like flow and go naturallyanother thing id say is dont expect it to be absolutely amazing k?its only your first time, for both of you, and theyll be plenty of time for it to become incrediblealso if at ny point you wanna stop, do, alright?and if you suddenyl wanna back out, say so.i didnt and i wish i had done.if he loves you he wont mind, and if he does mind that hes not worthy of ya anyway
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reader, XXpussycatXX +, writes (31 August 2007):
hya hun...
firstly dont want to preach but have you thought about contreception before you even think about making love to your boyfriend................... well gettin down to the good stuff you only do what you are happy with doing yes you do move around you can go on top or try different positions...... as it is the first time for the two of you, you have got aa lot of getting to knw eachothers bodie and exploring eachother........ this is about all i can say sorry babe
good luck and enjoy x
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